if your friends with a girl
 

and really wanna be with her, but no (atm) there is no chance. Do you still spend time with her even though its screwing you up inside. Im not sure i can say no when she asks me to go somewhere....

if anyone remembers another thread by me, same girl as last time...

Ev

omg I'm bookmarking this cause I have same prob :P

im pretty sure loads of people have this problem, cant get her out of my head...plus i KNOW it aint gonna happen, weve talked about it quite a lot

jack off and grow some confidence

clearly not about confidence, idiot

If you are 100% sure it can never happen between you, why torture yourself? Find someone who will want you as much as you want her.

Awwwww...



Let her go, find someone else. Tell her no, cause it will just keep eating at you. Being with her will just fuck things up for you anyway. She will turn out to be something you never expected her to be. That is something that is hidden from you right now, but will come out in a relationship... Trust me it isn't worth it.

Of course, the last time this happened to me, I found out later I should have just fucked her. She wasn't really a good friend as it turns out.

Who knew.

idiot no.....dont take it wrong ;) then if its not cofidence than what is it?,,.....has she made it clear theres no chance or is it an assumption?

Just ask her straight out about it she will respect you more.

thats the thing, we get on so well, its not a never. Summary of what happened; we got together ( :winkwink: not properly, she started crying...) at a party, her boyfriend found out, id told her how i felt, she says she loves him so much (im not so sure). I still think somewhere along the line, it might happen, its just for now, off. I dont have a clue how she feels really...

Ev

another twist, i regard her quite a good friend, but my best mate hates her. Will i end up hating her as well, if she is a fucking prick then i probly will....?!!

she knows how i feel, i have a lot of confidence and told her straight off how i felt. Just shes in a long(ish) term relationship, a year or so.

Ev

yea, i had the same scenario....and Murderous about stated it,, shoulda just fucked her....and dont get me wrong, i know this girl is no "fuck" to you....to girl im referring to was the girl of my dreams for 6 years....well i got with her for a year.....and then she totally fucked me in the end......

who knows though...id hope shes better than the bitch i was with....so....state your true feelings to her....and tell her your there for her....thats all you can do...and until something with her happens....you can either stay celebate or look for another girl in the meantime.....i also didnt want to look elsewhere for another.....but thats foolish....She is....why dont you....and that alone.....is enough to walk....cause obviously your not what shes looking for....and in the future if she does look to you....it will only be settling for you....shitty as it sounds thats how it is.....nd theres no health love there....for either of you......

Trust me, it will turn out ugly... just remain friends, that is what it is... that is ALL it is.

you fuck her sister/bestfriend/mom
she will want you then

i think ill just become gay.....but seriously, i dont think i could be with someone else at the moment. She works in a crappy clothes shop called matalan, i spent about an hour there talking to her the other night, eventually got asked to leave by the manager :D thats how screwed up i am by this.

Ev

no sister (she has a brother, but im not into that.......yet)
her best friend is with my best mate
mom, possibility, but she knows her daughter cheated on her boyfriend with me...and i dont think she likes me.

Ev

I am willing to bet mom likes you more than she's leading on... Older chicks are wild man.

i dont even know her, its a funny situation, i dont even know whether she knows, but ive been told she does, plus, i really dont think fucking her mum is actually gonna sort this out. Although, her husband(girls dad) has just left...

if your only motivation will not happen find someone who is interested

Nah, that's not healthy. There are so many other bitches out there to choose from. People think "no, she is unique, no one could ever take her place", but they just havent searched enough.

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Dude, you keep on saying BOYFRIEND.

If he's still the boyfriend, get the fuck out of the picture. Plus, why didn't the boyfriend kick the shit out of you? Honestly, if *any* guy gets it on with my girl, he wouldn't have enough fingers left to type on the net.

Yada yada... if she cheated on him, she'll cheat on you... yada yada...
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Btw, I think I may have been a similar situation before so I'm a hypocrite... so don't listen to me :1orglaugh

Yeah, but you are SO right.

i really wanted him to try and beat the shit out of me, i really needed a good fight, i was so annoyed at that time, nothing was going right

Ev

Start acting like you don't care about banging her . . .

