That was scary
 

My GF has been having a very rough week this week. She's 25 weeks pregnant and spent most of this week in the hospital with a migraine that's localized behind her left eye. She can't move her head or look at any light.

Well, she's home now and today she managed to sit up right but only for a short time.

Anyway, I was off preparing some food for us and it suddenly occurred to her that she hadn't felt the baby's movements for 2 days now. This sent her into a panic attack.

She got major pains in her stomach, tightened right up, her migraine intensified and she couldn't breathe.

talk about scary! :(

Anyway, I calmed her down and got her taking deep breaths. It took a few minutes but breathing helped the pains subside too. Then I started listening for the baby's heart beat with a doppler and he started to kick good and strong.

This lifted the stress of her in such a heap that she passed out and is now sleeping.

I certainly don't wish that kind of panic on anyone but as scary as it was, it was also very wonderful... and here's why.

It's truly amazing to see just how much emotion there is there.... how much of a bond there is. The baby isn't born yet... it's all been one of those "I can't believe this is really happening" types of feelings you get when you have your first baby. We both know that we love the baby and everything but still, it's all very much on the surface.

The minute that she thought the baby might be in trouble, I saw something there that is so very rare. I know that she'll never (with the possible exception of her having another child) feel this strongle towards anyone again. That her parents, her sister, me.... we could be in so much trouble and it would hurt her deeply but she'd still never have the type of reaction that she did for our baby.

I just know that for what ever amount of negative emotion there was there in her fears... there was 10 times the positive emotion there from her for the baby. It's really very amazing and wonderful.

I just thought I'd share.... don't know why. I'm just really very moved by the whole situation. She's going to be such a great mom :)

Hang in there and good luck!

Good luck man. Be sure to keep us informed man.

I don't know her, but i already know that's the truth.

Good luck to you all !!! :thumbsup

you'll be a proud father soon, trust me..
you can't keep those tears from falling

I like the way you sized up the situation. That is a great outlook on things.

BTW, I am coming out to Toronto for a Bar Mitzvah end of May and hopefully will be able to stop by and visit.

That would be awesome. I hope you can. If you don't have any wheels out here, I'd be happy to drive into TO to pick you up so you can come over for dinner :thumbsup

and the fact you noticed it will make you a fabulous father Stuart.


say hi to herschie when he comes for dinner. it was good to see him at Diavolo in vancouver a few weeks back.

take care of yourselves....we are all anticipating the first pictures with glee!!!

I remember when Daniel (our 16 month old son) was in his crib one night, he must have been 2 months old at the time. I was going to tuck him in, and do my usual standing over the crib for 5 minutes wondering how i could be so lucky (it happens!), when i thought how quiet it was. Then i realised I couldn't hear his breathing. I was so afraid, and my heart started pounding so hard, I froze. Everything else disappeared from my head, as I was looking at my son lying there, thinking how fragile and vulnerable he was. I quickly leant over and tried to nudge his hand to see if it moved, which it didn't. I was so panicked I lifted his arm, and put my finger in his, and after a couple of seconds he wrapped his whole hand around my finger and gripped it tight, even as he slept. I was overhelmed with emotion that i started crying immediately. It was the scariest moment of my life. As you realise that you cannot control this life force in front of you. I resolved to ensure Daniel's safety for the rest of his life, or at least as long as I could, in my lifetime.

Being a parent is a gift, but it is also such a huge responsibility. I love it, and love being a father. I am lucky i get to spend time with my son, because of running my own company. It's nice being able to come home when I want, and be with him, and I can't wait until he grows into his formative years.

Have fun being dad Stuart. It's going to amaze you.

Yikes... yeah, I'll probably go through that myself at some point... I'm sure. I already worry more than I need to I think, but I'm also very logical about stuff too. I've never been one to panic... I just try to rectify the situation as quickly as possible.

Something tells me that'll all change though once it's my baby I have to worry about it.

Damn, I'm glad I'm a guy...good luck!!