I officially quit....
 

smoking pot. My husband, too. Someone called DCF and they showed up today with a deputy. Thank God I have my kids, and the cop didn't take any of us in for possession, though my husband did get a citation for possession under 20g and has to go to court. We'll be under state supervision with home visits and urinalysis, and hubby will probably get probation and get UAs there, too, but we are cooperating completely. Our kids are soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo..... worth it. Yeah, I know, we shouldn't have done it in the first place. True, but we did, and now we are accepting the consequences of our choices. Still, something in me finds it disturbing that it is legal for us to get jackhammer drunk but not stoned. Stoned people are way more calm and non-violent than drunk people, so which would you prefer YOUR parents to be? lol But whatever hoops they set up, I'll jump through like a kangaroo to keep my four awesome kids.
So anyway.....where is it legal? We're wating to move away from hurricane Alley, anyway, lol

that sucks.. fucking cops should spend there time locking up killers and rapists

yea your a real winner.

Not bad, good thing they got you early and when it's easy to recover.

Even then, it's still not much time. I feel for anyone that has to take piss test tho. :(

Move to British Columbia, you'll never have a problem again.

We have seriously relaxed our laws here in UK over pot, the police dont want to waste their time dealing with people who just want to smoke a lil weed.
But saying that I quit 10 years ago anyway :)

watch your fucking sassy lip boy.



chase:

It's good that you have some motivation (although it's forced) to quit. it's not a great habbit to keep anyhow. trust me, your kids won't grow up liking the fact that their parents are potheads, my gf's parents are both big potheads and her n' her sisters hate it.

Bummer. :(

Good luck with the transition and changes.

I hear ya, but we tried to make the best of it and turn it into an opportunity to be an example for our kids. We made a mistake, and we're taking responsibility for it. We were honest with the boys, who are 9 & 10, because they knew anyway, according to the social worker and cop. We told them that we did smoke pot, and explained the trouble it did get us in, and how bad it could have been, and told them how we are choosing to put our family first from now on, the way we should have in the first place. Hopefully it will deter them from making the same mistakes, AND show them how to handle a situation where you get busted doing something wrong.

Sorry but it serves you right. :321GFY In my opinion you should have had your kids taken away too. With parents like you, no wonder why kids today grow up doing the things that they do.
You know it is illegal and you shouldn't have done it. :feels-hot

Im all for smoking pot and shit but damn I'd never be doing it if I had kids. I mean, it Is illegal.

Damn there are some harsh people here. Harsh, perfect people who never make any mistakes ever and therefore have full right to pass judgments on others..


Anyway back to reality, good luck and best wishes and applause for doing the right thing when push came to shove :) :thumbsup

good luck in quitting, you should never have pot around the kiddies.

Yeah, asshole, that's what I said. I'm sure my kids would be much better off in foster care with 18 other kids and parents who possibly abuse the confused little kids they take in to collect a check. Really.
Don't pass judgement on me...you don't know me. My kids are cared for better than a lot of children. We don't have much, but they have food, clothes, a warm bed, and a lot of love. We did make a shitty decision, and we ARE FACING IT, and fixing it, so shut the fuck up. Wait til you make a mistake with your kids...we ALL do it. What if you spank your a little to hard and it leaves a mark, or you lose your kid in a store for a few minutes....should you lose your kids over that mistake when you are willing and happy to recify the situation? Who really suffers more then? The kids!!!!!
Yeah, I did fuck up. And I'm adult enough to admit it, and change it, so if you feel you have to knock somebody to feel superior, go knock somebody else. I've been knocked enough today.
Edit: BTW, we kept it in a locked safe, and never did it in front of them. I know it doesn't make a difference, legally....I just wanted it noted that we weren't passing it around in front of them. It was always a late night, after the kids were in bed thing.

It shouldn't be...
Neighbors are assholes I say kill them all.

move to bc it's pretty open here for people that smoke pot.

You people make me laugh. Every one of you probably smokes pot (or has) and I'm sure the majority of GFY are potheads.
Sorry about the situation. Why did someone call you in and who was it?

All I can say is: Amazing it took a near arrest to make you realize all this.

Which would i prefer by parents to be? drunk or stoned? can I choose none of the above? :)

Anyways, good luck with doing the right thing. You won't regret it and your kids are well worth it

Nowhere in the US is it "legal". Some states and cities have passed laws making it legal for medicinal use (although, it's still a federal crime) and some cities have made it lowest priority for cops, but again... still illegal.

Did I miss the part where they learned about your use? Who turned you into DCF?

I agree that it should be legal if drinking is legal. Your just as likely to do something damaging when you're drinking.. even more so because pot makes you a little lazy. :1orglaugh

Good luck to you in your decision. And be sure to tell your local representatives in government that the law is bullshit. There are places you can go online to get some help with contacting them. Check NORML and http://www.mpp.org/USA

Move up north, we're frendly :)

good thing they stopped you before you fell into coke and crack!


That's how it happens right?? :uhoh

I am against smoking pot but i'm not going to pass judgement it's not my place but you have my respect for your willingness to do anything for your kids...:thumbsup

fuck that nonsense - the only time you shouldnt do it is in front of your kids or when you are carrying them ... otherwise it makes me want to vomit that cops are annoying people smoking pot. fucking land of the free and liberty and budweiser for all...

yeah it sucks that cops worry about the welfare of children.
Get a clue before you start bashing cops.:321GFY

your neighbors suck.. you shouldnt smoke pot if you are suppose to be watching the kids though..

sorry to hear abotu that Chase!! I think that sometimes people have to mtob...

