7 weeks till marriage and scared shitless
 

Yes I love her. Yes I wanna spend the rest of my life with her. Yes I want to marry her.
......................................but.....im getting more and more nervous. Anyone here stood before me?

dont be nervouse, just think of the good things, you are going to wake up for the rest of you life and see the same old person, you cant fuck around anymore and have to change dipers, hey it's all good :winkwink:

dont mean to burst your bubble, but pls do save a screenie of what you just said, and i will give you $500 if you feel the same way in 4 years.... pending 160$ polygraph in necessary, ill cover it =)

Marriage is suicide.

Trust me from experience - its not so bad - by the 3rd time you'll get it right :thumbsup

I seem to have been the opposite to many. Non-marriage was crap but marriage has been good. Depends on who you marry I suppose though. Had I married either of the last 2 insane bitches.....

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I'm insane too......................

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I'm a chick and I'd be scared shitless if I were you. :zzwhip

I'm 28 and have been with my wife for over 11 and a half years now, we just got married 2 years ago. I felt kinda nervous, but I loved the woman and thought that nothing could go wrong since we've already been through just about everything that a couple could go through going through our 16-28 years of our lives. If we survived those years, then there must be something here, ha ha ha.

It's not bad being married, it's actually good. As with everything, it has it's ups and downs. Once you start having a few kids, you'll be doing fine :) It's just hard to believe that I have 3 kids, I never picture myself like that, he he he.

I have a couple of buddies that are 29 and they don't even have a stable woman in their life. They'd love to be in my shoes with a full family. Go for the wife while you can :)

Don't be scared, marriage is a beautiful thing ;)

What's the worst that can happen?

~~Alli

Well I'm scared to get married as well.
My girlfriend is Chinese and 95% of her family does not speak any English and 100% of my family does not speak Cantonese.
Won't this be fun to work around. :(

Since I just posted this, has anyone here ever married someone whos family does not know English?
If so, what the heck did you do about the wedding/reception?

For starters, she can fuck all of his friends and take half of everything he owns. I'm no expert, but I hear that happens from time to time.

Ahhh just live in sin, it's more fun that way:Graucho It's worked just fine for my girl & I for 10 years now

I just got married 9 days ago, so I'm a lousy source - still in the blissful newlywed stage :thumbsup

Actually, I've been with my gal for almost 4 years - figured if we made it that long without strangling each other, we'd be OK for the future. I think the main thing to remember is that it isn't supposed to a completely smooth road; you'll fight, scrap and scratch, no matter how good a pair you are. That's just the nature of the beast. The only real question is this; is the love you feel for her (and vice versa) worth the risk that things might not work out, and worth all the pain that goes with it? In my case, the answer was a resounding "HELL YEAH!"

If you find the same answer when you search your heart, that's all you can ask for in terms of assurance.

If a guy is oblivious and let's that happen then he deserves it. Just my :2 cents:

~~Alli

You don't have to be married for that to happen...lol

I got married at the Internext show In Vegas in January...and all it has done is make things better...and I'm not just saying that 'cause my wife posts here too..

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Riiiiiight.

You can trust women about as far as you can dropkick them.

I just came from the lawyer today to have my separation drawn up. If you're going to get married, be sure to have a prenuptial agreement and have it signed at least two months before the actual wedding date.

Plus my wife blabbed all of my business about me selling porn to my MAMA and that is a no-no that will never be forgiven. Unless I have a wife like Kara Davis, who will suck my dick on camera so we can both get paid, I'll NEVER get married again.

You'll do fine if you remember these things. ....
-She will be your wife, but not your property..

-She will still be her own person, with her own feelings and opinions...

-Her emotions are, and will be important to her, so even if they aren't important to you, the fact that they are important to her is what should be important to you. ....

-Communication is a crucial factor in a successful marriage...

-Never ever ever argue in front of the kids.

-Don't just hear what she says - listen to what she says.

-Never always try to be right.

-Never criticize - approach any situation with support and if you don't know what to say or do because you don't understand a given situation, just ask her to help you to understand.

-If she's right in a heated discussion, don't let anger deny her the right to be right.

-If you mess up, don't make excuses- own up to it, apologize for it, and learn from it.

-Always remain friends. It started that way, and should continue that way.

and it is wayyy past time for me to shut the Hell up.. :)

I have been there. I called my wedding off three weeks before. Total cold feet. In the end it was actually the best decision of my life. She was a bible thumper and me... well here I am we will leave it at that. Nerves are part of it... If you are nervous... Go have a beer with your pops or her dad. Get shit done but relax! And just think... This is the hard part. Trying calling it off and having an irrate father threaten to kill you.

No doubt. Not all families are cool with lesbian marriages nowadays.

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you forgot one thing....

Every once in a while you gotta get your balls out of her purse, and go to a strip club...

Just smile and nod alot:winkwink:

You'll do fine if you remember these things. ....
-She will be your wife, but not your property..

