Walking up to women
 

With all the pickup experts out here this might be a good place to talk about this.

I bet many here had or still have fear of rejection and cant walk up to girls, how did you break that fear.

Lets hear some good one

Dont wanna hear from people who are born yappers and never had fear walking up.

Lets hear your story

I thought you had all of that stuff covered :)

I am paralyzed and can not walk, so therefore I object to this whole thread for counting me out of it.

video 2 coming soon

the best advice I can give to the men out there is BE YOURSELVES..pick up lines are cheesy as hell and might get you the cold shoulder.

an offer to buy a drink for a lady is always a good start if you are in a bar scene.

I have never been scared of talking to women. the best way to di it, is just walk up and ask a question that does not have a yes or no answer.

i agree

but the question here is more about men who cant walk up, not because they dont know what to say they just have that fear of walking up and millions of men have that prob

ahh I see :)

I got married. :)

ok, here goes... i dated the same girl for about 8 years... we started dating when we were both really young... after we broke up, i had zero game... i statred working in bars, amd at first was kinda shy and backwards when it came to women... when you work inna bar, girls want to fuck you for some reason, (go figure)... after awhile of this i got more comfortable around them... then i started to work in stripclubs as an MC... by this time i pretty much talked to girls the same way i did guys because i was around em so much...

...i have found that being yourself, talking to em just like ya do every other person really puts a gal at ease... once she feels comfortable around you... she will talk to you even more... eventually she will be comfortable enough to talk about sex as well as all other things... (but only if you still keep casual about it)... tell her of past experiences where you did this to that girl, and that to this girl...(but keep it on a "hey we're just buddies so its no big deal" type level... also mention to her that ya really liked a certain girl, but she got too attached to you... this will make her think your good in bed, but that you also arent looking for a commitment)... it may take awhile, but eventually, if the girl is attracted to you at all, she will probably decide she wants to fuck you... let her think it's all her idea.

and if you dont have time to put in this much work... and it has to be a "walk up to her now, or she will be gone forever" type thing... then do this... walk up to her, pardon yourself for interupting her, tell her that you normally dont just walk up and approach girls on the street, then tell her that you thought she was very attractive, and that you would like the chance to get to know her better, and have her get to know you better... if you see any hesitance in her, then say, something like "besides lifes too short to go thru it always wondering what if, and besides, you might even have fun if you do." and be casual about it, but dont be cocky...

I don't do pick up lines. I just be myself and try to make them laugh. It seems to work.

Hell, yea agreed dont use pick up lines, they blow.

Baffle them with pure bullshit always works for me :1orglaugh

you hit it right on the head... ya gotta be charming, but not overly arrogant... also, it does depend heavily on the type of girl you are aproaching... younger girls might be more into the stupid ass "sup baby, can i holla atchu for a minute" type appraoch... but an older lady will blow you off quick as fuck for using this approach... ya gotta learn what works on what type of girl.... and remember...

... be charming, confident, and non threatening...

...but dont be cocky, arrogant, and disrespectful... unless ya dealin with ghetto hos', lol.

I have dated some real stunners. Once you realize that most guys will not talk to them, it makes it easy to be the one who does.

The key to getting yourself into the ZONE can be accomplished a couple of ways.


1. Get buzzed but not to the point where you act like a drunk fool. At this point all your fears will vanish and you will be more social.

2. Think about what gets you into "the zone", its a certain point where you feel such a rush that nothing could hinder you. This could be a particular song, a certain thought that you latch onto, a photo etc. Basically theres a certain stimulant that can get you in the zone, find it and use it.

3. Fake it until you make it. Its all about a numbers game. Make a weekly goal to approach 10 girls. It will be hard at first but the more you do it the better it gets.


Hope that helps.



EDIT: The Key is all about confidence, fuck pickup lines etc etc.

another good point.

I fall down in front of them and act like I'm hurt.........always gets a response :thumbsup

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