My friends husband abandoned her!!!
 

They were married for 7 years, she was good to him, she cooked, clean, laundry, ran his errands, paid the bills, managed finances, made galleries, fed his rotating scripts, never denied him sex, she was a good wife.
He actually called her names, and even hit her at times. Finally, he talked her into selling their home, and he kept all the $...gave her 15% of what she was supposed to get. His family was very nosy, imposed a lot, and he told her he needed 10 months to 2 years to think if he wants to be with her!
Now she is out in the world, trying to live, asking him to give her a divorce and what by law is hers and he is just ignoring her. Lat email he sent her said "he paid for her college (which he didn't he paid 3 semesters) and he helped her out for 7 years so he has to cut the umbilical cord!!!
When she met him she was 19, full scholarship to a good college, gave it up for him, went everywhere the military sent him, and supported him as a wife.

What do you guys think she should do?
He is living it up in relatives homes while she has to survive on her own.

They both post here but I haven't seen them on so she asked me to post and ask what you all think.

I know people on this website are somewhat close, and there are some groups on here that are personal friends and all - but why bring personal marriage drama to the boards? Not to be a dick or anything, but is it really in anyones best intrest to start a thread like this on here?

She's better of without him, so it's actually a good think that he left.

Thats pretty fucked up on his part.. What a loser..

She should walk away.

Yeah... it's not any of our business... I honestly feel ashamed reading stuff like this...

She asked me to post it hun, I wouldn't make a post like that unless someone asked.

The first time he hit her should have given her a clue.
Just get a lawyer.

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Marriage isn't easy and it's impossible to really know what goes on behind the scenes....

Good luck to them both. Sounds like it's going to be a little rough.

its sad how people run into idiots like that.

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:1orglaugh j/k

Sucks ass. Hopefully she can recover and get on with her life.

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Can't do that!

She gotta get a lawyer and sort things out

Not having a friend post her personal shit on an adult webmaster forum would be my first suggestion.

No class.

there are always 3 sides to every story

Um hire a divorce lawyer or air it all out here, their call.

wow...well first of all she should have never have given up the college scholarship.... to me that screams "I'm going to college for my Mrs. and now that I have it, I don't need college.".

However, the guy sounds like an ass...BUT we don't know the whole situation here either, only her side of it....so it's difficult to give solid advice. I assume she has a job, right? Does she have no skills with which she can make a living? Sounds like she knows the biz a little...sounds like the first thing she needs to do is just become indepentant and stable on her own.

At any rate, the situation sucks and I hope everything turns out ok for her

Never rely on your spouse for your entire financial security. This is mostly pointed at the women of course, but some men are completely supported by their wives as well. You always have to keep yourself in a position to be able to walk away and live just fine if your relationship goes sour...something my mother taught us growing up.

She ASKED me to post this, please read hun.

post his username so we can flame him for being a dumb fuck.

Seriously, what could or would it accomplish to post it all here? What outcome is she hoping to get?

Public drama between the two?
Shaming of him knowing she has nothing to hide?
Simple minded non thought out retaliation that may/will backfire?
Some sort of donation going?

Amen :thumbsup

She needs to pack her bags and move on. Go back to school, get a degree, what whatever she can to be financially secure she she doesn't have to rely on another person ever again.

Was that part of the premarital agreement? :1orglaugh

I have no clue what she wanted accomplished here she asked me to post and every knows that my first post is way to long for me to have written it.



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so what, people get divorced every day, it's the cool thing to do anymore

Hey I do not blame you. I would also do favors for a friend. Just was curious if there was more thought behind it or not.

Show pics.
My guess is she got fat and he got bored.

oh....

Tomud

Go back to school and start over. Fuck him who cares about it. She obviously saw red flags if he called her names and hit her and she chose to ignore them. The best revenge is to forget. Tell her to move to a new town, start a new life. If she was capable of taking care of a grown child and his abuse she is strong enough to start over. Key thing I would do is hit the gym. Make it my new religion. It will relieve stress, give her more energy and make her feel better. Then go back to school and work hard. If she enjoys school and finds a job she likes then she will enjoy school and work and have fun while doing both. The gym is a big thing. It helps increase positive thoughts and will help her keep her energy level up.

Life is too short! She, from you said, has already given up part of her life to him, why give the rest to him by fighting and chasing. MOVE AWAY AND NEVER LOOK BACK. That means no calls no nothing. BYE BYE SAILOR! :smiling_b

That doesn't sound good to me.

Abandonment is rough for anyone. I think that sometimes things don't work out but you have to be an adult about it and come to a fair solution.

Otherwise, get a pre-nup. No pre-nup is a bad idea then you're at the mercy of the courts to get what you think you deserve.

this thread is useless without names :pimp

I agree with this comment 100%

That's what I said. I do know it can hurt but she's much better with out him IMO.

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Send her to me, I need a submissive wife to do my housekeeping!

Bottom line is she can get bitter, or get better.

Dwelling on the unfairness of it all will do nothing for her, and it won't change him. She needs to put herself back up at the top of that priority list and get herself straightened out and not worry about what he is doing anymore, because he is not her problem. It doesn't sound like there are kids, so she doesn't have it as bad as a lot of us who get divorced do or did.

It hurts, it's hard, and it sucks...but here's a life lesson: it isn't what it should be, it isn't what it could be; it is what it is. So she needs to accept it, and change the only thing she has the power to change-herself, and her life.

Best of luck to her.

I hope she can afford a lawyer that will stand up for her rights. I would say she deserves more than to get tossed aside after 7 years and he gets to keep everything. Best she find out what a C-unt she married that she thought was a man now than later.

the guy ain't worth shit

She will be better off divorcing him. If they have been together for 7 years and he is so quick to leave and cut her off and he has hit her, SHE will be STRONGER and BETTER for divorcing him and being done with it

I don't buy it.

Hmmm.... got a phone number? :winkwink:










J/k Really hate to hear about good people getting screwed over; I think she just need time to get to know herself again :2 cents:

pics?????

i have the solution to all problems she needs to sit alone in a quiet room and ask her self several times over and over again

to be or not to be that is the question ?

Get a laywer, screw his best friend, drive him over with your car and if he still stands - hehe drive backwarts !

thank you and if she is even thinking of staying with him,she needs serious counseling

Yea I hate to sound like an ass, but my first thought when reading this post was, "I wonder how many days until the donation thread is posted?"

It's a shitty situation, but it sounds like some poor decision making went on from all sides. Hope she gets things worked out though.

Hey I need someone like that.. is she hot?

she want a new gig?

He sounds like the biggest dickhead around. So she should be glad she is free from that fag ass...