Would You Trust Your Serious Girlfriend If She
 

Went to a frat party with all her new soriority roomates?? She use to have a huge party life and got kicked out of school etc but has said over and over that she is not that person now and can handle her own and won't cheat on me. She just recently joined a college and is getting to know new friends etc and is going to a Frat party and told me she will get drunk. What the helll should I do??? When I question it she says I dont love or trust her......

Does she control herself when she's drunk?

You trust her to do the right thing. If you have a problem with this then you should not be in a relationship with her in the first place.

You're forgetting the past man. If she had a party life before she might want to get back to it eventually even for an hour or so. Once a bad girl - always a bad girl.

Then again I stand on what I said. Either you trust her or you dont. If you dont then you should not be in a relationship with her.

It's a shame that you even have to ask yourself that or even this board. You should trust until you are given a reason not to (by that I mean something to you personally, not anything that she's has done in her past). IMO

i trust my girlfriend even if she was going out to get drunk with a bunch of guys, i have no resaon to trust her and as much as i wouldnt like it, its not a reason not to trust her, so i advise u to do the same, trust her.

You obviously don't trust her. So either she's not trustworthy or you've got issues. Better figure out which.

You've got to accept that she's and adult and can do whatever the hell she wants... just like you can.

Would you expect her to trust you at a topless bar?

Go the the frat party with a new haircut and try to hook up with her when she's drunk. Just keep telling her your name's Steve.

lol ... if you think you may get cheated on, you will ...

Oh, HELL yeah. That's FUNNY!

Umm I would start scouting for a new GF. If you are cheating on her first it doesnt hurt as bad when she tells you about getting drunk and fucking a frat boy.

...let her do as she pleases..tell her u trust her..and go cheat with someonelse...that way when u find out she cheated...you will feel that much better about it :thumbsup

that is a stupid comment.

Hell no. I've been in the same situation, and I would not go for it either. Too many problems too many times.

She cheated on you... I was in a fraternity in College and time after time girls came to our parties and even if they did not want to do anything their friends/sorrority sistere would push them into it :( :(


peer presure

You can't go with her?
WG

its almost like drugs, say you stop smoking weed or whatever is your prefrence,
you havent done it in years your a changed man/woman or what not.

One day you are at the wrong place at the wrong time, and since this isnt
anything new to you, hey why not give it one more toke? Get my drift?

Why didn't I ask that? WTF ???

As a woman & a person who pledged a Sorority in college (went to 100's of fraternity parties) I can see why you might be concerned. There are key factors OTHER than your insecurity about her wanting to party it up again, and possibly cheat. 1st there will be guys there, and tons of men drinking, can be unsafe. At several of the TG parties there were ABX girls that would get drunk and pass out, and several of my friends saw the guys carry these girls up to rooms. I personally avoided that house for that 'said' reason. A girl can easily have something slipped in her drink & whether or not her intentions were for bad things to happen, they can. The best advice if, you're going to put yourself in those situations, is to go with a group. NEVER go alone, go with at least 2 other girls, and NEVER leave the room without the other 2 knowing who you're with and where you're going. This may seem like an over reaction, BUT if you're there to have fun, theres no reason you can't do it safely! Don't drink ANYTHING that you didn't see poured. NEVER set your drink down, if you do, don't drink it, get a new one. Don't let a guy offer to hold your drink while you dance, etc.

As her bf, the best you can do is trust her, trust her judgement, and trust that she's really just gonna go have fun & not try to hook up with anyone else. BUT in the event that she does, its not your fault and its best to find out her level of maturity, honesty, and integrity as soon as possible. It seems like you have some serious trust issues, whether she cheats or not, plans to or won't, you need to learn to give her a little rope... she'll either show you that she's trustworthy & someone who deserves your interest or she'll hang herself with it. Not much you can do, but wait. :) good luck.

I thought I was the only person thinking that. If these guys have a problem with her having a BF, then it's clear what their motives are. :2 cents:

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well, the only thing you can do is capitalize off that shit :winkwink:

dont dooo itt

if she doesn't want you to go with her, knock that bitch out :)

One word of advice: If you talk to her on the phone while the party is going on and she tells you she loves you, that means she's fucking around on you, but wants you thinking completely the opposite.

50 chump guys...


Im just wondering why you let the bitch leave the house.. Aint you got control of your shit?

