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Originally Posted by sonofsam

Your posts rock, its nice to have someone around not afraid to speak their mind :thumbsup

No one should be afraid to speak their mind, yet people should make an effort to think before they speak (unfortunately this is something I forget to do on a regular basis). My excuse is that my passion is greater than my proclivity to pensiveness in many instances (not an excuse, simply an explanation). BTW, in case you haven't noticed, I get bashed more than I get applauded around here.

The truth is, I mostly come to GFY for the shits and giggles. I don't have anything to sell other webmasters, I have no hidden agenda. Therefore, I have little to lose in speaking my mind. At times I imagine GFY would be an even better place if more people did so.

On the other hand, while I love to post ambiguous, humorous and hopefully occasionally thought provoking pix and text, and even try to make some small serious contributions from time to time, for the most part GFY is merely a diversion for me.

I've noticed that there is a lot of clique-ishness on web boards. I am not a big fan of that. I believe we are all enriched when we try to be inclusive rather than exclusive of others.

I tend to harrangue most on the bullies of each board, not necessarily to out-bully them, but more to expose their inner-frailty. Real leaders are mentors, not bullies.

In the end, I really don't dislike anyone which is why I hopefully do not come off as too mean-spirited when I poke fun at other people. I am as human and fallible as the next person. My high horse has training wheels.

Beyond that my thought pattern, I call it my "stream of unconciousness", is so far off the scale that I really don't care much of a hoot about what other's think about me, for I know that I am the most self-critical person most people will ever meet.

My life is full of contradictions. For example, I spent six years in the military, yet I am an ardent peacenik now. I was a vegetarian for many years, but I enjoy eating meat now. I have seen beloved ones die, and newborns arrive, and I have cried on both occasions - both out of joy and sorrrow.

For me, the only constant is change - and the more things change, the more they appear to remain the same (once you cut through the bullshit).

I feel intense pain watching the sadness and suffering in the world, and in what small ways I can, I try to make a difference and make the world a better place. I have no children, I will never have children, so what else can I do?

People who do know me, know that I am as optimistic and cynical as they come.

My attitude about my position in the adult industry is ambivalent at best. I have studied feminism and detest misogyny, however I am in many ways a hedonist who celebrates love and erotica.

Honestly, do not follow me, for I have not yet discovered my own path. Seek your own truth, and find you own answers.

If I can offer any advice it is to seek out that which provides happiness for the most people, and learn how to love, in all of it's forms...caring, compassion, empathy, friendship, honesty, humility, lust, passion, sex. Seek out the common ground which can best bond and unite us all.

If I can recommend any words of advice, I suggest that everyone read "Crazy Wisdom" by Scoop Nisker (if you can find it). I try to read it once a year when I can. Amazingly, it's different, but more true, every time I read it.

Thanks for your kind thoughts and words - I'm definitely not worthy.

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