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Originally posted by Mutt
it is disturbing - it's harmless but it's disturbing none the less. it's way out there. tell me you wouldn't be thrown for a loop if you walked in on your father/grandpa/boyfriend/husband and he was wearing diapers and acting like an infant.
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If you walked in on your parents playing any sort of kinky sex games, you'd be thrown for a loop -lol
Admittedly, we found the niche to be a little creepy too, until we did some extensive research.
Here is what we learned:
Infantalism / Adult Babies
When we take our first baby steps, our mommy smiles and excitedly says, "You did it, good for you. You took a step. What a wonderful and terrific baby you are - learning to walk all by yourself".
When daddy lets go of your two wheeler bike for the first time and we ride without training wheels, the excitement in his voice reinforces that fact that we have accomplished a GREAT thing. "Good boy, that's it, you're doing great", is what we hear.
When Mommy changes our diaper and it's dry, or when we sit on the potty and our pee splashes into the toilet for the first time, the sound of our mommy's voice reconfirms that we have done a GREAT thing. "Oh, what a wonderful big boy you are", we are likely to hear. "Now you are just like daddy, doing it in the toilet like a big boy".
Didn?t that praise feel great? Wasn?t that the most perfect time in your life? Have you ever experienced such nurturing again in your lifetime? Under periods of stress wouldn?t it be great to just regress to such a time, where there were no responsibilities, and nothing but praise for everything that you did? Infantilism is just as much a logical & reasonable reaction to stress, as is depression, neurosis, drug abuse, et al.
Essentially, such rewards are part of our cultural drive to mature. Therefore, regression into a state of infancy requires going against the grain of human development, which can be manifested in many ways: To want to reverse our bladder muscle so it leaks like a baby, to suck our thumb again, to poop in our pants, to sleep in a crib, to wear clothes with snaps in the crotch, to give up our ability to eat with a fork, to have someone hold a baby bottle with a nipple in our mouth. The list is endless.
For some, it a sexual role play situation, and for others, it is a secretive way of life. Some will wear diapers under their clothing to work as their 'naughty little secret' while others will only live their fetish in the deep, dark privacy of their home, alone, but living life to the fullest as an adult baby, even going so far as to eat baby food and drink baby formula out of bottles. These people find a feeling of safety and freedom in an infantile state where there is a perception of unconditional acceptance.
Diapers: Besides food and liquid, a baby needs to be held, to be talked to, looked at, touched, smiled at, played with and loved. Nothing is more symbolical of nurturing a baby or young child than the attention involved in diaper changes. In this process, a baby is touched and wiped and cleaned in (hopefully) a loving and caring way. Every sensation is involved, sight, touch, smell, and internal and external feeling. The nurturing parent looks at the baby (hopefully with a smile). The nurturing parent talks to the baby (hopefully sweetly). The nurturing parent touches the most sensitive parts of the baby's body. Therefore diaper changing is the most perfect metaphor possible for the act of nurturing that is required by a growing baby.
An infantilist seeks to recapture all the things he feels he is missing, or perhaps missed out on in their babyhood or early childhood. By using the metaphor of their fantasies of wearing diapers or becoming a baby, they can transform themselves into a state where all of their personality traits are acceptable, and they can be loved, nourished, praised and cherished.
The fantasies that Infantilists enjoy take many forms, from nurturing to dominance and submission. Humiliation is sometimes an important (and often welcome) part of the emotional element of infantilism. Many Infantilists enjoy humiliating experiences because they see them as part of the shift of power that they want to feel. Many fantasies, therefore, include such things as being forced to be a baby (against their will) or being taken out in public dressed as a baby (against their will). These ideas and feelings simply reinforce the metaphor of helplessness. Perhaps he is uncomfortable with the expectations of being a man, and seeks solace and comfort in fantasies and humiliating experiences; preferring to embrace his softer personality characteristics. He may become completely helpless and submissive to a sexual partner, being 'forced' to act/dress/behave like a baby, thereby giving up their power and responsibility.
There is strong evidence that Infantilism is not, in most cases, a fetish in the usual definition of this term. In a typical fetish, the individual gets satisfaction from an object or part of the body that is not normally sexual in nature. It is the feel or look or smell of the object that is sexually exciting, rather than any fantasy or emotional content surrounding the object. Many male Infantilists can probably get sexually aroused even if they are not wearing a diaper but are being treated like a baby or little boy or girl. It is the strong emotional factors explained in this paper that are more important, rather than any particular fetish object such as a diaper.
Nevertheless, a certain percentage of Infantilists are probably true fetishists in that they are strongly aroused by a diaper, but have no need or attraction to being a baby or child or any of the emotions we have been talking about. To the fetish Infantilist, it just feels sexually exciting to wear and wet a diaper, and sexual excitement is rarely present when not wearing a diaper.
Because the emotional content of the fantasies are much more important than the actual items used (diapers), Infantilism can not be viewed as true fetish, in most cases.
While a common misconception is that it's linked to pedophilia, quite the opposite is true. It's about the nurturing feeling of going back in time to when they were loved and taken care of completely and were babies themselves.
