Are you afraid of death?
 

Not the act of dying, but death itself.
I've been doing a lot of thinking lately, and it's come to the point where the fear of death is inhibiting my everyday life.

How do you all cope with this?

Once you're dead you won't know. Therefore nothing to fear.


"How to cope"?

Think about something more useful.. Like making money.

live life to the fullest & dont worry about it. its gonna happen someday, thats a given. so till your d-day, just have fun.

you only live once! :thumbsup

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It's gonna happen sooner or later. so why worry. As long as I make a little tgf before I go I'll be a happy camper and step into oblivion with a smile on my face.

Death does not bother me - it's the way that one might die that is worse.
As long as it's quick that'll work, slow painfull death would suck.

Yep, one thing is certain about this shit... None of us are going to make it out alive. So instead of worring about how or when, just enjoy the ride there.

Don't worry about death, and live your life to the fullest!
Carpe Diem!:)

heh
well put. :thumbsup

Absolutely agree!!

Quote from Woody Allen:

'I'm not afraid of dying, I just don't want to be there when it happens.'

Quote from me: nobody ever had engraved on their tombstone 'I wish I'd spent more time working'

Chill out and make the best of it. There are two certainties in life, death and taxes. Avoiding one out of two as long as you can is not bad going ......

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ive been thinking lots lately too.
and i am terrefied, but not the act of dieing but of whats after that , an after life or whatever,
i believe in god and so i should have faith that im going to a better place ....

i kinda do but there is this niggling thought that i wont.......

i know what your going through and i dont know how to get rid of that feeling

I never think of death.

I am not really looking forward to the experience...but I do not have a fear of death.

I don't even think about it

Nope, I have lived a full life , if death comes tommorrow I will not have missed much.

I use the rest of the time now as borrowed time anyway...

get out and live your life....it is an adventure:thumbsup

I prefer the afterlife

If I think about it, it sometimes scares the shit out of me. So for the most part I very rarely think about it as there's nothing I can do as science stands today to stop it.

Be interesting to know the average age of those who couldn't give a shit about dying (or say they couldn't) to those who worry about it from time to time. I don't ever remember worrying about it when I was youner than 30 :)

Everyone things about death and fears it at one time or another. Jesus Christ has power over death and the grave.

Alot of people have died and NONE of them have said anything bad about death, so no, im not afraid of death.

It isn't death we fear. It is the loss of consciousness. We were born with a desire for eternal consciousness, which to me is evidence that we will live forever in some form.

Don't fear death fear dying... Everybody dies and that is nothing you can do but live life to the fullest...

make everyday worth enjoying as if it was your last :)

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I'm afraid of dying and not see my wife and my kids anymore. That's the only thing I fear. Like getting cancer or something like that..

Losing it's own existence and reality is not very cool. Especially since there is no way back.

you just dont think about it

I fear seeing my loved ones die more then my own death.

no, but i am afraid of pain

I am not religous at all, so I do not have that cushion to fall on to. :(
Maybe I'm just thinking too much...

Naturally.

Yeah the realization of death is scary moment. There is a huge difference between knowing your are going to die and realizing it. I spent 6 months in therapy, lost 30 pounds and had panic attacks for over a year.

I remember the moment. I was around 21 laying in bed doing my usual thinking and wrap up for the day in my mind. Then something happened that didn't usually. I was thinking about mortality and life span. Stuff I normally think about and it doesn't really do anything wierd to me as far as physical reactions go.
But on this night something clicked and I was able to truely conceptualize mortality and the scope of time. I had a severe physical reaction and a feeling I had never had before. I thought I had just flipped and I was going to be crazy after I came out of the episode.

Certain sequence of thoughts as I call it came into play. From what I remember it had to do with time and time perception. I was looking at my life and the time it took for me to reach this point. In my mind the time it took to reach the age of 21 was only a flash and there was no sense of time-lapse. Then I equated the fact that at some point I "will" be 70-80 years of age looking at my life and it will be the same flash. There will be no seeming span of time.

It's funny now even as I type this there is no physical reaction to the thought of death and time. That's why I say there is a difference between knowing you are going to die and realizing it. I think for that year of my life I was able to truely realize my mortality.

It's taken years and I still deal with the thoughts of death everyday. But I am able to go about my life now, im not paralized with the thoughts of death.

This all happened at the best time in my life. I was 21 years old I had made my first million. I was in the best shape of my life, I had a great girlfriend and friends. I think it was the idea that this was going to have to end at some point that helped trigger it.

It wasn't all bad having this realization. Before I had my realization I had an attitude that people who have "mental" problems like anxiety were weak and I had a terrible lack of respect for religious people.
After my bout with death anxiety I have a whole new respect for mental illness and religion. Though I am not religious there were moments during my anxiety attacks that I was beggin for "god" or something to show me there is more to life then just this existanct. I hoped for anything. Heaven/Hell whatever. It helped me realize why religion was really created. As humans we are the only species that can realize our own mortality. With this gift and curse we need a crutch to help us through. The idea that there is some special force and place out there helps many cope with mortality.

So in the end I think I am a better person. It was essentially the best and worst thing that has ever happened to me. In my worst moment all I wanted was my normal feelings back. I wanted all the problems of everyday life all the things that the anxiety had robbed me of. There is nothing like being overcomed by one feeling. All you want is your old life back with all of it's problems trials, tribulations and happy points.

Sorry to ramble. This is just something I have dealth with for many years and I have lots to say about it.

-Tony

Life is not a rehearsal so live it to the full.

I'm kinda getting there, still a few things I need to do, but not scared about it.

I know after I'm gone people will still be jerking off to my pictures. :Graucho

Nop, I am not !

I live my life to the fullest trying to make the best possible decisions to move ahead. Death is the end of the game of life, since it can come at any time I try to make sure I am ok with it. I would like to stay young and beautiful forever but death is not something I fear at all.

death is nothing comparing to life.

Death is inevitable. That's where the rich and poor are equal.

we all die enjoy the time we have here

Nope, because we will all end up there!

you need jesus

Afriad of it yes, ready for it no. I think it should scare everyone.

Wow! I think I have been where you were. I know the feelings. Hit me up on ICQ sometime.

I'd fuck jesus in the doo doo hole with a lawn dart.

I'm guessing you're not a Christian

I want to die in my sleep like grandpa, not screaming like the others in his car! :1orglaugh :1orglaugh http://www.wildmonkeysex.com/gfy/smilielol.gif

so true

It's no good that it is inhibiting your everday life.
Death is coming. There is nothing any of us can do about it.
You HAVE to cope with it. Period.

I've noticed that people who fear death are mostly theists, and their theism is a way of coping with death. Consider it part of the survival instinct in that theism promises that when you die, your existence continues.

I've come to terms with my fear of death this way, "What was it like before you existed? Chances are it'll be just like that when you're dead."

I basically agree but would put it like this.

When we are born we forget that we are an eternal consiousness. Hence we have a deeply rooted fear of death a.k.a "The Survival Instinct" as we forget that we are much more than just physical bodies.

The trick is to make a concerted effort to "remember" that you are more than just your body long before your body wears out and/or you lose it :)

Then you will be able to bring more of that greater consiousness into your daily life at will 24/7 whether for guidance or just to make things go better generally. :thumbsup

edit: But taxes scare me shitless!!

I actually am looking forward to it . . . can't wait to see what is on the other side

No.

Death is inevitable. Why would I be afraid of something that is inevitable?