-She will still be her own person, with her own feelings and opinions...

-Her emotions are, and will be important to her, so even if they aren't important to you, the fact that they are important to her is what should be important to you. ....

-Communication is a crucial factor in a successful marriage...

-Never ever ever argue in front of the kids.

-Don't just hear what she says - listen to what she says.

-Never always try to be right.

-Never criticize - approach any situation with support and if you don't know what to say or do because you don't understand a given situation, just ask her to help you to understand.

-If she's right in a heated discussion, don't let anger deny her the right to be right.

-If you mess up, don't make excuses- own up to it, apologize for it, and learn from it.

-Always remain friends. It started that way, and should continue that way.

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very well said,, too bad I couldnt hear "Buck Naked" say that with a aussie accent with it:Graucho

Oh yeh.. I forgot that one..

- Each of you must have your own time to yourself to do things that you enjoy that your spouse has no interest in. Don't expect each other to share ALL interests.

Thought I'd keep it consistent with my list.. :)

2 words...pre nup!

she can have the computer, but the galleries are mine!

I was with my first wife for four years. Got married when I was 20 and she was 18 and 4 months pregnant. I wanted out the day we came back from our honeymoon but stayed with her for four years before finally getting up the nerve to call it quits.

I went a few years playing in bands, screwing around, etc. when I met a girl at a club that struck me in a totally different way then anyone else I'd ever met. I told her over and over that I wanted nothing to do with a relationship, but after a long while of just being friends I realized I was fooling myself and that I honestly couldn't be without her.

We got married three years ago, have three kids (my daughter from first marriage, her son from previous marriage, and our daughter together). We both work together all day, and we hang out together at night. She is quite simply the cat's pajamas.

I don't like to go a day without her. When I have to, I miss her.

If you feel the same about your girl, then marriage is awesome. If not, then ask yourself why. Wanting to spend the rest of your life with her is great, but remember that your life is really made up of individual days. A lot of them! If you can take each of these days, one at a time, and relish the thought of spending them with her, then you are all set.

Good luck.

Jak

ROFL :1orglaugh

its good to be a little nervous.. you dont know what to expect, but hopefully all will work out..

Good luck

Every guy goes through the nerves...i did..24 years ago..and i am still happily married to her..<first time for both of us>

15 yrs married for me, and I am still happy.
But you are right, you should be scared....shitless
Think about it, 5 mins. to say "I do", and 6 months and a truckload of money to get out of it.

I wish you the best :)

Here, this might help ya - http://love.msn.com/articles/article18.asp :)

When you are dating..... He holds your hand in public.

When you are married ....He flicks your ear in public.

When you are dating..... A Single bed for 2 isn't THAT bad.

When you are married ....A King size bed feels like an army cot.

When you are dating..... He takes you out to have a good time.

When you are married ....He brings home a 6 pack, and says "What are you going to drink?"

When you are dating..... You are turned on at the sight of him naked.

When you are married ....You think to yourself "Was he ALWAYS this hairy????"

When you are dating..... You enjoyed foreplay.

When you are married ....You tell him "If we have sex, will you leave me alone???"

When you are dating..... He hugs you, when he walks by you for no reason.

When you are married ....He grabs your boob any chance he gets.

When you are dating..... You picture the two of you together, growing old together.

When you are married ....You wonder who will die first.

When you are dating..... Just looking at him makes you feel all "mushy."

When you are married ....When you look at him, you want to claw his eyes out.

When you are dating..... He knows what the "hamper" is.

When you are married ....The floor will suffice as a dirty clothes storage area.

When you are dating..... He understands if you "Aren't in the mood."

When you are married ....He says "It's your job."

When you are dating..... He understands that you have "male" friends.

When you are married ....He thinks they are all out to steal you away.

When you are dating..... He likes to "discuss" things.

When you are married ....He develops a "blank" stare.
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Funny but someone sent me that today actually. ;)

hmm that looks like a list of 11 things i thought did nothing to contribute to my failed marraige.... ::scratches head::

Damn...that's a lot more response then i expected. Thanx for replies ppl...It's gonna be a beautifull day, I know for sure. And I guess being nervous isnt a bad thing :)

I'm on my second marriage, but I should of known something was up when I was walking down the ailse saying to myself no I shouldn't do this! My new husband was the best man at my first wedding! I guess they are called best men for a reason :)
But if you can find someone that you can spend 24 hours with working with and not fight they you found your soul mate!

Smurfette

Fuck it...get out NOW before she takes you for everything you have. Trust me, it's not IF, it's WHEN. :feels-hot

Yep, I think this is the way to go.

No hassles, everything seems to run a lot smoother when you don't have the legal bullshit to contend with.

More than just legal BS, I think there's alot of subconscious stuff as well. The "fantasy" of what marriage should be can't live up to reality.

That's a good way to put it. Without the paper, there are no false hopes and expectations to be dashed against the rocks when something inevitably goes awry.