I don't agree with smoking around the kids at all but as long as they are sleeping and aren't in any harm then I guess it would be o.k sometimes.

I personally wouldn't choose to do that but then again, I don't smoke.

Good luck in your decision and I'm glad that you're not taking this lightly :):thumbsup

You guys are fucking pathetic.
No im not talking about chase. It looks like she realizes what is right for her children.
I am talking about all the idiots that come up with scenerios when its "ok" to do something illegal, like smoke pot. Or find it suitable to play on double standards, when its something they "enjoy" themselves.

ie:
Tom_PM posted:
"Damn there are some harsh people here. Harsh, perfect people who never make any mistakes ever and therefore have full right to pass judgments on others.."

You are absolutely right genius. People do wrong shit all the time, and people judge them on it. If someone stole your content or site design you sure as fuck would be calling them a theif and be calling for justice, wouldn't you? hmmm let's see that would be passing judgement.
Now back to reality... ITS NOT COOL TO PICK AND CHOOSE WHAT YOU WANT TO BITCH ABOUT. IF ITS WRONG OR ILLEGAL, THAT MEANS IT'S WRONG OR ILLEGAL. Double standard.....


mookienow posted:
"Neighbors are assholes I say kill them all."

Yeah its the neighbors fault.
Idiot...


Mikey_219Inc posted:
"fuck that nonsense - the only time you shouldnt do it is in front of your kids or when you are carrying them"

This is by far the most ignorant statement of the week. So would it be ok if I hacked your server and took down all of your sites, only because you weren't getting much traffic anyways?
While I am at it, I am sure it will be ok to steal the stereo out of your car?

Go ahead and flame me and tell me "Smoking pot is not that big of a deal, and not as bad as stealing"

Make yourselves look like junkies and come up with some more excuses, and please by all means play the double standard card when its convenient for you.

:thumbsup

lol

well atleast u guys learned a lesson

no, they want to move. :1orglaugh

i never started, so no quitting for me ;)

Maybe you would have a bit more than not much if you were not blowing your money on weed. Just a silly thought.

The land of the free :1orglaugh

good luck with that, it isn't easy . . . .but in reality, you should not have been getting high around them anyway (but you probably know that)

If you have an oral fixation that needs soothing, you know where to find me :)

Holy shit that's brutal! For a first offense!? In California I doubt you would even have gotten a slap on the wrist. In Canada they would laugh and tell you to save them one for after their shift.

if they're americans with drug convictions on their records they won't be getting into BC or many foreign places outside of the USA unfortunatly.

It's still illegial in BC - the police just don't go after it.

i hear there's places like that in northern california too but i'm not sure.

i don't smoke pot but i have a criminology degree and i believe pot SHOULD be legal - it's a LOT better than booze.

i find it hard to believe someone with a criminology degree would make a statement like this.

how about his one instead?

"i believe rape SHOULD be legal - it's a LOT better then murder."

Coming from somebody that spells 2 out of 5 words incorrectly.

Good decision....

:thumbsup

neighbors?

AGREED!

Chase, you need to grow the fuck up and accept some responsibiity! Just because you chose not to practice safe sex, you're now responsible for 4 children...why did you wait so long to quit smoking pot!?!? :eek7

Grow the fuck up and raise your children in a responsible, loving home! Jesus, it's not that hard of a concept to grasp! I have no problem with single people with no children wasting their lives away smoking bud but once a child is introduced into the mix, your entire approach to life needs to change!

Sorry, I take this personal because I have known and still know people in very similar situations AND IT STILL PISSES ME THE FUCK OFF!!! A TOTAL LACK OF RESPONSIBILITY IN RAISING A CHILD IS AN ABOMINATION. PERIOD!!!

Depends who called child services. Kind of think there is more to the story than being told here. Most states would document the case and follow up then proceed with the courts to implement a rehabilitation plan to keep the family together.

A very good friend had child services visit their home a few years ago. Her daughter told the class that her stepfather drank and smoked pot outside. The teacher over reacted and thought the child was in harm. It turned out that step dad was rolling his tobacco and drinking a glass of wine.

It was an eye opener for my friend. They did get family counseling (on their own) to help the kids cope with the divorce and the remarriage.

Chase, no kid wants a drunk or a pothead as a parent. Sorry that the authorities had to make this decision for you or maybe they are just giving you and your husband a hard push in the right directions. Either way, good luck in quitting and being there for your children.
:)

I second that.

Just my personal opinion... when kids start to pop out, the partying needs to slow down. Little guys and girls take a lot of work and totally depend on their parents, mistakes happen when judgment is clouded by drugs and alcohol.

No drink or smoke is worth losing your kids over.

You should have known better, and I believe that you should have been bitch slapped for doing that shit with your own kids anywhere near.


However. There is no reason short of physical or mental abuse to take you kids away.


I just hope that you remember that they WILL take your kids from you and they will end up exactly as you described above if you get caught again.

Pothead parents suck. I believe pot should be as legal as alcohol, but once you have kids the time for substance abuse is over. When you have kids you must decide to do what's right for them, not just continue doing whatever the hell you feel like doing... When you have kids, the rules change, and you give up the right to be selfish or irresponsible. And if you were actually doing this around them , where they could be affected by inhaling your smoke, then yeah, you should have them taken away. Not just because of the pot, but because someone with judgment that poor can't be trusted to provide a proper upbringing.

i also agree with camchicks. how do you explain to your kids what pot is when they find your stash? oh, its great grandmoms secret pasta basil?

Although an occasional toke don't hurt nobody as long as it away from children.:2 cents:

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