Divorced for 1 1/2 yrs...still fucked up
 

I've been divorced for about 1 1/2 yrs now and still can't bring myself to date anyone...I was married for 7 yrs and it just doesn't seem right. I get asked out all the time and refuse. I've had my share of one nighters but then I never get with them again. Any suggestions?

yeah stop being a pussy. I'm sure your ex-wife has no problem sucking dick and fucking somebody else.

man...
i guess my thread got you started...

hum. I was not married, but dating for 3 years almost. And I've been single for like a year... it takes time. TIME TIME TIME.

1 1/2 years after a seven year relationship is not that long. Have you lost faith in women? We're you betrayed?

neither do I, I just can't bring myself to trust another one

figure out how to solve that problem, and you'll be ok.
:thumbsup

I was not cheated on but she just wanted to get out and go her own way..I have custody of our twin 7yr olds...and shes out partying it up

I was married and had a son with my ex-wife. We met in '87. I don't think its possible to get over someone you divorce but have a kid with since you continue to interact virtually every day until your kid grows up and gets his own life going.

So yeh it sucks and dating when you are older sucks. Very hard to find someone special again.

After a while you get so burned out with the whole dating scene you just kick back and say fuck it when the next relationship is meant to be it will find me.

Its fun being single once you get used to it and stop feeling like your missing something.

hum... I see.

kinda hard to move on then... i guess you don't want to introduce the kids to a new family either... tough call man. You'll need to find a single mom that is in the same boat and go on dates and stuff. Reciprocal support system.

Just go out and have sex then I guess. Dating is over rated

thanks for all the advice

Was married twice, no kids. Never saw them again after the final court day.

Been 10 years and the best 10 of my whole life :thumbsup

the kids are another problem, they are still confussed and I don't want to bring a bunch of girls around them and confuse them more.

She has probably moved on and so should you...jump back on that horse

Oh shes jumped back on....how do I do it with the kids....don't wanna run them through like a whore house

Don't get caught up in "having" to date or hell even "having" to get fucked for that matter.

pfft . . . . . I was over mine the day she moved out

. . . . that is not to say that I would trust another chick enough to get into a serious relationship again

Thanks peeps I needed so reasurance!

couldn't have said it better

that's a tough one, man. I just separated in Feb and am filing for divorce next month. I have three kids, two of whom are with my ex. It's a lot harder to get out when you have little ones, and you don't want to bring people over when you are just getting to know them and have no idea if it is going anywhere, or what type of person they are.

Wish you luck, sugar.

thats sucks =\ i understand you..
well good luck bro

well of course you don't want a bunch of women in and out of your home, just keep your personal life seperate from your home life. If any female can't understand that, then she isn't worth your time anyway.

As far as dating goes, if you aren't ready to get involved then don't, there is no law that says you only have a certain amount of time to get over what you went through. Do whats best for you, if that means having 1 night stands so be it, do it and don't feel bad about it. (I know it's strange to hear a woman say that), but seriously as long as you aren't leading a female on do what you need to do. When you're ready and your daughters are in a better frame of mind you may move beyond 1 night stands, and into something more fullfilling.

Sorry to hear that guys.. Hats off to you guys for being so honest and open on here!!!
Good luck!

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