:thumbsup

you just know that drunken bitch is out trying to suck as many cocks as she can, you know it's like a competition with these college whores...

then she'll come home and give you a big sloppy kiss with her breath stinking of other men's semen and tell you how much she loves you...

lol, now you gonna have homeboy pacing all nite, drinking jack and smoking marblo's :1orglaugh

Why didnt he go too ?

"serious girlfriend" that needs to leave you alone so she can go get drunk and go to frat parties?

hmmmm.

if shes gonna cheat, shes gonna cheat..no amount of anything you say or do will stop that.
now..just sit back..relax and trust ur gf. no point in stressin..till something happens to stress over.

If you really really like or love this girl, then get the fuck over it. If not dump her ass, and find someone who will stay home with you.

He hasn't responded since we've been asking over and over why he didn't go. I think he is shooting himself because he finally figured out what she is doing. If you are still wondering... if she wanted to go alone.... go ahead and pull the trigger.

ummm....."Frank the Tank" comes to mind but the opposite


:upsidedow

you have two options:
1. Cheat
2. Find a new gf, that doesnt drink at frat houses

Nop this isn't ... If you got fear, you aren't confident in yourself, you talk too much about it to her, it will get in your head .

Jealousy just makes things a lot worse .

I would go out and party

Yea, he needs to turn this shit on her or he is going to be miserable sitting around worrying about her, and then more miserable when she finally does fuck someone else.

p.s. casual sex is bad.

p.p.s. i know i didnt convince anyone but I'm still right.

I think it's all a matter of a person's character. I've had a serious boyfriend for a few years now and I know that no matter how drunk I get, I'm not interested in other guys. You have to know the type of person you're dealing with and go from there. Making generalizations about party girls, sorority cock suckers, etc. won't do you any good.

if you do bust her cheating, go OJ on her ass

Never trust a woman...dump her right away...dirty whores

This is very accurate.

In my experience the best thing to do is have an open/swinger relationship. No one is "tied down" and there is no reason to be secretive. You share each others adventures...s ex is sex but love will always trump that so why not share some sexcapades together?

What you dont know cant hurt you. Man be confident that she aint fucking aroud if you never find out she is. who cares. If your getting all twisted up because she is going out with her friends get a new girlfriend

Yes, but those type of relationships ONLY work with 2 people that are open, honest, and communicate well. anyone who is the least bit insecure or lacks trust and the relationship is no better than his current situation. Everytime your girl or guy walks out the door you'll be wondering who or what they are fucking, they do it in front of you, what would stop them from doing it behind your back... see where I'm coming from. I offered an open/swing/swap situation to the guy I was just dating, BIG mistake, it wasn't like I wanted to cheat on him, I just wanted to add some girls to the situation. COMPLETELY, ruined the relationship, from that point on he was convinced I wanted to cheat and sleep with other people. Sometimes when you date someone who's insecure & lacks trust, even just discussing a subject can add just enough doudt to ruin any future. The only solution is a Poly Marriage ;) I'm kidding... I could never live in a compound, but I wouldn't mind visiting and checking it out ;) Might make for a nice cam site. lol

ain't no motherfucker fuckin my bitch

True enough indeed. I was open about my beliefs and willingness to share from the get go which eventually led me to a person of like mind so it's worked out better. I'm not saying jealousy issues don't come up but we don't stew on them and then see them manifest as seemingly unrelated arguments. If one of us feels jealousy we spit it out and why and move past it. After enough times of sharing and things coming up that attack your ego, it starts to die out. Your mate continues to love you even after she (or in your case he right?) took on another partner for sex and you stop worrying that anyone is going to offer something you don't. Like I said... love is love and sex is sex. They're great together but don't always have to go together.

Sorry for not giving you guys an update. Right after I posted this she came over wanting me to go and I eventually did. I didnt want to make her feel bad etc but she said I didnt and that she really wanted to to go. The party was ok but she got really fuckin drunk and sick and all night I had to take care of her and next day she didnt remmeber a whole lot and that shit worries me

oh and I do have some trust issues due to my past etc which I should never bring into this relationship. We fell in love really fast and never planned it. She says she will only party once a week on the weekends pretty much compared to her partying every day at her last school.

Im just torn between feeling like an obessesive jealous boyfriend and a big loser for allowing her to go to these frat parties alone with her new friends who she doesnt even know that much when only 2 things can happen, she cheats on me or doesnt.....