I really have alot of respect for single moms - Rant Kinda -
 

If any of you are, I just witnessed how hard it is to meet guys to be serious and consider relationships.

I was out at the burrito shop here where I live in L.A. and I saw this young woman, maybe like 25 years old. Beautiful, so my type, in tow with a 4 year old I'd guess. No problem so far. She's obviously latin, dressed well, saw her get out of a nice car, etc, etc. Anyhow, I'm interested, I have no issues with kids.

We start to chat in the line at the burrito place and right away there is chemistry. Sometimes it just happens. So we are talking and through our conversation in line waiting for some bomb ass burritos I learn she has an Ex. Well duh! Otherwise, how did you get that 4 year old right?

So anyhow, we talk more and she tells me how the Ex is still always around because of the little boy and that they split because he is abusive mentally and physically. She then goes into how hard it is to date and take things seriously with other guys because of it. Red Flags go up, and HIGH! I'm still not completely disinterested, but I am growing more concerned and the chemistry starts to wear off a little as the thoughts of the abusive Ex with a bat at my front door run through my mind.

By this time we have both ordered and are waiting for our food when the door to the shop opens and in walks the biggest shithead asshole attitude carrying thug punk I've ever seen. He immediately starts cussing at her to hurry up and whats taking her so long and blah blah blah. She looks at me like "See what I mean?"

What a mental prison that must be to have to deal with that fucker all the time because you share a child with someone. What's really unfortunate is I am a super easy going guy who doesn't mind the child part, but I'll be damned if I would deal with that fucker messin up the mental side of her should a future hold anything.

Before the dirtball came in I almost asked her for her number because she seemed really cool and like someone I'd not mind getting to know better. She obviously had a good job because she said she came from a law firm or something, dressed well, was well mannered, but was completely sunk by the 160lb turd idiot that obviously took pride in pushing her around.

Thats why I feel for her. She is obviously dealing with his shit because of the little boy, but at the same time destroying her own chances of ever meeting a quality guy. Quality guys won't deal with that shit or even be within 100 miles of it.

I left by saying to "Have a good night and good luck."

I know all single moms don't have that issue, but alot do keep the dad in their life. I really felt bad for her as I was driving home.

:2 cents:

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Invite her ex over for a cyanide cocktail :thumbsup

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

Plant some coke on him and call the cops

OMG, don't even get me started with EX-husband (iow-my baby's daddy) issues... wtf do people think that bc the relationship is over they have to be asses? We should all get along, more so after the relationship is over "for the kids sake." I don't believe in staying in a relationship bc of the kid, but there should be adjustments made for the child's sake to spare him/her from the problems of the parents.

p.s. Air3k, hit me up! I'm back in Cali!

i'm a single mom. it suck-iolas. luckly my little girl is a 4 legged fur ball pomeranian tee hee good seeing you the other night and thank you for the hospitality.

I hate guys like that

uh, what, you think he was a prize before the 4 yr old came along?
she was too stupid to run when she met him and too stupid to keep her legs closed thinking it would make it better. Don't pitty her, pitty the kid with the stupid mother and abusive father.

okie dokie! :thumbsup

Do I owe you child support?

no thank you for the hospitality!!!!!!!

i am gonna take you and mason to dinner for the metal school hospitaity. :)

are you guys still in town?

thats def a different perspective. mayne he was a cameleon. showed diff colors after. no idea. seems that the hotter the girl, the bigger the assholes they date.

probably harms the child more than it helps to have an abusive dad in their lives. people have to live with the shitty decisions they make i guess.

agreed. i think they hate to cut off the kid from the daddy part.

being a single mom is not that bad .... You just have to take control of your like...

yuppers we are still in town babe we're here till sunday. shoot me an icq or call me.
we are going to a bar tonight no more lcubs for us we are broken from them. hehe tomorrow we are doing knotts scarey farm u should come :P

yey i will so go to that. my friend runs that thing.

a1r3k, you are a sweety... not too many guys would be ok dating a girl with a child. You are a really nice guy.

I understand where you're coming from, but you also have to ask yourself "why was she with this guy to begin with?" Odds are very high that he was always like that, meaning at some point she was ok with that. So she was ok with being mentally abused... two peas in a pod.

This guy could have been nice when they were together. Some guys and girls turn phyco once you split up with them. I have seen it a few times and it is some scary shit.

Cliff notes please

Why didn't you lay down the smack on that punk and sent him packing

Call me weird but I actually thrive on that situation. Who doesn't need an idiot to take their frustrations out on? I'd still get her number and if it got more serious make it my mission to fuck his world up without violence. Video cameras work wonders and if not there are lots of other fun things one can do.

My parents divorced when I was 5. My mom, brother and I moved 1000 miles away from where my dad was (not to get away from him, just to leave the nasty LA area) my dad was never around, he didn't care to be a father and to me he was a birthday card and a couple of phone calls a year. My mom worked her ass off to support my brother and I. She probably could have gone on welfare and shit like that, but she refused to set that kind of an example and she worked two jobs sometimes and worked jobs she hated to provide for us. I can honestly that I think my mom probably went out on 3 dates from the time I was 5 until I was 18. She instilled a strong work ethic in both of us and now that I'm an adult and see what she did for us I really admire her.

If the girl A1R3K met truly wanted to she could get that guy mostly out of her life, but is sounds like, for some reason she agrees to keep him in it.

yeah i dont know her full deal, just knew her for like 12 minutes.

Well, I guess you'll be on that place more frequent than before now.. Good luck and get her number next time. :)

I heard Dr. Phil say, it's better to come from a broken home, than live in a broke home. Sounds like she may never get rid of him.

If you were my son< I would say stay away from that issue.Her and the kid are no problem, but he sounds like a guy that would do anything to keep controlling her.

yeah im sure its not the best idea to date a woman that keep her ex so close to her life. You could ask her phone number right after her ex came maybe it could get more interesting and she would respect you for doing this... :)

I'll never seriously date any woman with a kid... fuck that and all that drama

you live in l.a. so you should be listening to tom lykes on 97.1 fm between 3-7pm. DONT DATE CHICKS WITH KIDS

I think being a single mother is one of the hardest things in the world to do and one of the most rewarding. Some of the best moms I know are single moms. Always a hard thing to do is deal with the ex.

such mothers are really dedicated to thier kids.:thumbsup

I agree with you 1000% bro. Single moms do not have it easy. Personally, I actually applaud the ones that have kids. They obviously did the right thing and accepted there responsibilities and kept the child. For me it is a turn on for single moms and I do not and never would discriminate a woman because they have a child. If there was a connection, I would be with them. And as you do, I feel for them for having to put up with ex husbands that treat them in any manner that is not right. Here is to single moms!


Mr. Romance

lol... any hot chick is a turn on for you!!!!

but still, there is a lot of drama attached to a kid and its not always best to be around it.. babby's daddy can always pull a freak move on you... if you have to fuck them, pump 'em and dump 'em dont date them

haha thats funny cuz i do listen to his show regularly. :1orglaugh :1orglaugh :thumbsup


i just felt bad for her. maybe i'm too nice.

Being s single mom is indeed a very tough test to a woman's personality.

and that my friends is ROMANCE.

I did man, I really felt for her. She was really cool, but there she was empty and broken when asshole came through the door. kids = not that big a deal. asshole ex = deal breaker.

LOL. T you do speak the truth though.

LOL. T you do speak the truth though.

I'm in a situation like that, but I keep the ex out of our lives.
I am lucky to have my son and don't regret being a single mom.
Sure its hard, but looking at him smile makes it all worth it at the end of the day.

try being a single dad of 2 under 6 year olds.

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