*sigh* The arrangements
 

I just got back from arranging the funeral. It is going to be Thursday the 3rd of December at 10am. I am going to deliver the service. He wasn't very religious (read: not) but the only other option was a humanist person that never met him and the funeral person kept saying 'and doesn't believe'. My parents are very born again and that would hurt them. So, I figured that I was the one that knew him best and so I will do it. She said 'don't you worry you will cry?' Well..duh. Somethings are too important to wimp out of doing.

I just once again wanted to thank everyone. My mom is here so I won't be at the computer much the next couple days. I have told her of these wonderful warm hearted people I work with that have made me restore my faith in humanity. I can't tell her where you are all from as GFY kind of clashes with being born again but it made her feel like I was in good hands. Thank you all, again.

Stay strong and if there is anything you need just email me at [email protected] and i'll see what I can do...

always tough to reply on this even more since english isnt my native language... but : all the best, and of course its ok to cry, like you said people who you love should be remembered every damn day, if that makes you cry then thats more then fine

hang in there sarah, we're all praying for ya girl.

keep your chin up Sarah... I'm sure your religious parents are going on and on with the "he's in a better place now" thing... well, one thing to consider along those lines is... you now have one more angel looking down and taking care of you.

I hear Heaven even has plasma screen tv's to make watching all that much more clear too :winkwink:

Wow, Sarah, you have all of my respect. There's no way I could get through delivering a service for my husband without crumbling. You're so brave and strong.

My condolences again.

Be strong Sarah, and if you get a chance, could you please ICQ me? 16075497

sure, if you don't mind me doing it when my mom goes to bed...feel like I am teen again sneaking logging onto the old style BBS for porn.

Hope everything goes well for you.

Sarah, I didn't donate a lot but I hope it helped you. Find peace with things ok? You'll be fine :)

To everyone else - it was realy cool to watch everyone come together for one of their own, I was skeptical about this place at first, but I think I'll stay.

good luck and my prayers are with you

Yep, one of the hardest things when someone dies you don't even get time to grieve because of all the things you have to coordinate for the funeral.

Hang in there.

at your leisure

All the best.

Very true, it doesn't hit most people for a few days after the funeral, fully.

I am sure you will do well with the ceremony Sarah, your love for him will take over and will show how much you truly loved him.

Andy

keep your head up strong Sarah :)

Stay Strong Sarah. You are doing your husband one last wonderful, loving, noble service. It's what he deserves, and you will see it through. Best wishes, much luck and much love hon.

you have my prayers :thumbsup

Sarah, our hearts, thoughts and prayers are with you....
I am so very sorry for your loss....
if you need anything, Please, don't hesitate.

keepyour head up, you can do it.

take care :)

I wish everything goes right ... I think GFY is doing everything they can for you

okay..deep breth - they put down Thursday the 3rd on the papers. Slight problem in that the third is a Friday. So, I went slightly mental on the phone to them because it has to be Thurdsay since all my friends have now taken off work and my dad has to fly back on Friday. To kick it all they aren't open on the weekend so won't call me until Monday to tell me and if it is Thursday then it might now be that time.

*deep breath*

No offense, but i'm going to put my foot down now...

This is starting to get pathetic, go mourn your losses not report from a to z what is going on to gfy, this is an immature playground not a serious place to discuss your losses of loved ones

New Thread, He died

New Thread, Donations

New Thread, Making the arrangments

New Thread, Going to burry him today

New Thread, He's burried

New Thread, Feeling depressed

I mean come on?????????? Is this how you respect the dead? Bring all this on to gfy? Give me a break

:2 cents:

She can respect the dead any way she likes - it is HER husband, after all. Why do you care? Your post is the only one on this thread that contains any disrespect.

Boards act a support group for some. The fact that you don't understand that is your problem, and your post is in very, very, very poor taste.

Well said Cody.

Matthew, you're by all means entitled to your opinion, but the thoughtless way that you've chosen to express it certainly doesn't reflect well on you or your upbringing.

Well said. If she chooses to post here, then let her do her mourning in her own way.

Besides, GFYers are like a family anyway, especially those who have been around a while and actually get to know each other. A dysfunctional family, but family nonetheless.

