My Girlfriend of 3 years dumped me... what to do?
 

Well after 3 years it is over. This happend about 10 days ago but im pretty depressed right now. We had been fighting somewhat but it wasnt too bad. Her bitch girlfriends from her sorority told her all these bogus rumors about me and she choses them over me. But it is ok, I am good looking.. but im going to be depressed for awile. It is kind of tuff when you have someone in your life for 3 years and some and then its like shes not there anymore. I really am broken. I find myself here drinking, and overall really sad. I don't know what to do. But hey shit happens. I try to be happy... but the thought of her is very consistant. I know time is the only cure to heartbreak, but I don't know how I will get her out of my mind? Should I start dating other girls? Take some time away for awile? Maybe you guys have some stories that will make me feel better who knows. Sorry I just had to vent.. sorry guys. :(

Fuck her bestfriend. Actually fuck like 3 or her friends. :thumbsup

I will do that. All girls cheat so its fine.

It only hurts for alittle while...Think of it as freedom...go out and boink some skanks :thumbsup

ahhh no worries dude, girls come and go.. obviously after being with her for 3 years your going to feel sad.... just dont sit home and think all day... go out with close friends... dont go like heavy drinking because you'll end up like those people that throw tantrums and breakdown in front of everyone... just go chill with some friends, and shit will blow over... once u start to flirt with some girls.. you'll appreciate being single again :)

I dated a girl and broke up with her after 3 years. I fucked about 5 other girls and it didn't do anything for me. Just made me feel more lonely and distant from woman as a whole. I would recommend concentrate on things that make you happy. Have a few good friends go out with them and relax and try to remember you love yourself first.

Some people will say to take some time & let yourself get over it - I did that when I was in your situation, but really I think it's better just to get right out & start dating again. Fuck wallowing in your own misery... :2 cents:

just move on and forget her

Keep yourself busy, man. That's all you can do.

a lot easier said then done.

thanks for all the replies, I am going to Mexico next weekend with some friends, but 2 out of the 3 days are going to be business. I guess I will have some fun in the clubs though... I just have to get the thought of her off my mind... like im pretty broke down right now. I can feel it physically. Like the first couple days it didnt really affect me. But now it is all sinking in. :(

Hell if you where near me I go out with ya and find some bitches blow some money and wake up 50 miles away from home in a ditch...

If her reason for breaking off with you was because of some shit her friends told her, then would you really want to be with this chick longterm anyways?

Did she even confront you about it, ask if it's true or whatnot? If not, fuck it and enjoy the bachelor life a little =)

kill the bitch

go get some rebound 'tang.

Yeah, we talked about it. I told her the truth and she said she just can't believe me. So we were talking, and then I was like don't come crawling back. She calls me yesterday and tells me shes depressed. I just told her to fuck off and go out with her sorority sisters. I am pissed at myself for buying her all these tangable items. I could have spent the money on better things. Fucking bitch.

bahahhah well theres an idea

sorry to hear that wes.... it sucks, but you'll be a'ite

You're going to be pretty upset for a while because you're life is going to change. Just one thing to think about is if it's worth fixing. I feel like if you really love someone you'll fight for them. Even though people have made up rumors about you, you should go the distance to try to win her back if she means that much to you. If on the other hand, you think the break up is for the best, then start doing things to take your mind off of her. Going out with friends is a good idea. I would even go out on a date or two. Just don't try to compare the person that you're on the date with to her for better or worse. You spent a long time with her so it'll take a while but you'll get over it.

Is there more to the story here? Three years, she hears some bullshit, and she is going on what her "sisters" say? Something aint right.

If there is no trust there is nothing...No matter how hard it is...

Congrats, you learned something :thumbsup

Continue to stand your ground when she calls. Be happy to be single again, it only sucks as much as you want it to.

Well apart from arguments and fights.. which is pretty normal. No. She is obviously confused, and I can honestly say she will never find somone better then me. Call me cocky, I am. But it's the truth.

