Relationship Q: Any advice?
 

Well having been in a few serious relationships and having carried away some nice emotional scars, I've begun to notice my lack of "feeling". This girl I'm currently dating is starting to get deep emotionally and I simply feel little if anything. Naturally I'm going to slow everything down to avoid fucking her over, but I'm curious how some of you handle this type of deal (I've seen loads of people post about breaking up with the gf and such). How does it work for the rest of you porn miesters?

She will just eventually end up cheating on you anyways.

They all do, they cant help it.

Hurt her before she hurts you.

First bit of advice: Fot the love of all that is Holy, do not ask for relationship advice on this board! Are you nuts?

Second bit of advice: Relationships aren't difficult. Well, yes, they can be, of course... but what to do isn't really a hard one. Just be honest and open... if you feel a certain way, tell her.

lol, Labret's advice is always golden !

this is mainly my problem....i tend to think along these lines toward all women. I rarely post it, but I tend to agree with you quite often Labret.:winkwink:

sad, but probably true

kido concentrate on making money relationships is why the economy is bad

Tell her you want to meet her friends and family.

talk with her.. dine her and hit her and fuck her

Agree with [Labret]....... very sad though

Doesn't matter how honest or open you are.... it just seems to be in their nature to do the exact opposite of what they promise and what they say they want.

You say you've been hurt before? Learn something from that, not that I'm good at that myself. Listen to her, talk to her and try and figure if she is even after the same type of relationship as you but don't get too over attached along the way unless you want to end up hurt again.

Its called getting even after years of oppression.

This is the single most scary series of post replies I have ever seen on a BB anywhere. You guys are some scary fucks.

Relationships aren't about playing it safe.

There are people out there who will take advantage of kindess, the question is who they are. You can be guarded, fine ~ but don't be so distrusting that you don't allow yourself the love of a good woman (if that is what she is). Don't be so afraid of being hurt that you miss out on something really great.

But if you just don't feel strongly about her, let her know before she sets herself up for a heartbreak.

Thats just the thing....I feel nothing. After the last few relationships and becoming an adult webmaster, I've turned off emotional things toward women it would seem. I didn't even notice it until she started that whole thing "When you look into someone's eyes....." and I was thinking "Ooooookey...time to go."

I also find that since starting in this industry, my expectation of a girl (physical & emotional) has become almost rediculous.

How old are you?

:1orglaugh

I don't know man, I just don't know...

Ah...she speaks. :)

I've made it a point to bring things to a verrrry slow pace again. Because she looks to me like she's aching to be heartbroken. But, I'm too nice a guy to do to her what's been done to me.:2 cents:

Heh, I'm the oldest 21yr old alive...believe me.

Sounds like it bro... why not just drop relationships for a while until you're ready and spend your time more wisely making porn? :Graucho

fuck her sister

That is the general plan at the moment...just gotta stay away from the blackjack table.:winkwink:

men never cheat. never lie and never lead a gal on :1orglaugh

serious advice. five words:

"You are not the one"

It's funny. A year ago, people hated Labret so much they wanted to fly to D and kill him. Then there seemd to have been a shit where people forgot how hated he was. Then with a comment like this, it just might send him back to the dark side.

Personally, ( and off the record), I think Labret's advice is funny.

But no to lose face among my peers, on the record, I have to disagree with the advice.


.... by the way, does anyone know what Labret does? (remember I've been off the board for a while)

How can so few words sum up his situation so poignantly?

the only relationships that work out are ones where i see eye to eye with the girl in question. as soon as that's not happening, the whole thing explodes into hellish flames.

since "sexy" is ranked so unfairly high in my perception, seeing eye to eye can be a problem, especially given that i'm attracted to women who are younger and prettier than i am. I'm also attracted to very smart girls. which is also dangerous. they know exactly how to do the most damage, and they're often uselessly competitive.

figuring out what you really want... and then agreeing to be satisfied. it's impossible for me, since i'm always changing.

as for letting them down easy... that's bullshit, unless they're the sort of person who insist on being lied to. just be straight up.

I think paysites?

Tell her you know some famous people, then bring her by my house.

Ahhh yes, those were the days.

The thing is, I am not joking when it comes to my advice. I just call it as I see it.

How many you guys on here have been cheated on?
How many you guys on here had a buddy who been cheated on?
How many guy on here slept with a girl who had a boyfriend?

Women are pathetic. The lowest fucking form of life on Earth. To allow them to have some sort of emotional stranglehold over you is weakness on your part. The plain and simple fact of the matter is women cheat. Period. All they crave is attention, and they will largely fuck anyone who gives them the attention their fragile pathetic little egos need. You have all seen it happen.

And then the delusional kunts will justify it. Women can justify ANYTHING. Women will fuck your best friend and then blame it on you.

You are a men for fucks sake. You are the stronger of the species, fucking act like it.

You have 200K years of sapien evolution that prove you are superior.

The ONLY rights women have, are the ones that men allow them to have.

Talk all the shit you want about Afghanistan, but their women are in the position that most women have held throughout history. That fact cannot even be debated. And dont spout off about some small matriarchy on a South Pacific Island, I will laugh and call you ignorant.

