what do you do when your sex life could be better?
 

I have been with my gf for over two years. I am completely happy with her and I would do anything for her. We have been living together a yr next month.

The only thing I wish would improve is our sex life. Ok, I'm a guy so I could have sex daily if I had that choice. I always bring up that I want more sex whether it is oral, handjobs or sex.

I love receiving and giving oral sex. She hates both.

I am usually the one who has to initiate sex as well, sometimes I feel like sex is a chore to her. She just works a lot and it stresses her out. So I just go to sleep. It sucks! I have told her how I feel, it doesent change anything, I dont think she realizes how much it means to me.

Do we need sex counseling already? :winkwink:

What would you do?

You dont talk about it. You do it. You lay it on her. Charm her away or slap her, whatever turns her on.

Whenever I'm horny and the wife isn't, I send her to GFY and point her to a thread that Juicy's posted lots of pictures of himself in.

Sex isn't far behind.

Sounds like you are married... get a copy of the mans guide to marriage. Page 10 talks about masturbation and loving thyself.

Its a tough call dude... good luck!

A friend of mine was married to a woman for 4 years who wouldnt do anything but lay there in bed for sex. He told her he was up for whatever but she wouldnt and was not willing to compromize. They are divorced now.

I have been married 9 years and I can tell you that if your woman is not willing to make compromises in the bedroom to keep you happy (and vice versa) then your heading down the wrong path towards a lasting relationship. Compromise to please each other is the only way its gonna work, now of course she could draw the line at certain things, but handjobs and blowjobs are completely legitimate requests and I honestly would think she should be excited to do what it took to please you if she really cared about your happiness and not just her own.

:2 cents:

LOL thanks for the thoughtful insite...

romance her first.
if she's stressed out..make her unstressed.
send her our for a massage or a day at the spa. give her more reasons to have good feelings toward you....it will come eventually. and if it doesn't, maybe she's not the one for you.

Sex is an important part of any healthy relationship....If you r not satisfied and she is not willling to try you are goingto be very bored and unhappy. It is a lame chiche but she should be" Taking one for the team"!

Listen, trust me im not mistaken my guys cock for a yummy twinkie but im going to treat it like it is...If he is happy and it turns him on then it turns me on too!!!

her lease is up man

She doesn't like giving head? You're fucked.

Time to move on.

I'm guessing you're still young. Imagine what it'll be like with her 30 years from now.

Just because of sex?

Either stop masturbating, or masturbate more

Yup. I'll agree w/ him there.

Start shooting POV porn. Something beats paying for it. They come, you cum they leave.

It's not "just about sex".

It's about matching yourself up with someone who you are compatible with.

If you're not compatible with her now, you won't be 30 years from now.

having a GF would make my sex life better! hehehe

tony

first, i look for a partner :1orglaugh

kidding aside...i honestly agree with what other said. i think it should work both ways. you please her, she pleases you. it's a two-way traffic dear & if the other keeps on insisting her own thing all the time, then i guess you'll forever be miserable.
or worse, you might end up cheating on her.

the best thing is to try ask her in a nice sweet way how you want her to please you in bed (or try others' pieces of advice). then if no improvements, then maybe you really should move on.

:pimp

Yeah tried that, problem is most the things I like, she does not... But I believe the problem is compromise. I am willing to try anything once, she is not.

I wish I had my 1st gf's sex life with my gf's personallity.... she would be perfect! :)

If you're wishing for something different now, again...think what it'll be like 30 years from now.

Like you said, it's not really about the sex. It probably never is, that's just the one GLARING example of something she won't compromise on. And being a man, it's a big deal to you. :winkwink:

You're with someone who isn't willing to compromise. Right now it's sex, tomorrow it's something that had even more effect on your life.

I wouldn't expect you to leave her, I was just being blunt. There's definitely more to this story than anyone here knows...probably even you.

Best advice I could probably give is to openly talk about this with her. There's no relationship at all if you can't communicate.

Very true!

she mustn't truly love you if she doesn't want to please you at all

Like I said, we don't know the whole story. Some people have sex issues for reasons they keep to themselves.

If it's just this that she won't compromise on, you could still definitely work things out.

If she won't compromise on ANYTHING, then you've got a problem.

welcome to marriage! lol j/k as if she doesnt love oral! man i'll take that allday!! lol

Go buy some sex, gotta be a good escort service around ya

is there anything she likes doing sexually? i couldnt imagine a sex life with someone that didn't like both giving or recieving.

sex is a LARGE part of any adult realationship, i could never even stay with someone that long, they are not "into" oral, well if they like you at all they should like to give you oral because it pleases you same with vise versa.

you need to add something to your realationship, something to spice it up, it could be thing outside the bed that is affecting it.

you also never should ask for sex, one day when you walk into the house just walk up to her, lift her up, start to kiss her and then fuck her hard, women like surprises.

also women like to be fucked like animals, although some are a little shy to admit it you need to fuck them no holds bar, you need to show them that they can do anything in the bedroom and not change anything.

women like men that "ARE THE MAN" start being the man. make her cum like she has never cummed before and she will be addicted to you for life.

if none of this works then it is time to break up with her, i have no time for women that insecurities affect them in the bedroom. :2 cents: :2 cents:

get her intoxicated ; )

Smoke Pot...then have sex.

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