What the fuck?????
 

I have a good friend of mine that cant pay for dentist wich he realy need.

I offered him to lend him the money so he can go.

His reply: I dont want your pity.

WTF???? I know this guy forever.

:mad: I dont understand. :helpme

he dont want your pity.

Respect him, or you are a bad friend

He feels insecure that he doesnt have money.

Where's the pity???

For me it's like he have a nail to hammer with only one hand and i offer him to keep the nail in place while he do the job.

What are friends for?

Well he to proud to take money from you.Does he maybe been in army?

Explina it to hiim again...he's probably a little pissed at everything right now.

No, never been.

Refusing help from a friend cause he is to proud sound right but now i'm feeling bad about offering it to him.

you are an asshole, how could you do that to him man?

trying to show how much more $ you have then him and all, i mean OMG.

lend him the cash but demand he pays it back soon!

he feels insecure simply because he doesnt have any money...

anyone would

He is proud, tell him he can pay you back, for its a 'loan'

ask em which tooth hurts n punch'em one

you are an asshole and a bad friend.

:2 cents:

dude, you basically just reminded him that he has fucked up teeth and he is poor...

if you can afford it, just make an appt for him.. take him there and say "hey man, its on me"...

thats what bro's do for each other...

if he cant afford to go in the first place, he probably cant afford to pay back a loan....

He is the one who remind me he have fucked up teeth everytime i ask him to go out.

There is no deadline for him to pay back the loan.

I was presuming that feeling bad having bad teeth would be greater then feeling bad owning money.

Anyway i'm done with this thread, i have hard time seing some calling me an asshole trying to help a friend.

just trying to help....

just get him a pair of these:

http://www.drbukk.com/imako/imako.html

You can tell him he has to pay it back within a specific time frame + interest. Yeah, you don't wanna be a dick to him but a lot of people are like that when it comes to money. Most of my friends here in the South won't take any 'charity' in any form or fashion, their 'honor' prevents them from doing such.

Well, I can understand him... I wouldn't take money too... this is a matter of honor... I would be happy that you want to help me but I would refuse to take the money

He probably doesn't like owing people money and has too much pride.

Why not just give him the money. Not loan. Give.
If you can't afford to lose it than don't offer to loan it.
If he does not pay it back you will most likely no longer be friends or will at least sour your relationship.

Have you ever borrrowed money from a friend when you were flat broke?
I did once, I was flat broke and borrowed $200 with easy terms.
Guess what that loan payment was low on the priority list.
Yes I paid it back but it was not something I would do again.

Your friend may have had a similar experience and does not want to risk your friendship.

Even if you do just give him the money he may not want to feel like he always owes you so either way it puts him in a bad position.

make him understand that it's not pity you're showing him..
it's concern and friendship, for pete's sake!
seems like he's having some insecurity or self pity stuff..

slap him, tell him to shut the fuck up, and take the damn money... you're being a great friend offering to help him... honor is for pussies, you're doing what friends are for, helping out when in need :2 cents:

The pain will surely make him eat his fucking pride.

he is not your friend !!!

That's how he was brought up. Do not try it for the second time or you're gonna lose your friend.

dude, you did the right thing....i would be happy to have a friend like you.....his theeth not getting better, so it was nice of you to offer him money to get them fixed, just make him understand, that he has to get them done right away and that's why you wanna help him out

no offence but yor friend is an idiot, there's only one thing you should know in life:

"even if its a pile of shit, as long as its free - take it"

thats what fucking pride is all about...

"The night of the fight, you may feel a slight sting. That's pride fucking with you. Fuck pride. Pride only hurts, it never helps."

http://people.bu.edu/bebra/rhames.JPG