The wife & kids just left me
 

I must of fucked up big time last night, ( I cant remember and fuck I'm hung over) But I woke up this morning to find a note on the table saying she has had enough, (what ever the fuck that means) maybe the 16 hour days on the puter doesn't help much I spose, FUCK I've lost my family,
FUCK FUCK FUCK!!!! I dont even have a clue where they have gone to, this is killing me I want them to come home, sorry for the crappy post but I dont know what to do,

A.R

Well you aren't gonna find 'em in here dude! Go get 'em!

I wish it was that easy amp,

You don't got any kiind of list to start with? Friends? Mom's? Somethin'?

MOM is always the hide out...

arent you do the guy danger his lisfe for their children against a snake

guy you love them

go out and found them

stop hanging on internet

Yeah she probably is her mums in melbourne, but I still cant contact her there, because I dont get on with her mum at all, not only that it's a 4 hour drive and I'm half pissed so with my luck I get pinched for driving drunk

Never thought I see these words comin' from me, but the first thing you gotta do bro, is sober up. If you wanna try and get 'em back that is... if you don't care, then crack another bottle.

I lost my family back in '97... 2 kids along with it. Now I sit here and get stupid drunk all the damn time. You wanna end up like me?

Go get 'em.

Thanks amp your right, I wont have any more beers, it's only 10:30am and I'm on my 5th beer, Fuck I hope they come home,

Hey Aussie Rebel,
No offense but do you really think its right to talk about your family etc. on this board?
I mean i know my wife would be pissed if i was talking about my family problems on a chat board thousands of people read...

Jeez dude where've you been...people have been doing this for years now.
Not saying it's right...not saying it's wrong but the internet with bbs' and chat rooms has introduced a new dynamic in communication that still puzzles psychologist etc. to this day.


eros

whats important is this man was looking for help,,, good luck,,

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Yes rollin , your right but when I woke up this morning and they were gone I didn't know what to do or who to talk to, and I had to tell someone , yes I know a public board isn't the best place to talk about my problems but as I said I had to tell someone,

well what would the wife think?

(my husband is going on a porn chat board talking about our family problems?!!?!? about the kids?!?!? what the fuck?!?!?!)


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yeah aussie rebel, i am not ragging on you, just trying to shed some light bro...
i know the first thing i would do is get rid of the beer, as my family comes first.
clean yourself up, and go get your family.
a man is nothing with out his family.

your kids are probably pretty sad, and the actions you take, can affect them for the rest of their life...

hope it goes well for you bro

No different than talking to your co-workers at the office. Just because we work in Adult makes no difference. My girl understands that, and I would imagine anyone's wife/girlfriend of any length of time and half a brain would understand it as well.



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yeah but you don't take your personal problems to a chatboard (especialy when it involves, kids, wife, etc. confidential stuff)...

go to personal friends, ask for advice, etc.

you don't know how his wife would feel about this. you can't make opinions for people as everybody has a different opinions on things.

Rollin,
You do have a valid point. I know being a female myself, i would like to be advised of who my husband is talking to our personal problems about...

And would you feel better having him discuss it openly (for instance... here)? Or talkin' to some crack whore about it in a bar downtown?

She knows what I do for a living and accepts it, and I don't class this board as a porn chatroom, because it isn't, and as I said earlier I didn't know what to do ,thats why I posted, and believe me I would cut off my left nut to get them back, I've stopped drinking and as soon as I am sober enogh to drive I will be going to melbourne to find them,

Aussie Rebel,
She may accept what you do, but you don't know if she accepts you talking about your family problems on this board...

And you are right, this isn't a porn chat board, it has to do with the porn industry, but it is mainly friends, business talk, etc.
But in the eyes of some other people, it is a porn chatboard...

Those are very stupid people.

rollin: Ever ridden on public transport? I have (a few times) and it always seems that strangers like to tell the passengers sitting with them all their troubles. Guess they find it therapeutic just venting, with no pressures or anything. Makes a weird kind of sense to me.