Sarah, I'm not religious either, but you do have my warmest thoughts and hopes. If you need a shoulder, please don't hesitate to hit me on Q. I'm here for you if you need me.

Sarah, i think its amazing you are doing the service yourself, you have my respect for that. I buried my mum 8 years ago and i wish the service was different, the vicar had never met my mum and just got everything wrong. It made a very sad day even sadder...hence my respect. Be strong. (hug)

You ever heard of the saying "what ever gets you through ... "
I doubt it, but in plain English, this woman has sufferd loss and yes ishe s allowed to deal with it in any way she sees fit!!!

No one is forcing you to read her posts, just fuck of someplace else if you dont like what you see. In my view and im sure many others here, Sarah can keep on posting and posting for as long as she likes on this sad matter.

Now run along and put your dummy back in your mouth
:mad:

Take care Sarah.

"Your post is the only one on this thread that contains any disrespect."

Or i am the only one with enough balls to say hey, wait a second, what the fuck are you all doing?

I have talked to a few people, they feel the same way

gfy = criticism, get use to it, fucking circus

Take care and stay strong

Matthew I think you have to remember that when working in an online position like we all do we spend an enormous amount of time online and those that have customer rep and sales jobs spend a lot of time on the boards creating board personas and identities that will be recognized. It becomes a daily routine and ritual for many. I'm not speaking for Sarah but i'm sure that considering the situation she was in with a handicapped husband she didn't do a lot of "social" activities and the boards become an outlet for fun, business and other things. For her to grieve with her friends on the communities is as natural as having a wake in your home that your office co workers attend.

Sarah.. One of the things that got me through my dad's death is thinking (if you believe in an afterlife) that he would now be able to walk again and go fishing and chase all the cute nurses that he had been eyeballing when he was hospitalized.. :)

Be strong Sarah. That's what your husband would want from you now. Take care.

Nope. You're the only one who thinks posting this kind of thing means you have balls.

It's that old excuse "Hey, I'm just being honest" to cover for abusiveness.

There's no possible decent motive you could have for posting what you did, and that's the actual truth.

I have alot of motive for posting this, i think it is pathetic, and it is not classy nor tasteful what she did.

But i'm not going to argue my opinion with a bunch of monkeys for 3 days across 10 page thread lol

talk to you all another day :)

Fuck off Matt

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She is sharing things with her online family. If you don't like, don't read it.

Now, go crawl back under the rock you slithered out from under.

60 posts dedicated to a board with a bunch of monkeys? I would find something better to do in your position. :2 cents:

Yes, and it is very classy to kick a widow while she's down.

Your motive was to use the tragedy of another as your soapbox, so you could puff out your chest and prove that you are 'man enough to swim against the tide'.

Neither classy or courageous.

soul rebel

well shit, if it took you 22,000 posts to be a somebody, yet your still a nobody from what i can tell then what more have you accomplished?

;)

Well said!!

I never said I'm somebody, but I don't claim to spend my time with monkeys. ;)

It's all about karma BOY, it will always come back around to you :)

Actually, your all wrong, because i could really give a fuck :)

Kicking a widow down, get real, i was merley stateing i think it is pathetic how people take this stuff to a public forum

Wishing you all the best.

Don't back down now Matt, we see your true side. Come on, please let us know how you really fucking feel??

ya ya

karma is a bitch pays back 2 : 1

I hope my friends have more class and taste then to come to a circus like this and announce my death. They can announce it, but i wouldn't want them to announce it in this mannor.

Sextoydumbfuck, does it make you feel smarter to try to talk and understand wise words?

PS. If i was her boss and i had alot of funds available, i'd tell her to take off work, i'd front her a few months pay if she NEEDED it, and that is that. Class. I can be a mean mother fucker, but when i need to handle a situation it gets done in the mannor i feel best about.

Good luck, Sarah. I think I would want to do the same (do the service myself), but have no idea if I could. Stay strong, and don't be afraid to ask the people around you for help. Let someone else do the cooking and dishes and laundry for a while, to help take the pressure off.

Yeh, I always try and be smarter then some foolish person who would post such garbage..

Look I don't waste my time now pissing with degenerates as yourself.

Point is: We were all trying to share our love with Sarah in the way we wanted to. If she wants to posts 5 million times about what happended, that is her choice.

Buzz off newbie..