Have You Ever Fallen In Love All Over Again With The Same Person?
 

After you've been divorced, or ended a long term relationship, has anyone gotten back together and fallen in love all over again? How did it go the 2nd time around? Same issues eventually reappear or did it work out better?

I think my ex is about to be knocking on my door again.

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Life is too short, its ok to let things slide now and again. Be happy:glugglug

The one that had 500 pairs of shoes?

i have no experience on this but it seems like maybe it would be better a 2nd time around especially if each of you saw what else was out there and had experienced dating other people. if you still like each other and are willing, why not give it another shot?

nope, when its over there was a good reason for it.

I do everything possible to keep the relationship open with communication etc. but if its over.. then theres not hope to start again... I never head backwards in my life - move on

Kinda going thru it right now. we have been apart for 2 years and have a daughter.

I would love to make it work but woman just can't trust me in this biz no matter what I do.


but we wil see what happens

Completely new things will come up and you'll eventually find a completely different hate for her than the one you had before.

:thumbsup :glugglug

Never done it - once she's an x it stays that way.
had a few try and come back, but no way not gonna happen.

I am in the process of doing so right now.

All these things I once loved about this person are still there and now much more.

Never close the door... My fiance and I dated for 9 years then broke up for 2. We both needed to grow up a lot and I certainly needed to mature. I took the time to party, sow my wild oats and figure out who I am as person.

We got back together on our own terms almost 2 years ago now and we are getting married in 6 months. :)

Never say never...

DH

Yeah, reunited with high school sweetheart after nine yers. Got married and divorced five years later. Biggest mistake of my life.

my parents got married, divorced, I grew up with my dad, she came back 10 years later and they will die in each others arms, never say never

I've seen it go both ways. You won't know without trying, and that's only if you want to make it work, otherwise don't bother trying because you're lonely or you've romanced it into something it wasn't.

Obviously there were some very good times and some very not so good times, just go slowly and see what develops.

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

Yeh, and I'm not in the frame of mind to become the funder of another collection of overpriced footwear once again.

krl.. very intresting just had this conversation today with a female friend... i think you can by all means but sometimes its hard to wipe out what went wrong in the first place...

it all depends on the situation and if the trust was broken..

Yeh same. We have a 10 year old son together. We see each other about 5 times a week, and she brings him to my offices every day after school.

I'm such a workaholic and that was part of the reason for our marriage breakup. I love my projects now even more than when I was married and its so nice living alone but sleeping alone has its downsides too.

Very hard question...If you were very young and both of you had time to grow and change then there is a good chance that you can fall in love again and make it work. Sometimes the first time around was just right person wrong time....However sometimes loving someone does not mean you are meant to be together for what ever reason and the loss the second time around is devistating!!!!

I love my Ex Boyfriend to this day and he loves me but he is a Manic Depressant and he want me to have a better life . I love him but I am not willing to take the abuse just to love him. We have fallen in love over again usually when he is taking his meds then he goes off of them and I realize it is just a never ending battle!

Good Luck!!!!!

Congratulations Mark! That's awesome!!

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Going through that now, and I'm happy about it. People sometimes need time to grow. I know in our case we needed to both spend some time getting our own lives in order, as well as learning to accept things about each other... Things are looking really good now, after being apart for over a year.

We've known each other for 17 years.

Hey where you at in Philly? That's where I grew up. We have a house out in Penn Valley.

Wow, 10 years later. That's amazing.

I guess there are cases where things are totally better the 2nd time and the fire reignites.

You are in a tough spot!!

I grew up in Northeast Philly (Washington High)
Lived in Jenkintown for 8 years now I am back in
the Northeast.

The biggest thing you two need to be careful of is your son. To give him the hope that you're reconciling and going to be a family together is great, as long as he doesn't watch you split up again.

I guess it could happen... it was there once

Yes... In my youth.... many times... with my own hand...

Yes, he is always our number one concern and priority.

That's why we both made a committment to be civil with each other when it was over.

No but just have an honest talk about all the issues you had before and see if you can get over them and if so good luck...

Is this the same woman who told you flat out that she only dates millionaires? How can a woman who thinks this way ever truly love her partner?

this gives me hope

I feel you the main reason things never work out for me is my work because of what I do and how much i work.

they don't get the attention they need. and they get jealous.


My ex's mom is our obsticle now.

Long term means longer then 2 years for me.

The story:
We broke up, haven't seen each other for a year. We met each other again on a nights out.
Haven't been without her for over 2.5 years. We got sick of each other again. Lot of fights. Turns out nothing has changed. Still the same things as the first break up.

We break up again.

Thats half a year ago.


I would have loved to go give you a positive story,. But there is none..

its the same thing over and over and over, you think it will changed and you will both change but it doesnt, people just plain old dont change,

now there is certain cases as if you were both in hard times in life and it was bad timing and you have both straightened your lives out, you never know what can happen.

but overall its a bad idea, its always hard at first to let certain people go, but in time you always realise there is a reason why you moved on in the first place.

I definitely believe in the second time around...I say give it a chance!

xoxo

no, when it's ove ,it's over

Hard one. Heard romantic stories and horrible ones.

If one goes to the extreme to get a divorce with children involved, they better be sure the commitment to stay together for the rest of lives is there if they get back together. It is hard on kids seeing mom and dad get back together, and then see them break up again. Through no fault of their own, children will blame themselves for the breakup once again. JMO.

Yes, she's now my Wife. 2nd time was fine. We are a lot more mature now :)

No, but I would like to believe it's possible.

Never give up on love. It's an awesome thing that only gets better with the years, even the second time around.

not sure i ever fell outta love to begin with, but, yea.

Maybe the time that has passed would result in greater understanding.

Yes I have , every time I look in the mirror:Graucho

it was the biggest mistake of my life 2nd time around everything was magnified.....the courtship.....the sex....the expectations....the non stop fucking complaining and for the love of God will you JUST SHUT THE FUCK UP FOR ONE FUCKING SEC.....

anyway...big mistake 5 years wasted

Every guy who is a millionaire has ex girfriends knocking at their door. Our duty is to slam the door on their faces.


fuckém, they are getting old anyway

This is my ex-wife not a girlfriend. I've known her for a 1/3rd of my life. She's beyond gorgeous. She's bright. She's funny.

I would never slam the door in her face no matter what she did or could ever do, she is the mother of my child and for that alone she gets "sainthood" in my eyes.

:321GFY

Ok, I did not know that info. I have ex girlfriends who dumped me years ago and now they want to get married to me. I have told all 3 of them to fuck off.

I guess you will be getting married soon?

Nope. People don't change.

Sad, but true.:(