Aussie: go as fast as you can to find your family - the longer you leave it, the harder it will be for you and them. Good Luck

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Amp
Where does the crack whore come in play?
What does a crack whore in a bar, and a drinking problem have anything to do with this situation? http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/smile.gif

I would feel better if my husband went to get some help with his drinking problem.
I would feel better if my husband talked to family members, and other close friends, about our problems...

Rollin she doesn't know I posted this on the board, and yes I am sorry for posting it on here , but it's done and I cant delete it , listen mate I'm having a prick of a time at the moment and I don't really need someone telling me I have done the wrong thing, now please fucking leave it alone, I wish I never posted it, now does that make you happy?

amp,
alot of people jump on assumptions, thats all.

and yeah, i have been on public transit before. never expierenced what you have though.


anyways aussie rebel, i have to go for the night, party time! i hope it all works out for you. your family is the most important people in your life!

aussie rebel,
no no you have what i am saying down wrong. i am just trying to shed some light, i do not mean any wrong, trust me...i am not the one to make enemies or tell people how to run their life, or if they fucked up.

and no i am not saying take the thread down, i was just giving my opinion...

like i said, i hope it really works out for you, and i was just trying to help you focus on what you could do...

ok thanks and have a good night

np, and if you need anything at all, please icq me...132727956

good luck to you.

There's always a crack whore involved somewhere.

1) This is the farthest thing from a "porn" chatboard as the rest of the world knows it.

2) So many of us live in different parts of the world that this is the closest we will get to talking to co-workers in the "office." We live virtual lives, online lives, and this is it. Be it ICQ or this board or others like it, this is where your co-workers and indeed some of your friends are.

3) If this is where your friends are, then there is no shame in discussing the issue here as long as it doesn't get too personal out in the open.

4) Aussie: Get your act together. Put the beer down, take a shower and start making phone calls. If you really care about getting them back then you have to make the move bro. Go get them and TALK TO YOUR WIFE about this. It's going to suck...she's going to say things you don't want to hear but you have two choices...suck it up and arrive at a compromise (if you can) or deal with it by throwing the relationship away. Some of us have done that, myself included, and I don't regret it but you had better make damn sure that's what you want.

Thanks for trusting us enough to tell us about it and now realize that none of us has the answers but you. Make a decision, one way or the other, before it's too late and it festers inside of both of you.

Good luck with your decision!

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I hope everything is ok for you.. Give her space dude... Let her cool off and you just relax for a bit.. Women always speed off and then realise it's not what they want.. If you have a drinking problem or know what shes upset you must admit to yourself and start working on it.. Give those kids the best parents they can get..

Wish you the best man just relax...

Welcome to the club... I too found out adult webmastering and family doesn't mix. At least she didn't leave you for a "friend" of yours and move out of town like mine did, or at least I hope not.

If you really want them back, trash the puter, you ain't finding them in here that's for sure!

Ok I am speaking as a woman who has had her share of "fits" here. I can't begin to tell you the fits I have had, some warranted and some not so warranted. There were days when my hubby and I first got together, I'd leave and go to work, and since he worked nights, I'd have to get up early while he slept. The night before everything would be fine and just ONE damn thing would set me off and I'd toss his ass out in the streets, and he had no idea why. All I could think of to say was "I am just tired of it all"...... what was "All"? Fuck if I know, or knew then, I was just tired of all of it.

I'd do some soul searching only to find out "All" wasn't him, it was me.......... I had spent so many days and years going thru the same old dull routine, same old Mom thing...... nothing exciting going on in my life. I was always feeling like since I am the mom, I am not allowed to do this or that, no fun, no nothing, just wife and mom. Well who gets blamed when I have had enough dull and boring? And who gets the blame........... My hubby of course. And turns out i wasn't even his fault, it was mine because he would want to go and do things but I was always too tired after kids and working all damn day.

