Did you ask the father before proposing?
 

Been talking to a few friends about this and was just wondering what most of you guys have done. Did you ask the father of girlfriend / wife before you actually asked the girl to marry you? Seems some people see it as a respect thing and others are like no why would I do that.

No, fuck that mother fucker... I hope he get's hit by a derailed commuter train on the way the way to by bread for his ducks that play jeelly baseball with the monkey funiture from Toledo. The pope's brand new cracker jack harmonica is ready to be displayed at the corner store in exchange for mayonaisse cd-roms :2 cents:

lol wow, ok

but did you take her virginity yet? did you ask her Dad first? :1orglaugh

I did, I think it may be a prerequsite to him paying for the wedding.


Seriously though, I did, I like my father in law. He always treated me very well, and I respect him.

no
I haven't been married but I was engaged once, it just diddn't work out
why would you ask the father for his permission??? and what are you going to do is he says no? are you jst going to let go?
I gues it all depends on religion, customs etc.

ya gotta think about all that stuff for sure. I guess it would depend on the family alot.

Depends on the relationship the girl has with her father.

I asked my wife's father and he said that Im not the one that has to say ok, lol.... Her mother is.... Mom said cool and away we went.

Suprisingly, my wife's grandfather had a nice sit down with me when he got wind that I was asking his granddaughter to marry me from her parents.

I went to her Grandparents house where me and Grandpop sat in his office where he hammered me with questions about my future plans and outlook on things. His biggest concern was me being able to provide a suitable life for his granddaughter and our children since he worked up from nothing to a millionaire by the time he retired.

As we sat there, he told me of many of the problems that him and grandmom faced over the years, the Depression, the wars, the rationing, then kids, schooling, in-laws, houses, car issues, all kinds of things that being married for 65 years at the time you can experience. I was told things that her parents didnt even know.....

After that we got blasted on Martini's.... From that day on we had a fantastic relationship. Out of the 5 other Grandson in laws' I was the only one that came to him, sat down and rapped man to man.

He told me later and grandmom confirmed that I was the only one that he really cared for. The rest were just interested in his money they planned to get once he passed he felt.

When he passed earlier this year, I was the only grandson in law to be there on site. The rest werent able to make it, I also was the only grandson in law called to be a pall bearer at his funeral....

Not a dime of his money have we accepted, The rest of the grandson's have been waiting on their cut. I'll just have it rolled into a college fund for our daughter if any comes my way

Amazing part is that we both grew up on the street in Northeast Philly....well, 50+ years apart, but, we both from the same hood :)... that also made us tighter

I was going to ask him, but he speaks a different language, and doesn't speak english. So, I had it all written out what I would say, then I chickened out.

Ah well...

well, i'm a woman and i think you shpuld ask your girlfriend first then the father because you dont know if she is ready to get married :). however, i really respect you for that because not every guy will do that :thumbsup

I asked before i proposed even though i knew he would say yes. Good way to kiss his ass since he'll be shelling out a shitload of money for the wedding.

Well this is for sure old school.

I did for the first marriage. I'm 56 though and that was a long time ago when I was 20.

Do what you feel is right or better yet discuss it with the bride to be, not all us pervs on GFY.

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

I haven't proposed to anyone yet, but I will yes.

I did he's a very nice man and out of respect to him I did...







Sadly he said yes lol

I didn't... He didn't pay for the wedding, he didn't come to it. We had great sunset beach wedding in Florida.

i did, he was cool about it... we had a quickie wedding which barely cost anything and he paid for it... im divorced now.... and much much much happier =)

If my Father were still alive, I'm sure my Husband would have asked his permission. :)

did you ask before you fucked his daughter?

my family is old school so yes I'd want my boyfriend to ask for my dad's permission to marrry me as my relationship with my dad is very close and special. I also believe that if my partner can't get along w/ my family then I can't marry them either. You can't choose your family but you can choose who you marry. It is for me till death do you part.

With all the things in life that have evolved, I think that the sanctity of marriage has gone down the tubes. Too many people give up so easily and don't work hard enough at marriage. Asking for permission is a gesture of respect and also shows that you've taken the time to really think about what you are about to embark on as opposed to just doing it. just my 2cents :)

I didn't realise how important it ws to my dad to be asked until my sister said he was freaking out that my husband hadn't asked him yet when we were making stirrings about getting married. So, my husband sucked it up and asked. My dad was never going to say no because he knew I would just ge married anyway but I think for him it was an issue of respect. It took maybe ten minutes for Marc to ask and it set upa good relationship between the two of them.

Yes I asked her father. I didnt do it for approval, I did it out of respect for the man.

I think its a good idea to ask, mostly out of courtesy and respect.
WG

Fuck that... if I was to marry any woman.. the Father should be thanking me for taking her off his hands.

First time - she did not even know who her dad was until I introduced them, so no.

Second time - I was in kind of a hurry, no time.

In neither scenario was I expecting him to pay for anything, and neither were going to be there anyway.

I think that if the couple is age 30 or older, there really isn't a necessity to ask her parents for permission. And any relationship lasting longer than 3 years also shouldn't require parental approval. As well, if the couple has been living together for more than a year, they shouldn't require approval.

But if the girl is under 30 and living at home with her parents, they should approve of the guy first. Young people can make the wrong choices because of the intensity of new love.