Who cares about the rest of the story, this is a blessing in disguise.

You're a free man now, Wes!!

It is actually nice to be free, but just hard to get her off my mind. But liquor and going out will do the job. I cant wait to get to mexico.

got any naked pics of her?

I do, but I have a little more respect for her.

I know exactly what your are going through. I've been there 4 months ago when my gf from 2 years broke with me... i tried everything since then, from meeting new girls (a lot), concentrate on business and hang on with friends. Let me tell you, unless you find your NEW girlfriend, meaning a girl who you feel really attracted to, don't go to the 'new girls' way since those temporary relations will end quickly and you will feel even worst... thinking that you will never find what you had with your gf again.

To be honest, hanging on with friends and working more was the best solution so far, although i think of her EVERY day. And i know the definitive solution will come when i fall in love again, thats the only truth... but you never know when that may happen.

Best luck to you!

There is a time for everything, being sad and being happy. It's all part of life, enjoy it all.

Thanks man.

Well then you are already ahead of the game, and on your way to moving on. :thumbsup

Be glad you don't have kids and don't look back unless it is to learn of your past mistakes.

If she doesn't have a mind of her own it would never workout anyway.. There will always be someone that wants the next person to be as unhappy as they are. Weak minds fall for that fast.

First thing you need to do is stop drinking. That's not going to make anything better at all.

I'd suggest you bury yourself in work. And you might find that you truly excel at it.

In a couple of months, maybe you guys will get back together. But if you are fighting and acting stupid as of late, then you don't want to continue that crap, it's just not healthy.

Don't let this become a situation where you are on the downslide. Take the energy it creates and move forward with it. That's your best chance to get over it or get it back together no matter how you look at it.

get your mind on something else, go for lots of walks, get a lot of fresh air, take a trip to some place you've never been to, talk to friends. get your mind off of her.

Post naked pictures of her on GFY, what else would you do?

What do you do?

You get two new girl friends.

Man... being American, you should know better than have only one girl friend. You always need a spare.

Young kids today...

You will never learn!

i'd take xlogger's advice :winkwink:

forget her and enjoy the freedom!!!!!!!;)

LOL:)))))))) :thumbsup

live does go on

After serious analyses i discovered the heartbreak feeling actually is FEAR (that you wont be able to find something similar and the lack of control because you cant decide for her to take you back). If you can do it fuck some other bitches.. although it will make you feel a bit empty and dissapointed it helps you get back on track.

Time does heal shit but it will take 6-12 months before youll be able
to date girls for more then just entertainment and sex.. the feeling will come back and time DOES heal everything.. although im quite sure you cant imagine that because simply getting her out of your head seems mission impossible.

Hang in there and let it be!

Looks like you got a get out of jail free card Wes.

Might not feel like it right now..but if she changes a 3 yr relationship over what some dumb ass chick tells her then you will be happier in the end without her.Sounds like unneeded drama. In about 2 weeks you will meet another hottie.

Been there my friend... my advice to you is go out 2nite, drink a bunch of redbull and vodkas and find yourself a sweet little thang to help you forget about her for the night...

sorry to hear that. I would feel the same if that happened to me. Good luck man.

Set her free.She will return if it's meant to be.

just start betting more and you'll get over it quick

THEN BANG HER MOM :winkwink:

i was with my ex for 5 years before leaving her after finding out she cheated on me... it sucks, it hurts, it's depressing, but looking back now i am damn happy i left her... i found someone who actually cares and treats me good, and we are planning our wedding... life moves on, just keep in mind things will get better eventually..

expose her videotapes, you must have made some

take some time off to go over the relationship in your head and see what happened. if you look back, you should find some things that happened and stuff that you can look for in the future or look to avoid in the future.

Thank you guys for all the replies. They truely make me feel a lot better. I know time will be the only thing that can really heal me. I just feel like a piece of me is missing. I mean tonite that will change. I will be going to a club and most definatly hitting up some vodka and red bulls. But I guess shit happens. I have to get my pimp mentality back.