Have a friend thats in a psycho controlling relationship... ;((

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  • jaYMan
    peace&profit,
    • Jan 2001
    • 4885
    #1

    Have a friend thats in a psycho controlling relationship... ;((

    Sad stuff... its more along the lines of the guy playing God in her world:

    CONTROLLING BY DEFINING HER REALITY: This form of control is very oppressive. When he tells his partner what reality is, he is playing God, he is discounting the partner's experience by defining "THE TRUTH"-which in fact is a LIE. Some examples: That's not what you said or That's not what I said or That's not what you did or That's not what I did or That's not what happened. That's not what you saw. That's not what you felt. That's not why you did it. I know you better than you know yourself!

    I've never been in a relationship like this, so I have no idea what kinda advice to give. ALmost wish I wasn't asked!


    How do you ditch a control freak?
    peace&profit,
    jaYMan
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    • jmk
      Confirmed User
      • Sep 2002
      • 5391
      #2
      Say: "That's not what I want"
      Bye Bye

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        • Scootermuze
          Confirmed User
          • Dec 2001
          • 4513
          #3
          If you were asked for advice.. The advice is simple to give, but too many choose to accept the situation and hope it will get better... but never does..

          Just tell whomever, "You have to teach people how to treat you" .. If they choose to treat you in a manner that you don't agree with, let them know that it's not acceptable and if changes aren't made, then ... "See ya!"

          Of course your friend needs to stick to the statement and do it.. That in itself can send a powerful message that they mean what they say, and the control freak might settle down a bit..

          If not, then your friend doesn't need to be anywhere around the controlling person.. Leave and don't look back...

          If they can't do that, then they deserve to be controlled..

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            • punker barbie
              Meow Meow!!!
              • Nov 2003
              • 10232
              #4
              id bite his pecker off LOL

















              just kidding
              but on a serious note, if she feels a need to stay regardless what the situation is i doubt there is much u can do. Except be 100% supportive, till she finds the strength to leave
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                • Syl
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                  • Dec 2003
                  • 1953
                  #5
                  [QUOTE]Originally posted by punker barbie
                  [B]id bite his pecker off LOL


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                    • AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE
                      best designer on GFY
                      • Mar 2003
                      • 30307
                      #6
                      You can control a control freak to...

                      But one must be ready for the roll of commanding rather than obeying.

                      One must tell the other to shut up and listen, and fight it to the bone on any dispute, any contradiction...

                      Trust me on this. I study PSYOPS to this day and went to school for it a long time ago.

                      Taking the lead as an authority must be done gradually starting with little things and controlling a situation with only your thoughts are of importants only, regardless of your victims thoughts on the matter or any matter.

                      Taking the command roll must reward small gratuity and always demand thankfulness for any action or accuse the subject of not appreciating anything.

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                        • AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE
                          best designer on GFY
                          • Mar 2003
                          • 30307
                          #7
                          To add once the playing feild emotionally is on the level is when the once dominate figure will want to escape and it will be the day the former one in sub will choose whether or not former DOM may go.


                          Its spookie shit but it happens, its human nature..

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                            • NakedBo
                              Confirmed User
                              • Jan 2004
                              • 1614
                              #8
                              If she doesn't want to go, she won't. The best thing you can do then is give her support and hope it doesn't go too far. She needs to realise that this person is not doing it because he loves her, but because he likes the power of controling someone.

                              If she wants to leave, she just has to leave. Not let him spreak, just grab her bags and go!!

                              The turning around thing will only work if she really wants to stay and put efford in this guy.


                              I have been in a relationship like this, I hope that things will work out for her. It is very though to break out of a relationship like this.

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                                • AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE
                                  best designer on GFY
                                  • Mar 2003
                                  • 30307
                                  #9
                                  Originally posted by NakedBo
                                  If she doesn't want to go, she won't. The best thing you can do then is give her support and hope it doesn't go too far. She needs to realise that this person is not doing it because he loves her, but because he likes the power of controling someone.

                                  If she wants to leave, she just has to leave. Not let him spreak, just grab her bags and go!!

                                  The turning around thing will only work if she really wants to stay and put efford in this guy.


                                  I have been in a relationship like this, I hope that things will work out for her. It is very though to break out of a relationship like this.
                                  The problem is she does not have the strength to break away, so jaYMan, you have to tell her to learn to think for herself and begin telling em to do things and go from there. In the conflict that will come is when she will have to make a fight about every aspect of his dispute. The aim is to frustrate em and begin to fear her.
                                  Last edited by AlienQ - BANNED FOR LIFE; 06-18-2004, 04:13 PM.

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                                    • NakedBo
                                      Confirmed User
                                      • Jan 2004
                                      • 1614
                                      #10
                                      Originally posted by AlienQ
                                      The problem is she does not have the strength to break away, so jaYMan, you have to tell her to learn to think for herself and begin telling em to do things and go from there. In the conflict that will come is when she will have to make a fight about every aspect of his dispute. The aim is to frustrate em and begin to fear her.
                                      I'm sorry but I don't agree on that. It sound very sane, but there is now way that she will be able to do that if she is already under his controle for too long. I hope that will help her, but I speak from personal experiance that that will only make him agressive. I guess it depends per person, and on how long she has been with him.



                                      edit: you are right about the breaking away part, but there are more ways to do that then the way you sugested.
                                      Last edited by NakedBo; 06-18-2004, 04:18 PM.

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                                        • OY
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                                          • Oct 2002
                                          • 5401
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