love between people you are not related to...
 

does it really exist? if so, how do you define it?

cheers....

I gather that weekend in Whistler is going rather well :)
WG

Are you being cynical?

Love is staying with your wife when you could be richer, freer, getting laid more and generally having more fun on your own...

And vice-versa.

(I'm assuming you're not related to your wife ;))

love between non relatives never seems to be the same with any two different people....

it's always different

stats say married people have more sex than single ones.

a lot more

okay, i'll digress a little further. my dad, and my brother, i love to the point i would easily take a bullet for them.

i'm sure many will says they'd do the same for their spouse/sig other, but over 50% of these people end up broken up/divorced.

just trying to start an interesting thread :)

Can't say I've ever really been in love so I wouldn't know

What I can never understand is how someone can be so 'in love' with another person and suddenly shut it off, like a faucet, because of one thing or another.

I've seen it time and time again, but I cannot understand it. To me, an emotion is not attached to an on/off switch.

i agree. when you have that feeling for a person it's always there. circumstances can tell you the relationship isn't right - but that feeling is always there.....

yes, and this is the crux of the question.

have you always been on the best of terms with you dad and brother?

relationships get stronger and weeker - love stays

sometimes love can never be define by words.

I'd take a bullet for my son and my dog and that's it.

Exactly.. LOVE is not the end all and be all of everything.. It's wonderful, but in some relationships there comes a point in time when the wonder of love isn't worth the pain and suffereing the other party may inflict/experience.

Same here, I would die for my children, but I'd also die for my husband. He's my lifemate in every possible way. I wouldn't be whole without him.

Love is an illusion that only causes weakness, and is best avoided :2 cents:

I am very much in love with my wife and know that I can trust her with anything...

When you put their needs ahead of your own.

i love my family because i have had 29 years of good times and hard times with them.

now ask me the this question after i spend 29 years with a woman and i will be able to give the same answer. that is if i can find a woman to spend 29 years with:)

I cannot stand most of my BLOOD relatives, so it's hard for me to say.

I love my kids, husband, parents, and I like my friends and in laws a whole bunch. That's about it. :glugglug

If you would do _anything_ for the person. OR you when u get they shitty feeling inside if they're not aroud.

All emotions are just millions of years of natural selection at work.

Quiet. You say you'd take a bullet for your brother or Father. I'd do the same. Anyone of my close family members, mum, gran, etc.

Also tho, I have a collect group of friends I would do ANYTHING for. I'd take a bullet for them in a minute. My best friend and his girlfriend, they are part of my life. My best friend I've known for 16 years out of my 21 years on this planet.

My girlfriend, I'd do anything in this world for her also. I love her so dearly. Love in my opinion is something you always work at, it grows stronger day by day. I've not ever fell out of love with anything yet in my life. I guess one day I will. I don't look forward to it but it'll happen.

Intersting question, quiet.

My closest blood relatives...there's a lot of love there in the "need-an-organ-here-you-go" sense, but not always a lot of "like". Just very different people. For me it's a love that's based in shared genetics and having more history with them then anyone else.

Somehow though I've managed to build a little "operational" family -- people I have no relation to, but who are as much family to me as my biological one. There's most definitely love that's manifested between us.

The love you feel for someone you fall in love with...well, that's the stuff that poets and writers have been trying to capture into words forever. Not even going to try here :)

that should be obvious, you have 24/7 access to someone who loves to fuck you (if the marriage is successful). im sure it goes down with age tho. he could of been referring to get laiding with other ppl perhaps?

:glugglug

I think love is one of those things that if you overanalyze it or hold your expectations too high, it won't exist for long. Like they say, there's a fine line between love and hate.

I know it exists but like it's been said in the above posts, it's on a case by case basis. What a lot of people don't understand is, all relationships have their ups and downs and they will hit a stale patch on occasion. That's life and circumstances. Someone worth being in a relationship with will stick with you in the hard times, someone who probably isn't on the same level as you, will bail at the first sign of boredom or other issues.

To me, true love is unconditional. It's forgiving, it's accepting, it's understanding, it's patient, it's not superficial, it's not materialistic and it's trusting. When you love someone, you won't notice their flaws or stress over their imperfections (be it physical or mental), you will just love them as a whole and not in a selective order.

This all probably sounds unrealistic, but it only sounds unrealistic when you have to force yourself to do all of those things. When it happens naturally, you won't even notice you are giving/receiving all of those things, all the time.

I know love exists... and I also know what it's like to have your heart torn out. Grief is the worst kind of pain. Sometimes I think humans are the unluckiest species in the world when it comes to emotions and thinking in general. :disgust

I've wondered about this for quite a while, I've come to the conclusion that because you love someone doesnt necessarily mean you have to be with them. The shutting off is simply a defense mechanism and doesnt mean deep inside they have stopped loving you.

:(

yeah i met girls like that

i hate when people do it

that is not real love i guess

Original post:
okay, i'll digress a little further. my dad, and my brother, i love to the point i would easily take a bullet for them.

i'm sure many will says they'd do the same for their spouse/sig other, but over 50% of these people end up broken up/divorced.
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There's many differing kinds of love

There's family love.

Romantic love.

And yes, love for your fellow humans (called "goodwill")


You really can't confuse one for the other. Each has a differing purpose. :2 cents:

Even true Love is not permanent.
In 100% of cases, sooner or later it fades away.

This is just how life is. Can't do anything about it

Well said Furious Female.
WG

Thank you very much! :)