Should I be concerned about this?? My YOUNG son says he's gonna have sex.
 

While this board can certainly be infantile, I've also seen some rational people around. It's the latter to whom this is addressed.

My wife told me that my 6 year old son came home the other day after playing with one of the neighborhood kids and told her that he was gonna have sex with a girl down the street.

The fact that this girl's parent's are uh, neglectful?? is a concern on our part.

I'm sure he doesn't know what he's really saying at this point, but still doesn't 6 years old seem REALLY young to be even mentioning it?

Any thoughts are appreciated.

I guess he will soon be needing one of these

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not really you'd be suprised what children that young know now a days. He as a 6 year old could turn on the tv and hear all that garbage

I don't mind a joke about it if it's funny.

And that's funny. :1orglaugh

And don't get me wrong. I DON'T want my son OR my daughter to save themselves for marriage, but christ, at least wait till you're a teenager before you put us through this angst.

You've lost the battle already.

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yeah he probably knows what sex is now or else he would have said that he was going to do it. I guess both sets of parents are going to have to have the talk WAY before either one of you thought you would. Kids say the darndest things!

I think your kid doesn't really know what sex is and he thinks that its something else.

I remember when I was a kid I'd say something but really meant something else. Anyway keep an eye on him just in case.

Is your kids name Dirk?

Ah yes.. I can remember that phase, keep in mind that t.v wasn't as trash back then but Sex to me meant holding someone's hand.

Oh look i'm having Sex!

.. ah the good ole days. :1orglaugh

You should be glad. He said a girl, right? He could have said a boy down the street, ya know? :1orglaugh

thats a true pimp..........when I was 6 I was still playing with GI Joe

Kids hear stuff and repeat it but don't really understand the implications. My 8 year old however is about to turn 9 soon and is emitting signs of puberty already. He compares tits lol. We were watching some movie the other day and he says "that ladies boobs look like my art teachers" I was like...er...huh?? So I know he is taking notice. He also told me "he likes the scene in the Adam Sandler movie when the two girls kiss" Little perv lol.

maybe he's under bad influence from his daddy? :Graucho

Ron, I can remember my son mentioning sex at a very young age (was 4 years old with a 6 year old neighbour & asked me to leave the room cuz he had to have 'sex' with her = kiss with her) & since he's very open with me he told me what the conversations were with these kids. Seems that the younger kids hear things the older ones talk about & then repeat it to the younger ones & they in turn repeat to others yet younger than them.

Needless to say, I would have rather had 50 kids playing in my backyard where I could have heard what they are talking about than him going to other friends' houses unless I knew the parents very very well & could have trusted that they were keeping an eye & ear open.

He's 11 now so I try not to shield him, but it's still crazy when it's YOUR kids that are growing up & their bodies & minds start reacting to the real world.

hes gonna pimp it, young playa

LOL, yes I'm a horndog Stefan, but we try to keep that aspect of our life away from our kids.

That's what we think and are hoping.

We're pretty careful with what we watch when they're around. Maybe we'll have to start watching Sex in the City when they're asleep though.

Not being a homophobe, it wouldn't have mattered if it was a boy or a girl.

Again, that's what we're thinking. If he inquired or made statements about something, that would be one thing and we would expect that he's gonna notice the difference between boys and girls. That's only normal imo. This was apparently just a matter of fact statement. That's what was so worrisome.

Thanks for making me realize that this is "Kind of" normal Trixxxia.

We just literally started letting the kids go play at other kids houses on the street 'cause the wife was too uptight about it. Before that they'd always come over here to play. I convinced her that they're growing up and as long as they stay on the street and watch for cars, they should be okay.

The problem with this girl is we KNOW that the parents don't keep too close an eye on them. When our kids are on the front street, we sit where we can see them. We don't stare at them, but we do keep an eye on them.

Kind of a catch 22.

Maybe you have to explain to him that sex and play is two diferent things

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I wouldn't sweat it. When my son was 9 or 10, he told me the same thing.

When I pinned him down on what he meant, he didn't even know what he meant.

buy him some condoms and send him on his way

thats sick and wrong.

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At six I really wouldn't make a big deal about it. He might have a rough idea of what it is...not the actual mechanics of it though. I think what he is basically saying is he has his first crush.

When I was 6 we used to play doctor and pee-pee ... my father is a psychologist and he told me later it's a stage every young kid go through

I doubt he knows what he is, i think he is just saying it because he wants to be older, or fit in with you guys better. I'd say now's the time to give him a talk about the ol' birds and the bee's. At least a preview or something.

At 6, he is trying to be "cool" by saying "sex". He probably thinks it is kissing. ASK him what he means. It is very important to get the lines of communication open at a young age. If he gets it wrong, tell him that is not sex. If he asks what sex is, it is ok to say "come back and ask in a few years". Kids will usually take that answer without problems. If he does know what sex is, then just tell him that he is too young to even be thinking about it. And, it is time for "the talk".

At 6, if you are really concerned, it is still very easy to watch their every move. My girls are 10 and 13, and it gets scarier every day!!

Is that a young AaronM? :winkwink: jk

it's the environment, pal. kids nowadays often use "sex" terms just to be "in" with their peers. some will just mention them for kicks, some just comes natural coz they hear it from the people around them. :2 cents:

Let's not forget they are also looking for shocked reactions from you and his mother.

All kids go through phases where they test their boundaries, and most of them want to be reassured by the structure of their home life.

I'm sure if he hasn't done it already, you'll hear some other goodies come out of his mouth.

One of the best for me (but not my mom) happened in Christmas traffic one year. We'd been sitting at a stop light for what was entirely too long for him (and me, but my mom was in the car) and all the sudden you hear this peepy little voice from the back seat saying, "Fuck, lady, move it!"...

Unfortunately my mother wasn't amused by that or the fact that I couldn't keep from busting out laughing very loudly.

kids will be kids, but i dont know how serious it should be taken

I had my first kiss at 3 in my little girlfriends closet.
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KK putting it into perspective.... this is normal. Believe me, you WILL hear worse in the coming years. And try not to make a big deal about it or he will feel uncomfortable talking to you about sex in the future. and that is the LAST thing you want.

It's never too young to discuss the VERY basics of sex. My parents casually/adultly discussed sex in front of me when I was very young and I turned out fine... I... post... on... an... adult... webmaster... board. Forget what I said. Take him to church!

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Not sure if I agree with the NEVER too young part. It's not a "prude" sort of thing. I just think at 6, they are not quite old enough to comprehend the entire subject. My daughter, who just turned 10 knows exactly what sex is, how babies are conceived and born, etc. It's more of a parent knowing when their child can fully understand what is being explained. You should always describe it in an age appropriate way, otherwise it doesn't really do much good. My daughter knows that she can ask me questions and/or talk about ANYTHING with me. That is always a good thing!!

exactly....you must be doing just fine in your parenting that he feels comfortable discussing anything with you....
just keep your reactions..."normal"...no shouting or anything at all :thumbsup

Don't worry about it. I knew a girl who used to have fake-sex with the boy next door when they grew up. He'd try to put his little penis inside of her, and they would hold each other like that for 20-30 minutes. It started when she was 6 or 7 and ended just before puberty, at around 11. She had no psychological damage from the experience. It was just kids playing around. So don't worry about it, really. It's not as if he can get her pregnant yet!

uh oh, that scares me . . . . .

my son turns 1 now and after 5 years i might also hear that from him as well as his sib who would come out by November . . . .

remind me to never have kids... and if I do, definately no girls... I'd go crazy

then maybe you're not minding him enough and offering fatherly guidance

It sounds like he is just parroting some shit he picked up someplace to me..