Why do the hottest girls only offer themselves when youre in a relationship?
 

Theres got to be a psychological expert on GFY who is able to explain this:

I dont have a hard time getting women but as many guys i have to put effort in things. For the first time in my life ive decided to have a serious no bullshit relationship with a girl and its lastign for about a year now.

Why is it that, while i have no plans on looking for something else.. even a snack, i get hit on by the most beautiful women.

Im not a Nylz.. im average looking low profile.. and i know whats 'in my league' and whats outside. But the less i care about women (and i dont care right now because i have a near perfect girl) the more they seem to care about me. Even in public.. girls i dont know and have no relationship with whatsoever.. they seem to sense something .. its creepy and i justr realised
it makes me feel uncomfioratable even a bit guilty for some reason.

How should i deal with it and is there someone that can explain this pattern
of the female mind?

Not making an effort shows confidence, women like confidence.

because they know

Yup.. and disinterest means a girl wants to generate "interest" to see if she can win.... :))

It's the 'i dont need you' attitude that attracts them. I get the same thing. My girl is hot so i could really care less about the women i see on a day to day basis, not to mention if i do meet one that i want, all i have to do is introduce my girl and if she likes her it's on. Women can sense that shit just by the way we walk and talk and it turns them on. When you're single you're actually trying and you almost seem desperate so women know they have the upper hand. When you dont want them, that's when they feel they have something to prove.

None of the above.

1. Men in a relationship drop the persuit and talk to a woman instead of trying to fuck her all the time.

2. You are now "safe." So we don't mind haning out with you and we drop our defenses

3. We see the happiness you bring to another woman and we kind of live that fantasy through her.. Sometimes we start wanting that fantasy.

4. And sometimes it's because we are jealous and want what the other woman has. (But these women are bitches)

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cuz they see you with another broad, and then suddenly, they wanna get that power trip over you and turn slutty so that you might relent.

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btw, I experience the exact same thing, and I've heard the same from a lot of other people also..

Like other people mentioned, I think it's the 'confidence' you're showing, the attitude that you're not hunting for anything...

That more or less covers it.

reversed psychology.. the less attention you give them, the more they want you....


if you dont notice them, they think theres something wrong with them and try twice as hard..

I have exactly the same experience

Because unattainable is just oh, so sexy.

because everyone wants what they can not have

Amen! :thumbsup

because they are not contented with what they have

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thats nearly word for word what ive been told in the past. odd that a fake wedding ring is all it takes to get em after you. the real answer is, if a woman sees you're married or with an attractive girl that might seem out of your league she wonders what it is you have that the other girl is interested in and moves in for a better look.

Holy shit, I'm going thru this right now. I've been with my girl for 7mths and it would be easy to pick up another girl. It's definitely confidence :winkwink:

that is very true - women are always checking out other girls and who they are with and if they are good enough to take another girls man. If your with a hot girl, then that sends out a signal that there is something about you that is appealing and they want to find out.

the idea that your not desparate also comes into play. Girls want attention, and they know their looks can manipulate guys, if you are not attainable then they will for personal affirmation try and take you away. One girl in particular got really pissed off at me because I kept saying how hot and great my wife is - eventually she walked away and I loved the reversal of roles.

wearing a wedding ring doesnt guarantee you getting laid - since alot of married men are hated by women because they attempt to sleep with anyone around and are dispised more than single guys. what is key about the wedding ring is that your attitude shows your not easily manipuated and available, which can be easily tested within the first 10 seconds of a girl flirting with you. Once she see's you can be had, shes gone.

If you want to be nailing hot chicks on a daily basis then you need to get back to basics. Humans are animals and our main goals as animals are to survive and replicate. Women want a guy who's a "man" and can "survive" while also taking care of the replicated dna. Now the reason that you get a lot more looks/smiles/attention from hot girls now is because they can pickup that your taken and if another woman has you then you must be a good "man". Heres a little tip, whenever you start talking to a girl start qualifying her and act like your REALLY picky about the women you date. If you don't pickup on her chances are you'll pickup on any other females who heard you talking to her.

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Hah funny you should mention this...there`s this girl I`ve liked for some time (very hot) in my college but I`ve never really talked to her apart from saying hi every now and then.
Somehow this girl found out I have a gf (been with her for 2 years now) and all of a sudden she`s really coming on really strong.She`s been calling me every day this week and just right now I got an SMS from her saying good morning.
Things with my gf are kinda rocky right now and I don`t think it`s gonna get better any time soon so it might all be good in the end.Or maybe I`ll just end up with nothing hah!

That's very true. I could list my thoughts on the subject, but it appears I would just be repeating what's already been said.

It's all about confidence ... when you're in a good relationship, normally you get an ego boost, and at the same time don't give a flying fuck about other womans

number 4 is the strongest point :winkwink:

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If they give it to everyone it wouldnt be special.