Many cultures do not even feel the need to educate those that do not contribute.

What is a womans biological function?

Calfing kids and raising them. THATS IT. Another point that cannot be argued.

Men provide. And that requires an education and skills.

Women are NOT your equal. Never have been and never will be. You have bought into a bunch of liberal horse shit.

Treat them as your inferior because they are inferior.

I am not saying disrespect them. Respect those that respect you.
Women have no respect, none. So treat them accordingly.

Women are only your equal because the law says so. Science tells a completely different story.

Dont fall victim to their bullshit.

Again, hurt her before she hurts you. You know its coming.

Paysites.

This could get interesting...

Nobody will reply because you cannot argue with the truth.

I am sure some pathetic woman will scratch at her keyboard and say something about how I have a small cock, or she bets I dont get laid, or they have never cheated, yada yada yada. But none of them will be able to debate the simple truth put forth.

And I am sure there will be one sensitive 90s man who will jump on and try and be a hero. Somehow thinking that his chivalry will result in more cybersex with Cheshire or Nina.

Wrongo slapdick, you are the guy who will be the eternal friend.

So save yourself some breath sensitive man. You are one zima away from being a full fledge bitch.

1) Yep I'm one. Out of three serious relationships, it's happened three times. Just split up with my partner in May, and I was considerably shocked to find out what had been going on as I really thought she was the *one* for me.

2) Yep. Would say, at a guess, at least 7 maybe 8 of my friends have been cheated on that I personally know of.

3) Yep, done that too. Never said I was an angel, but only slept with a girl under the impression it was over between her and her boyfriend. Only later, do you find out different.

It's pretty hard thinking it won't happen again and the next one will be different......

It wont.

So what in that says it's the woman's fault, exactly and exclusively? In each of these cases the women are fucking men who also have a choice. Cheating assholes come in pairs.

I actually believe that the desire to cheat is an evolutionary inevitability that can be suppressed (but only at the cost of human nature). We're all autonomous swarms of agents looking out for our selfish genetic future.

I don't know, some rare couples dance better than others. We don't mate like eagles, that's for fucking sure. Can't think of any other species with monthly estrus.

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Mmmmmm looks tasty eh fnet?

Labret, if you're at the Vegas show, I'd love to buy you a beer..

Something manly like Guiness or Beamish Stout. Your posts on this subject always make me laugh. I'm not disagreeing either. ;>

Cheers,
Backov

Don't know, never had one. The pubs around Boston serve an excellent guinness. I do drink fruity ass belgian ales once in awhile, maybe that makes me a girly man in your book. they're still the best fucking beer in the world. Some people will rate boxing and weightlifting over kung fu and marathoning, and hate bruce lee because his first name is bruce. but whatever. if you wanna say i'm not a man because i take my own position... go ahead. disagreeing with you doesn't mean i agree with the opposite.

Don't even pretend to know who I am [Labret], because I can tell you don't like to be wrong.

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Whatever it was, I bet it was "deep".

Ahh the human condition -- I love it!

Well I feel you man -- when I was in high school shit I was a brooding romeo -- spending my days and nights in pools of emotional drool over some random chick... It seem to feel less and less each year until lately... But it's not just you man -- this is men in general -- we can detach our feelings a lot easier -- and women hate us for it...

You want to feel that emotion for her? Smoke some weed -- seriously. That'll get you feeling like you're human again. Stay off GFY -- listen to some depressing classical music -- walk in the rain -- read some depressing novel -- drink in the darkest pub you can find -- read some old love letters... If you still feel nothing for the girl -- fuck she's not the one... Damn you should already know if she's right for you or not.

Just don't blow it by being honest -- that's the stupidest fucking advice... If there's one thing I learned -- you got to make the girl feel special no matter what -- if you let her know you have doubts or if you even suggest SLIGHTLY that you are interested in other girls besides or -- or if you SLIGHTLY suggest that you may not be with her FOREVER -- you are FUCKED... If she doesn't feel like she's the ONE -- then you might as well tell her to piss off... Don't even compare her to a celebrity or say that she reminds you of anyone else... She's 100% fucking original. Charm her to death even if it's all a lie... at least lie to her until you know for sure how you feel abour her. You don't sound too sure to me... Sounds to me you're just kindof detached -- but she may not be the reason you feel detached.

Maybe tell her you feel detached in general and you want her to help you feel alive again. That may work in your favor ;)

Or maybe Labret is right and I just have the urge of doom to populate the earth... one night stand at a time.

hahaha ~ you so obviously read what I said... I would have thought you were above playing schoolyard games numbnut.

Good points FLY

Just where do you guys go to find a gal.
I've got a good man and would never consider cheating on him. Did not do it with my ex and tossed his ass out when he did. And if you are just noticing your gal is getting too deep for you
you are probably too late to do anything except
dump her if you don't feel the same. She's already
to far gone to keep from hurting her pretty bad.

As for the rest of you guys, do your women do things for you because they want to? Does it make them feel good to do them? It should. Relationships are hard work but the payoffs are great.