dating question...
 

Ok I need some advice from fellow webmasters...

Ok so here is the scoop.. I was dating a psycho bitch and then stoped talking to her and met this other girl that is really cool, very smart, shares the same opinions, doesn't like to cuddle that much, etc... so pretty cool, EXCEPT she is overweight.. She is not obese, but like maybe 20-30 lbs overweight.. and I just can't find her sexually attractive, and its starting to fuck things up... I am working my magic on getting her to lose weight but my patience is thinning... I already got this other cute and younger girl that is interested and I could pursue it, but I hate doing that because it just makes things all stressfull and complicated again.. having to juggle girls.. I used to speed date and fucked alot of girls, but I am getting older and getting tired of that shit.. I need to concentrate on my career, etc..

so what do you guys/gals think? Should I stick it out with the slightly overweight girl that has an awesome personality and could be my best friend or do I get some shit going on the side?

any ideas?

thanks

if you're that superficial then you don't deserve that girl.

diet??

superficial??? you gotta be kidding.. if I was stuck up I wouldn't have let it go this far.

So according to your logic, you must date the ugliest whore on the planet and still think she is beautiful? gimme a break..

I wish I was attracted to her like a hot piece of ass, but I am not, and its NOT under my control, its biological..

Eh, she's just overweight isn't she? not the ugliest whore on the planet. Please think...

yeah your right, but why would you call me superficial? how can you force yourself to be attracted to someone your body doesn't allow?

no. you're superficial because she fufills you in every other way but how she looks.

and to tell you the truth, everyone is beautiful in their own way.

what's the score here? add it up.

is that extra 10 lbs really worth throwing out a possible soul mate or love?

ok your still right in your logic, but your MISSING the point...

let me explain this in more detail.

We have Girl A, she fulfills your mental needs, but not physical needs.

The question I asked is what should I do? How do I handle not being attracted a girl when I feel I should?

in other words, my mind is saying yes but my body/penis is saying no.

so how are you supposed to have a relationship if you cant get it up because your not sexually attracted to her?

also do you think people are attracted to people they think are ugly? exactly....

You know what you're talking about:)

ok word of the day here is advice, I did not want to start a debat, I am asking for advice, like if you were in my situation what would you do/think?

I would look for another girl that meets all your needs

and i gave you advice:


if you're that superficial then you don't deserve that girl.

Just drop a V-bomb and it doesn't matter if your sexually attracted to her or not. :thumbsup :thumbsup

If I were you, I'd be friends with the overweight girl, as you say, she's smart and interesting to talk to, the perfect friend.

I would have sex with the cute girl

If I had any doubts about the girls looks I wouldn't date her or hook up with her at all in the first place. I have a height to weight to breast size ratio that any girl must meet before I'll date her. Its nothing personal I just like my idea of fit chicks because I take care of my body and make sure I'm always lean and trim so I want the same.


My advice: Drop her ass. Sounds like you've decided that course already anyway.

my advice is..........put yourself in her shoes. by keeping her around your giving her mixed signals and maybe leading her on, knowing you can never be attracted to her. if she's a nice girl, let her go before she gets whooped and expects more.

Women only get fatter as they age. Accept her as she is or move on.

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get a totally skinny hot bitch on the side then have the over weight cool girl

best of both worlds man

Bro don't forget that beauty vanish, there are lot of ways to loose weight. Why don't you invite her in any sport activity?

a relationship won't last forever if the physical attraction isn't there :2 cents:

True :thumbsup

It's just an attraction it will wane, but if you're really lovestruck it will last for a lifetime! :glugglug :glugglug :glugglug :glugglug

On the other hand, the physical attraction wont be there forever and personality is much more important. You could always tell her you want to see other people, maybe that would motivate her to lose weight, if it doesnt then your still getting what you want both ways unless she gets pissed and tells you to fuck off.

Ditto... If you can't get it up because she's 20-30lbs overweight you've got a serious problem. Sounds like you'll need to be very rich so you can just buy trophy wives all your life.

i can't understand you... you are having this dilemma??? man if you're really hooked on the girl then you should not be feeling that way. imean come on.... if you are serious about her then you wouldn't mind the slightly overweight part of that. sometimes if you have doubt, it could taint the relationship. better be cruel now than let the girl hope for the best and then afterwards you're gonna ditch her

im not making this clear am i? :1orglaugh

What's the breast size ratio the girl must meet? Just curious.

Dump the tank , and get the new girl ;)