Do this, give her a little time to figure out what she has had enough of, she will contact you when she figures this out. She HAS to, she has your kids. BUT in the meantime, figure out where you could have possibly gone wrong. Since I do not know you, I can't decide these things for you..... but maybe it is the drinking, maybe it is the time you spend here, maybe a combination of things. Women need to know they get to share you with the rest of the world. While she is away doing her contemplating, do some of your own, WITHOUT the booze preferrably..... think of where the TWO of you can compromise things out where you are concerned.

Coming to friends and co-workers is not a bad thing, no matter what medium you are with in these relationships. At least you have this, I didn't have it at the time I was going nuts, and there are times I still do and I have friends on here I do talk to, they know who they are. Find out what you can do for her to make her not feel like you are the "all" she is tired of anymore. Having a support system is imperitive for both of you, but only those who have your best interests at heart.

Ok, I am done now........... I don't know that anything I have said here helps you any at all, but it is a female perspective and at some point I think ALL women get enough of the lives they live and just need to evaluate things where they can do it without distractions.

Tam

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very sad, turn off this evil machine and go find them

Yo shut the fuck up (to the ones tha bash on him cuz he post here)... He have enough problems like that now ... And nobody know his wife and kids here it's pretty confidential but he had to talk to somebody .

Guy you should stop drinking first and come back to them after .

Do something drastic man... Desperate times call for desperate measures...

Please stop drinking man... Do not try to solve your marriage/family problems until you get your own problems squared away first... This is what your wife wants you to do. This is a wakeup call. Leave a message her parents that you are going to change your life and you need some time... etc. etc.

If alcohol is your main problem -- go out into nature -- alone -- away from everything -- purge yourself...

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nobody was bashing on him "dr. dre"
you need to get your facts straight brotha http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/smile.gif

You should really read Tam's post...

Women are like that, and I got the same story. And when I heard it coming from the mother of my two children, I really wasn't very happy with it, I flew off the rocker. So I pushed her away, and away she went. Not that I miss her, but I miss my kids that I brought up since birth like a son of a bitch. Just play it cool for now and let things fall where they may.

If you have a drinking prob, take Pete's advice and go out hicking, or climb a fucking mountain or something. Anything to get your mind off the shit. Leave the PC off, because it's all part of the problem.

Go get your damn family back, I wish I had...

Hi everyone I just got back from melbourne this morning , I could'nt find her down there, but she rang me 15 minutes ago saying she is on her way back home right now http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/smile.gif I spoke to my kids on the phone and they were so happy that they are comming home,
I'd just like to thank you all for the help and kind words, thanks again guys
Aussie Rebel

Good for you Aussie http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/smile.gif

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Thanks Ludedue I'm a very happy man again http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/smile.gif

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But don't forget to stopp drinking, Aussie. Good luck!

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Confession


waiting for death
like a cat
that will jump on the
bed

I am so very sorry for
my wife

she will see this
stiff
white
body
shake it once, then
maybe
again

"Hank!"

Hank won't
answer.

it's not my death that
worries me, it's my wife
left with this
pile of
nothing.

I want to
let her know
though
that all the nights
sleeping
beside her

even the useless
arguments
were things
ever splendid

and the hard
words
I ever feared to
say
can now be
said:

I love
you.

Charles Bukowski

Thanks Jer, http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/smile.gif But for the record I dont have a drinking problem,I only started drinking that early because I was upset and did'nt know what to do,
thanks again
Aussie Rebel

Much better http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/smile.gif

After reading all this, I could only think of one thing: What is so bad about this post... it only shows that you love her and the kids a lot. If I were a woman I would like to read this post of my man and would feel loved http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/wink.gif (yeah yeah yeah, I sound like a pussy http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/smile.gif)

Show the freakin' post to her, it shows that you really do not wanna miss out on her.

LOL naughty http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/biggrin.gif and i agree with you...

Thanks Naughty I will show her as soon as she gets back http://bbs.gofuckyourself.net/board/smile.gif