So I got the dreaded phone call...
 

"I'm pregnant". Hmm, I'm shocked.

And now I have this IM on my screen.

Female (10:08:06 PM): now, u sure u want me to end this?
xenigo (10:08:38 PM): yes, let's get our lives in order before we start bringing other people into this world

:disgust

I am very against aborition, my ex had an abortion and it was never the same, we had so many fights ect.

The man goes through nothing in comparison but to a woman it can be devastating even if she thinks it's what she wanted.

Why are you posting this on a message board? C'mon.

I'm taking everything into consideration. My head is spinning.

you think shes really pregnant? you know girls are full of shit sometimes for attention.

GFY has been lacking real content lately. This is pretty real.

Kids can be a wonderful surprise even if you don't think you're ready. In the end it's all on you but I've seen more than one relationship destroyed because they both "decided" it was too early. Like Batts said above things were never the same between them, it's a huge deal.

Personally, I'm not going to judge you one way or the other. I don't know the whole story and I'm not in your situation. You have to do what you think is right. Whatever happens, good luck to the both of you.

Just dont have a break down like I did and post it on gfy.. everything turned out well in the end though. good luck whatever you decide to do =)

I agree completely, I wasn't ready but abortion never even entered my mind. I think alot of people today are to selfish to change their lifestyle to accomodate the results of their actions when they knew the possibilities.

Seems abortion ends up being to much of a quick fix these days but usually just causes more problems in the long run. Thats a piece of you, hell it's a gift, why destroy it?

yeah that's it, murder an innocent child because you're not ready.

What a selfish peiec of trash. Go abort yourselves from this planet

An unexpected pregnancy is very stressful on both parties..in the end, though, ...you both need to decide on the future....it's mutual....this life altering decision....

I have often said it's up to the woman, since she carries the child and her body is in a state of what is considered a healthy disease state, as all systems are forever affected...but you also have to be factored in....your thoughts...

While I am strongly pro choice, I do feel abortions for convenience carry heavy consequences for both parties..

Think hard, hon, and talk to each other...a lot....

Best words of advice - right there. :thumbsup

No matter which decision you make...it'll stay with you forever and sometimes you'll find yourself thinking back on that decision at the most unexpected times.

Think over every consideration with the best wisdom you can summon.

I can relate to you, dude.

Excellent words...also, there are places that offer counseling for free, in order to make an informed decision.....and in a non judgmental way.

Ever considered giving the child up for adoption?

i would say dont do it if the baby is formed, but it its just an egg and get the detached wall thing, just do it

Weren't you the guy who had the license plates that said "ADULT"?

Ironic. :1orglaugh

I'd give my left nut to be able to have a child with my wife.

I'm feeling you there.

My girlfriend, or I should say ex now...just found out she couldn't have more children.

Since she has two of her own, she decided it was best if we split up and I found someone else.

I had no say in the matter. It was over and done with. She thinks she's doing me a favor.

alot of sluts lie about that shit

you forgot
xenigo (10:08:38 PM): from now on let's use birth control.

I can attest to that.


Anyway, it's him who knows his girl very well.

how old are you .. ? you sound old enough to handle it.. dont take the easy way out , the hard way out always turns into the best decision in the end right..

As much as this world DOESN'T need anymore people , i urge you to reconsider..

Abortion. I hate it. Yes, it should be legal. But it always should be a last resort. There is no reason this particular pregnancy should end in abortion. Being scared is not a good reason. Feeling unprepared is not a good reason.

think of it this way , of all the times you didnt use protection , your little ment struggled to accomplish a goal , and now your just gonna take away their accomplishment... maybe your little men will go on strike and stop working so hard because they know even if they win and grab an egg they will just get turfed..

Just remember if you let the child goto term it will be your son or daughter. Try to imagine what your kids might look like, and dont allow yourself to believe the hype of its only a clump of cells. If neither of you want it please consider adoption. :Oh crap Im sure lots of people even some on this board would love to have a newborn baby. :2 cents:

:thumbsup :thumbsup everyone is scared for the first one and nobody is prepared for their first one.. no matter how well they plan..

i'm not against abortion as long as its done for the right reasons and not just because you don't want a baby... if you can't financially support a child then yes i consider that a good cause if you two aren't serious about your relationship than i would say thats another valid reason but to just end the life of a child that you brought into this world because you don't want a baby right now then thats just another story... thats why they have condoms and what not...

good luck xenigo it's definately a rough decision been there done that... but make sure you make the right decision as it was already said it's easier for you to say you don't want the baby but for your girl its a whole other story.. they are the ones that have to go through all the bs physically and emotionally..

:thumbsup

Damn, talking to your girlfriend about having an abortion via IM?

Harsh......

whatever your decision will be, make sure that it's something that you will not regret forever.

I love chatting about serious things via IM. It's very good for communication. You can't interrupt each other with emotions, and you can think a little before speaking and saying something stupid and harmful. Belinda and I sometimes chat via IM even while sitting in the same room.

wow, im pretty surprised at many of the responses in this thread, on this forum. Its called manning up and taking care of your responsibilities, but if you can barely take care of yourself, do the kid, and yourselves a favor and dont bring it to this world. Its just not fair to the child.

thank god for abortion :thumbsup

I think this threads needs a few words of wisdom from a Klik Revenu whore!

very well said, gabriel.

why post this here ? lol its a personal thing. Learn to use condoms

I am very much pro choice; but, I agree with Donny....as a last resort, not the first.

In the end, folks, it's going to be her decision...even if he wants to keep the child and take over......she can abort without him ever knowing.

Dude yer fucked up ya shoulda thought about the consequences b4

:( .......

be thankful you have a choice.

Dude, don't come here for advice. Who gives a shit what the majority of the people on this board have to say when it comes to your lifes personal issues. Deal with your girlfriend and if you need to, some close friends away from the Intraweb. You are being called names because you choose to have her abort, nobody knows the real story as to why you are not ready to have a child. Keep your personal shit personal and off the damn boards, christ, what do you think you are going to get from most of these folks anyway? lol.

I personally can't imagine going the abortion route, but everyone is different. For me it would be a problem because I'd never be able to brush aside the fact over the years and decades to come that the kid should be there.

A few years would pass and I'd think about how he/she would be talking. Several years later how I should be sitting at their little league games. Summer of their would be 18th year I'd think about how I should be at their high school graduation. Stuff like that.

in SOME states.

I don't know if you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth or something, but not all poor people's lives are a living hell. People who grow up in an environment where there isn't a lot of money can be just as happy as the wealthy people down the street.

I was raised by a single mother who was a waitress during the evening hours. The fact is that I am from a situation where some mothers abort their kid.

And no, I don't think I would have been better off dead than not being born at all.

That's being dismissive of a lot of good-hearted, sympathetic and well-intentioned advice that's been said by several people here in this thread. You're only zoning in on the purely negative.

I think he's received some pretty thoughtful responses...there will always be those who name call and are negative, but those are the consequences when one posts a very intimate problem on a public board.

And, many have very strong opinions about this particular subject. I think it's remained pretty civilised, for the most part.

My point is that his personal shit does not belong on a msg board. I'm sure that his girlfriend would be ecstatic that he has come to the GFY community with something so personal as this. If it's support he's looking for there are other forums for this type of thing..GFY isn't one of them IMO. This thread should not be a debate on who is pro and who is not. I am not knocking the comments and statements made by those that have something legit to say, however, I believe that he needs to work this out with his gf.