Can kids from disfunctional families grow up to have healthy, lasting marriges?
 

I now its possible. However, it seems that if you were raised in a disfunctional household (Not talking about kids who grew up with a single parent from a very young age) your odds of having a healthy, lasting marriage are slim to none. Comments?

why not? as long as you are raised right.

I think you missed the question.

= Not raised right... :winkwink:

Are there actually kids who were not raised in disfuntional families?

only if you're a weak minded person

I grew up with 2 divorces, parents (if you could call them that) were alcoholics and very abusive. I left home at 16 because I couldnt stand to be in that situation anymore.

My marriage is as happy as can be. Got a beautiful wife and a great 7 year old son, nice home, nice vehicles, and a happy dog. I dont drink and I treat my family the same way that I want to be treated. It works great.

Those people that come from fucked up backgrounds and then have fucked up relationships just never grew enough brain cells to recognize why thier life is fucked up and they cant fix it (or dont want to)

i stand corrected :) let me rephrase that "as long as you learned how to correct what your family has done wrong and not doing it in the future" a man's world doesn't revolve around his family, he can learn from friends, other relatives, even neighbors.

My mom was raised in a very dysfunctional family (her dad sexually abused her for 15 years). Her and dad have been married over 51 years now and are still very much in love. In contrast to that only one of their 5 kids has never been divorced (he just celebrated 25 years of marriage) even though we were all brought up in a loving home with good values and lots of opportunities.

damn what up with gfy making double posts

Lasting, yes, Healthy maybe.

Both? I think it's rare.

I grew up in one. I wont go into detail, but I know its made me a better person. I decided at a very young age to not be like them and not make any of the mistakes they made. Both parents are high school drop outs and pot smokers. I graduated high school and went onto a 4 year university and graduated. My brother is a whole different story. He got really fucked up over all of it. Now he is disfunctional himself. I guess it really depends on the child. I had goals and ambitions and had a lot of friends who were in normal families. My brother had no real goals or ambitions and all his friends were high school drop outs that cared more about how far away people could hear the bass from their car than they did about handling their personal biz. Just take a look at the children. If they have attitude problems, doing bad in school, and have friends who are fucking up too.... then you can be assured that the disfunctional family is a big cause.

thats like asking if 2 gay parents raise their child, will he/she become gay...

honestly, I was born into a shattered family and doubt I'll ever get married, I'm stable don't get me wrong but just the thought of marriage freaks me out, not sure if that has anything to do with it or not, but maybe that will help with your question...