do you care / want to find out about your girlfriends past?
 

its a dilemma I'm faced with...

I am gay
what about you? is it important for you to know your boyfriends past?

or do you not care? as long as he is good and loyal to you?
try to keep a blind eye, that sorta thing...


anyways, just a confused dude looking for enlightenment here :glugglug

Good question.

I'll just listen to what people have to say on the topic.

I already know about my wifes sexual past.. I was her first.. Everything from there is new writing in the book....

bdjuf, I know where your coming from. I use to get mad about my gf's past. Then I asked her about it and it wasnt much. I felt a lot better when I found out. I mean of course I was mad first when she told me some things but then I told her the things i've done and it made her so sad. Haha. But its good to know the past. If you wanna chat about it anytime icq me bro: 289816531

Ignorance is bliss isn't it

A girl I dated for a couple years told me she used to be a lesbian when she was in college. It weirded me out at first, because she didn't seem like one at all and was a big flirt with guys. She said it was just a phase she went through and wasn't into women any more.

some things are better left unsaid

Put it this way..If she knew about my past ,she would freak...so I don't ask about hers

nope not Insecure to let shit like that get to me.

In fights some stuff comes out. But my gf was my first and thats all that matters. My dick wouldnt fit the first couple times, But after trying and patience I got it in. Blood was all over my sheets. Was kinda gross, but then pretty pimp to tell your friends its the 4th virgin you've landed.

:: Don't let my gf read this ::

hmmm, in that case I guess I am pretty insecure when it comes to girls and their pasts... :(

Let me phrase this in a better way. I was her first.

I am like that too man. I have her on check. Make the girl need you. And think about this. Just think that its her loss if anything man. Not yours. :thumbsup

If it bothers you, find out now before you find out later. :2 cents:

much better... I added you on ICQ btw



but I mean, I want to find out if my girl was a "good girl". but if i were to find out that she wasn't, that she slept with a guy she just met or something, I don't even know how I would react, it would kill me inside :(

bdjuf, has any of your past ex-gf's cheated on you? That could be why you are insecure. I know damn right thats why I am. My ex cheated on me with some chump. I told myself she would be back. What do you know when I found a new gf she tried talking to me. I ignored her. When I was with her she kept telling me break up with her come back with me. Of course I hit it on the side. You know how we do.

the whole reason I decided to actually have this girl as a girlfriend is because I care for her enough to say no to all the other girls, and I am talking about enough girls to give me at least 10 cheating opportunities since we started going out... (bout 3 weeks)

with that care and attachment, comes everything else I feel and think about...

who cares it wont last anyways enjoy for now and dont stress

never, I have only had 2 "relatively serious" relationships in the past and 1 lasted 2 weeks and the other lasted 3 weeks :1orglaugh

Im all about fooling around with 3 different girls a week :helpme

If you're not Catholic and about to be ordained as a secular priest from some obscure sect that still believes in it, then I'd suggest you skip the self-flagellation.

The things that are important will come out over time, especially if you let her tell you her past in her own way.

Ya I definetly get curious from time to ttime

interesting, but how can I "go against myself" and try not to think about stuff, when these stuff are important to me and to my own personal growth?

how can you keep a blind eye to a matter that is important to you?

you sound like a 18 year old girl thats new to the dating game

get over it

As Chris Rock always says

"just be glad she's fucking you now, you don't wanna know shit!!"

"Everygirl has a 5 dick curve, if she says only 2 guys she means 7. She only counts boyfriends not one night stands or the time she fucked Bobby Brown in Jamaica".

LOL!

DH

for that god invented




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haha, well I am sorry I am not as evolved as you are in this aspect

but it appears as if alot of people on the board so far, regardless of their age, understand my feelings :glugglug

:1orglaugh

have you ever hooked up with a girl one night stand? I fucked some chick that I just met just two hours before by her coming over to watch a movie. I found out she was getting married like two months later lol. But anyway.. if you recently got married I might have fucked your girl. This goes to anyone reading

yes yes many times, I have done alot of shit for someone like myself...

but to me, IT DOESNT MATTER what Ive done, but it DOES matter what she has


hehe, I'm fucked up :1orglaugh

Honey, it is not a matter of your personal growth.

It's a matter of your own morbid curiousity, measured against how many times you stopped to watch a train wreck.

Leave it alone, it really doesn't matter. You'll get to the end of the road eventually, just take your time and make sure you follow the road signs.

just think of how she would feel if you told her about your past. i agree "some things are better left unsaid". you don't want to find out that she used to get double teamed every weekend.

thanx alot Kim :thumbsup

Women are hoes, they have a long nasty history and you are supposed to know it. If she tries to live it down and wants you to forget tear her asshole apart for old times sake and kick her to the curb.

but I want to know that my girlfriend, the girl I really care about, is a good clean girl... I don't like the fact that I (MIGHT) be dating a slut, and I don't know about it...

Just remember that every relationship is different :)

FROM MY EXPERIENCE

YOU are better off not knowing. What's in the past . . . leave in the past. You're WAY better off that way dude.

Might I also suggest you that rethink your classifications when deciding you are in a position to judge other people.

probably...

thanx for sharing your experience

but I can't say no to curiosity.... (curiosity killed the cat!)

Just ask her about her sluttyness and compensate by violating her like no one else. If she complains choke her.

its easy to do that when you dont CARE ABOUT THE PERSON :1orglaugh

hell no

Choking is cool as long as it is not consensual. You should show her how much you care and share the pain. :1orglaugh






Ok, I need to know things and I'm perverted so I'll stop responding but I wish you luck :thumbsup

From a female. A lot guys want to know the past. It really doesn't matter; it is the past. If she likes you, she will share her past and hope for trust. :)

thanx for the good luck I guess :1orglaugh :thumbsup

Knowing about her past has NOTHING to do with HER. Its ALL got to do about YOU and YOUR ego and curiosity. If you dig who she is today then leave it at that.

Opening doors that are none of your business can only cause trouble. And if it happened BEFORE she met you then its none of your concern. You cant judge her by her yesterdays anyway. All you can get out of it is bothered at best.

I've lived and I have learned.... I didnt invent the rainy day. I just happen to own a GREAT umbrella!!!

:thumbsup

hmmm, interesting POV, I will have to think about that one...

Dude (Kard63 ) . . . Plz get rid of that nasty ass sig. of yours: 'MyAssUnderGlass.JPG'

Then you dont really care about her like you are saying that you do.

Who cares about her past? If shes with you now, and you are into her, what does it matter if shes a slut or a good girl?

If you dont want to date sluts, then be a prick and ask about it up front. Dont do the crap of "oh, I really care about you, but oh, you had a threesome 4 years ago> I cant date a slut like you, bye"

Pussy. Get over it or get out of the relationship. You didnt go into it saying "i'll only fall for you if you are a good girl." You fell, now deal with the good things you have now, dont dwell in the past when she didnt know you.

More mystery, less history :2 cents:

If you are so very worried about her past, you should be looking for a virgin straight from the seminary. Unless you can handle it, don't ask... and if you're letting the PAST eat away at you, you need to do some soul-searching, because that's a sure indication of self-confidence issues. Someone who's confident in themselves doesn't let the past dictate the present, no matter how sordid they might find it.