Ok ladies, what's this weird ass girl thinking.
 

So I've gone out with this rock-star type asian girl 3 times now, 2x with some of her friends along... She's weird, *super* urban style, ex-club kid for sure.

She calls me or IM's me every day (met her on match.com btw), but won't let me pick her up when we go out, just wants to meet there. Says she doesn't like people knowing where she lives. WTF is that? I've talked to her EVERY DAY for two weeks, and met her three times!

Also, the second time I met her we went to a club with a bunch of her friends.. She didn't even really talk to me. I hung with her friends all night and then left her there.

I keep deciding that she's not into it and that I'm not talking to her anymore (not sure that I'm into it either honestly, but wtf, worth a shot), but then she calls for no apparent reason like we are best buddies.

Is this chick just off her rocker? :question

sounds a little bit weird. confront her.

Yes move on

Maybe she's had a stalker and doesn't want to go too fast

she obviously doesnt see this relationship as seriously as you do. Trust me on this one, this girl will break your heart if you dont walk away now.

I don't see it seriously at all... I just don't follow..

I'd have a one night stand with her if thats what she wanted, or give it a go at something more, just don't know why she keeps calling for no real reason. :glugglug

Her not wanting you to know where she lives = she doesn't want you meeting her live-in boyfriend.

Forget about her.

yup she has a boyfriend at home

That is a very interesting concept....

Makes sense! It always amazes me the quality of responses people give here, of course intermingled with cock jokes ;)

Expanation: You met her on Match.com

Need any more proof that she is fucked up?

Fuck her, then figure all that psychodramatic shit out later. You are overthinking the situation. What's important here is pussy. Keep that in mind.

Move on man nobody is worth those headaches...

Lol.. It is like hunting man! You have to understand the prey!

And btw, I've pulled some fine pussy off of match.com.

wow, 2 whole weeks?? She should let you move in and meet her family....not.

Seriously, it is very wise for her to meet you somewhere else. If she is calling you, then she is probably interested. I probably wouldn't tell someone I didn't really "know" where I lived either.

If you really want her (to be honest though I don't understand why) then make her chase YOU

For that long though? I've met her THREE TIMES! Honestly, I'm about the least intimidating person you could meet :)

I've been on many, many dates and picked the girl up on the first date. Never had anyone not want to tell me where they lived after three.

Maybe she lives at home

Maybe she lives in a trailer park.

It's either a shim or she's having you on the side :Graucho

sounds to me like she has had some rough relationships in the past and is being very cautious.. talk to her... smooth it out..

Or parents.

SpaceAce

One - She either lives with her husband/boyfriend or her parents...which all the asian girls I have know ( not a generalization ) their parents are very protective and the girls may even been older.

Two - don't worry about it, there are many fish in the sea! Find one that is into you and if she is worried about you knowing where she lives...earn her trust.

Bingo, or a girlfriend :Kissmy

Exactly, leave her alone.

What 'relationship'? They've only been seeing each other for a couple of weeks. They're just barely at the 'dating' stage, but I'd hardly call it a relationship.

You think it's weird to not invite some dude she met on the internet to her house? She'd be an idiot if she did. You could be some kind of axe murderer or serial killer. If you were some guy I was just dating, I'd meet you in public for our dates and when it was time to go home, we'd go our seperate ways. She's obviously interested, she's just being cautious and taking things slow.

Stick with it a little longer and see how it goes.

Yeah what can you loose? :)

Why not ask her, why you can't bring her home? Proberly ashamed of her parents/house etc

Maybe another reason, but just ask:)

As far as the club, and she "left" you alone with friends is kinda strange. Again just ask, maybe she is NOT as serious as you, maybe it is something else:)

Nothing wrong with dating girls from internet IMO btw. Just enjoy the time you spend with her, and you will see what the future brings

On the not having you know where she lives thing...that's not necessarily a bad idea. Maybe she has had a bad experience in the past.
On the other stuff...I don't know she just sounds super immature. How old is she? Like 18?

either she has a man at home, or she doesn't like having a bunch of men in and out her house.

She may have super strict parents at home... For all you know, she may even have to stop somewhere on the way home and change into her "good girl" clothes.

Or she may just be playing it smart. Maybe meeting in public 3 times is enough for you to trust someone with your home address, but that might not be the same for her. Different people have different views on how long they have to know someone to trust them like that.

And regarding her leaving you with her friends all night, that may have been the plan. Girls are notorious for wanting their friend's advice and opinions on everything, especially men. That whole night may have been her friend's time to scope you out and see what they thought. After you left, you may have been the entire topic of conversation for hours, who knows.

Or then again, she may just be a whacko. In which case, does she know where you live? :glugglug

Lol.
Do you realize you called the man "fucked up" ? :1orglaugh

You basically said it yourself - you're only looking for a hookup so start putting the moves on her.

Fuck going out to a club or movies or date shit - just invite her over to your place (unless you still live at home with your parents?!? heh heh) and get down to bidnez.

Either you're going to bang her, or you need to walk away. WTF?!?

Good call. It doesn't sound like this one is worth much if any trouble.

Wild guess....Is she Korean? What are you?

She is fucking around on a boyfriend or husband! :costumed-

She is Chinese and Philipino.

I'm about as white boy as they come... German, English, and Irish. :costumed-

Christ, I've heard some moronic advice throughout this thread.
Ok, Let's break it down a bit.

1. Doesn't want you to know where she lives.

This is not a big deal at all. So you've met her three times, and talked for two weeks? So fucking what, you want to go co-sign a house now?
- She has trust issues. Could be caused by previous experiences, being stalker, or people who have messed with her before.
- She is hiding something. Wether it be a very shitty living condition, weird family, something - anything whatever.

2. Calls you and acts like everything is ok.

This isn't a problem at all either.
- She doesn't think of you in any sexual way AT ALL. You even said the majority of the times you've been out was with her friends. So if you went to a club with friends, then just left. You think they're going to call you the next day in tears? No, w/e you wanted to go home.


Basically, your looking at someone who doesn't think of you as more than a friend. And who doesn't trust you enough to know where she lives (for good reason - you met on the internet).

Why don't you just be a man and ask her what she thinks of the relationship between the two of you.

Also.... She may be totally into you.

You've only talked to her for two weeks, and only met her three times.

She could be meeting you in public places - with friends; to make sure your not a fucking nut case.

Well, it was the stalker one.. apparently she had one.

Case solved, good catch Sherlock ;)

Most of your responses I don't buy though.. I've met a *lotttt* of girls from the internet (I'm a geek, what can I say). Probably 15-20 of them by now. This is the ONLY one who ever acted this way, hence the question. Also, you don't call random strangers that you don't trust because you think of them as "just friends".. Or at least I wouldn't.

Man you should ask her what would she want this relation ship to lead to and then tell her your point of view.. This must clear things up for you.
:glugglug

You win for the worst dating advice ever.

You ask some chick after 3 dates "where she wants this relationship to lead", and you don't get a 4th date...