What would you do if you found out that your son or daughter was gay?
 

What?

Get drunk :glugglug

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I would say have you been hanging out with that strange Head fellow again?...:Graucho

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You funny guy, i kill you last.

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I have been asked this alot... and it's always the same answer. I have 4 kids, ages 20, 15, 10 and 6. If one of them came and said that they were gay, I wouldn't really "DO" anything....... other than support them on it, I figure they have made their decision and there isn't a way to change it so why should I? They are my kids and I love them unconditionally.

NOW, I wouldn't really "want" this for them just for the simple fact they would have a hard road ahead of them, I know how very brutal people can be, but if this is what they want, or who they are, then I am ok with this. I don't want them to make ANY decision that is going to make their lives more difficult than they already are, but they are humans and they chose their paths, the least I can do is support them on this, something I never got when I was growing up.

The thing is, we don't get to choose, and I firmly believe this, WHO we fall in love with, and I am ok with this. I WANT them to chose someone who is good to them, loves them and loves them unconditionally just as me and their dad does..... as long as they have this in their lives, I don't really care of they are same sex or opposite sex, as long as the other half loves them and respects them as I do, that's really all I can ask or expect.

i will accept the fact that he/she is a gay.... as long as they doesn't harm anyone :321GFY

Be a Vice President?

Your making it sound like being gay is a bad thing?

That doesn't bother me at all...

I'll be amazed if my father/mother confessed they are actually (BOTH!) gay. That'll be something ...

You accept it because they did not choose to be gay they were born that way....

If I found my son was gay I would have a harder time with it then if I found out my daughter was gay. Flame away.

Just being honest

I don't give a shit. But i'm curious to see what GFY thinks.

I wouldn't do anything different. Just continue loving him or her like I had their whole life.

Pretty simple if you ask me.

nothing. i could care less.

I wouldn't do anything differently...keep loving them just the same. I would just be grateful that they felt close enough and accepted enough to tell me.

Took the words right out of my mouth... though I diagree with your choice in words when you say "I figure they have made their decision".

Not being gay myself, if someone who knows better tells me that "being gay" was not a choice, and just the way they turned out, I'll trust their word considering I'm not really one to talk on the subject.

Any other thoughts?

First, I would be shocked because I didn't know I had a son or daughter.

Second, I would wonder why I wasn't able to tell my child was my son or my daughter.

So, in Holland we dont mind
We even support it comming out of the closet

It is racial to have a opinion about it
Because your beeing, and your caracter are a pure thing
ANd if your daughter or son hase the balls to tell this to his parents, then in his life he can resolve everything

It is a fact that many TOP positions in Holland are filled with GAY people, and they dont hide behind there desks

So, gay or not gay
What is the fucking question ??

Regards

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i'd prolly just have a drink, and ask him if he's sure.

This is probably a typical feeling, even if people won't admit it.

It seems to be it's okay to be a gay female, but not a gay male in today's society. I wouldn't bat an eye at two teen girls holding hands walking through the mall, but most people would at two teen guys holding hands in the mall.

Sad, but true.

I'd send them to a military boot camp.

very hard question...it is all up to free will?

well there's plenty of politically correct commentary in this thread.

the truth is, if you are a parent of boys, and you love your boys you don't want them to be gay mostly because they have a high statistical chance of dying.

people don't like to talk about it---but the truth is HIV is on the rise again amongst young gay males in the world.

that's something the gay agenda doesn't like to talk about. it might be fashionable to be a rump wrangler in the days of will and grace, and queer eye for the straight guy, but the truth is parents are still burying their gay sons due to aids.

I have to agree with this.....

better respect "their choice or decision" than loose them...

This should be good..ok..what IS the "Gay Agenda"?

When you say the "gay agenda" doesn't like to talk about hiv & aids I think you must have your head BURIED in sand as the gay community LED the fight for education, medication, and safer sex beginning in the 80's. In fact today, most gay men are much more educated about the hiv virus than straight dudes.

Now if you want to talk accurately about the increasing rates of hiv, it's among STRAIGHT people of color, especially women. I suppose they have an agenda too then eh?

I would keep a relationship with them, but I wouldn't want to discuss their love life -- at least not beyond informal and superficial conversations. Otherwise, I'd try to remain on good terms and keep things as normal as possible.

I'd buy them that Holy grilled sandwich off eBay and tell them Mary, and Jesus don't approve of their behaviour.

"Look into the eye's of Mary son, praise be"

A few facts mixed in with a huge dollop of bullshit.

AIDS has nothing to do with being gay and everything to do with practising safer sex (or rather not doing so for those that caught it and of course ignoring druggies etc etc). I would hope my child is intelligent enough to know the risks of unprotected sex and do something about it whether gay or straight.

As for my child being gay - it may even be a relief. A lot of gay people I know/met are far better adjusted than most straight folks.

i wouldnt care much

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Live with it, who cares?.

ok, whatever.

http://www.usatoday.com/news/health/...hiv-rate_x.htm

I would have a BIG problem with that, not sure what I would do though.

i will be confused and i would have to aske why then i will love them again and wish them the best .

ask Creative's mom. She posts here sometimes.

I really don't know what am I gonna do.....I just hope thsi won't happen to me ....... :(

couldnt care less as long as he/shes happy im happy :)

You little carpet munching bitch. Let daddy take some pics for the website.

Sexual preference has nothing to do with race.

I would still accept him and love him. He/she is still my son, with a heart of a girl. The most important thing for me is my son's happiness. Mine is just secondary. Nothing is different or has changed. I won't and will not take it against him or w/ anybody if they decided to be gay/lesbian. I beleive people are equalwhatever their race, beliefs or aspects in life are. And that goes the same with the other sexes.

What CAN you do? There is nothing any parent would be able to do. For your own good, you need to accept it.

Thanks for the link but it tells me nothing except that in a few states the hiv rate has gone up for gay men.

It doesn't tell me about the "gay agenda" that you were talking about. Still would like to know what the gays have on their agenda that you seem privy too.

And I notice that you didn't say a thing about the fact that people of color have had the largest increase in their hiv rate over the last 5 years..not gay men.

feel shock at first but will understand afterall he/she's my own