Sounds like shit still ain't going right... you are driving yourself nuts for nothing... just forget about it.

i have alot of platonic gf's and some of which i wish i could hook up with,however one thing ive learned over the years is never get stuck in FRIEND ZONE. once your there,its no turning back,forget about it.so my advice if nothing has happened between ya after a month,nothing ever will,either be platonic or dont ever talk again.

Too many issues going on!
She knows you like her, Duh.
Hanging out with her at work is tacky too.

You need to step back on move on, if it's meant to be...it will happen!
Sounds like...you can't function without this girl (who has a boyfriend) in your life?

Go enjoy life, if she comes arouns wanting to hang with you (after you have backed off alot) tell her how you feel...lay it on the line, that should be able to tell you alot! You must stick to it, or order to see where you could or couldn't end up with her!

Damn, I better get used to this, as I have a young son.....Wow, I hope I have alot of hobbies in my future, LOL

GL
~LL

fuzzypeach is right- if you take her away from her boyfriend, sooner or later another guy is going to take her away from you.

Guess you like playing russian roulette. Nothing was going right but at least not everything was going wrong :2 cents:

1/3 of the time, the guys will do nothing.
1/3 of the time, the guys will fight you man to man.
1/3 of the time, the guys will break your kneecaps and fingers.

Actually, I'm just exaggerating... 90% of the time most guys are too chicken and only 10% of the time will guys fight :1orglaugh

NO ATM??? what kind of girl is this???



But seriously, Ask her out or just go away. God damn, whats with the fear of rejection? It's gonna happen to you more than once if you doing things right.

stay friends, it wont work out the way u want it to if you keep pressing the subject

why dont girls understand that guys cant just 'be friends' with a girl... every chick i talk to , aside from the obvious ones, i wanna fuck! Or maybe im just sick :Oh crap

yeah, i cant understand it

Bingo! Here's your answer. What most guys lack is the common sense that when a girl places you in the "friends" category...you're stuck there...no matter how much you try to get her to like you in that way...most likely..she won't! But...if she does...then you're either a rebound or a desparation hook-up..

Sorry man...take it for what it is and just move on. Why makes you attracted to her anyway? Is it just her looks?

its better to tell the truth than to regret it at the end for not saying what u feel inside

i think you need to hire a bunch of hookers and take it out on them.

She knows how you feel. You think she wants you. Tell her again how you feel and that alyhough you like her so much you need to be away from her for your own good as the feelings aren't reciprocated. If she wants you as bad as you think she will come to you. If you keep letting her have her boyfriend and you as a friend that can be more she is in heaven. You have to make her choose without telling her to choose and by you walking away after telling her how you feel puts the ball in her court.

Get a girlfriend. that will put a stop to something.

relationships with friends never work, the reason why nothing has probably happend is because you talk about it so much with her, if you just let it go and let things happen on their own theirs more of a chance of something happening..

Tell her no whenever she asks to hang out and get over it. There are other girls.

I still recall the taste of my tears.
Echoing your voice just like the ringing in my ears.
My favorite dreams of you still wash ashore.
Scraping through my head ?till I don?t want to sleep anymore.

Come on tell me.
Make this all go away.
You make this all go away.
I?m down to just one thing.
And I?m starting to scare myself.
Make this all go away.
You make this all go way.

I just want something.
I just want something I can never have

You always were the one to show me how
Back then I couldn?t do the things that I can do now.
This is slowly take me apart.
Grey would be the color if I had a heart.
I just want something I can never have.
In this place it seems like such a same.
Though it all looks different now,
I know it?s still the same
Everywhere I look you?re all I see.
Just a fading fucking reminder of who I used to be.

Come on tell me.
Make this all go away.
You make this all go away.
I?m down to just one thing.
And I?m starting to scare myself.
Make this all go away.
You make this all go way.

I just want something.
I just want something I can never have
I just want something I can never have
Think I know what you meant.
That night on my bed.
Still picking at this scab
I wish you were dead.
You sweet and perry ellis.
Just stains on my sheets.

if a chic is screwing with your head this badly when you're not fucking here then just run like fuk!

I think most guys here have been in that situation and knows how that can kill you.

Very good advice :thumbsup

why waste your time with someone that only fools you. forget about her and give yourself pride & respect.