How do you break the news you run an Adult site?
 

Last night was bizzare to say the least:

I was discussing with two of my fraternity brothers plans for after college, and when they specifically asked what I ment by "online entertainment", I went ahead and told them I just started a small TGP. (Exact words were "Adult entertainment, like a porn site...I already started one")

Their mouths dropped, one dude kinda blushed and the other one waited for me to say "just fucking with ya". I was quickly on damage control, telling them how technical things are and how boring it can be, but I could tell they were certainly like "WTF" and didn't want me to ever bring it up again.

The ride back home from our event was pretty silent, no mention of wanting to see exactly what I was talking about.

I personally don't give a fuck about what people's assumptions are, but I did tell myself I needed to be a bit more diplomatic when I decided to tell people I'm interested in working in the Adult industry.

This was the first time I told anyone about the site outsides thouse I've known for years (they think its fucking hilarious and a perfect fit for my personality). Perhaps I should just keep my fucking mouth shut and make up some lie about wanting to work a desk job.

How do others broach this subject?

What fraternity are you from? When I tell my friends at college what I do they always ask "Can I have a free pass?" , "Come on man, just a 1 day pass"...

I would say that you are fortunate.

Frat brothers were looking down on that? What right wing school do you go to where the guys aren't asking for passwords?

If I had to take a guess, I'd say BYU. :1orglaugh

Proud to be a Pi Kapp.

I can't really explain it either...I was kinda hoping for the "Are you fucking kidding? Hook me up man". Maybe its because we're all about "Men of Class" and that kind of stuff - Also maybe because I'm pretty clean cut and look like a giant preppy tool.

I'd like to think you can be classy and still run a tiny TGP at the same time...After there reaction I did kinda reevalulate why I started this in the first place.

dude, you hang out with dorks.

I tell people and they either ask for free passwords, or how they can get into doing what i do.

I hope not...I joined this semester, we have a fucking blast together. We all drink pretty heavily and hit the women on a regular basis...Maybe at first they thought I was some queer who had has own "personal porn site", but I pretty clearly explained the whole affiliate system as they looked on in horror.

To his credit, the President said he wanted to see the site and he'd be "all about checking it out", but he hasn't shot me an IM since (like all the other people I've told have).

Unless you are earning big bucks in thie biz I wouldn't even bother mentioning it. Though it is suprising that college guys would give a fuck.

Yo from the Midwest? Biblebelt? Are u crazy to mention a thing like that ...

I just tell them. If they don't like it, fuck them.

I tell people I'm a 'Marketing Consultant'. The people close to me know what I do exactly, but that seems to be vague enough, yet enough info to keep others from asking too many questions.

Lol.. you're having issues telling your friends? I assume you haven't told your parents yet. :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

This is unreal, how can you be embarassed of something like that?

Also from the midwest and I tell no one. Those I had told, now I tell them I crossed to mainstream as "porn is dead".

heh interesting story. for me people keep on asking.
YOU GOTTA TEACH ME
i hate it when that happens

try telling them you run a small GAY tgp... 10x's worse lol..

If someone pushes you THAT far in explaining your job... then you switch to ask THEM what their bank acct number is... One thing to learn in life, is that its NO one elses business what you do as long as its legal.

Tell them internet advertising for whatever company needs the help and leave it at that. Most folks don't WANT to know anything more about a sales man. lol

Just tell them you sell Amway... ask them if they would like to know more about it... That will shut them up...

Yeah right, same here! :Graucho :thumbsup

Ok, the best way I have ever found to shush folks up is this:

Tell them the Johovah's Witnesses were seriously needing members so they decided to start paying...

Tell them, "You got chosen to lead the membership drive and they pay you $500... PER convert... Any questions?"

They'll be turned to run at 'Johovah's' part... and at a dead run at 'convert.' :1orglaugh

They won't even HEAR the 'Any Questions' line. :glugglug

Your frat sucks badly! I tell people straight up I SELL PORN, if they don't like it I don't want to waste time talking to them anyway's. Buncha fucking stupid bastards.

Dude, are you in the fucking Mormon fraternity? I don't have to worry about it. My friends always introduce me like this.

"This is Brendan. He works in porn."

Tends to weed out all the narrow minded fuckwits, at least.

lol. I dont understand why they'd be looking down on you for it. Just make sure they know you're doing it for the money not to look at free porn all day. If you tell people it was a business/financial decision.. then they'll respect you. If you tell them you're doing it because its fun and you can jerk off at work.. then they have reason to look down on you. IMO.

I've had more than one person tell me I need to "set them up a site". I always tell them, sure, get your content ready and all of your text ready to cut and paste and I'll set it up for you. Sends them away every time:thumbsup :1orglaugh

I guess i love the shock factor , I announced to my husbands whole family very shortly after meeting them that i run adult websites... none of them have a computer and had no idea what I was talking about.. they did know not to ask me what I did for a living anymore....busy body church goers :321GFY

Hmm. I was mormon when I first got into the industry -- but they still asked me for free passes. Friends support eachother 100% so yeah, they're not really your friends if they're assholes about it. Oh, and what site do you run?

get new friends :)

you've got some really virginic friends dude... since 1996 i've been tellling ppl what i do openly have have had nothing but 'Holy shit, YOURE THE MAN' and then they persist to ask how/what/i do, how they can start, etc etc. Even Marine Colonels wanted to get in on the businesss.

The last ppl in the world I'd expect to dog you would be frat dudes.

I give my business card that has an anal fisting image on the back

since im still breaking in, i can still tell people about my day job, however, my girlfriend is in the habit of telling her friends and co-workers that my actual job is the adult biz.

ive also told my boss, co-workers and friends. noone seems to care. shit. its one of the biggest industry in the world, if anything they want a slice.

I just talked with my mom a while back and she asked "what did you do again on the net".
She had some bleeding in her brain this spring and she has memory losses.. anyways, I told her (again) that I run porn sites. She was like "Like animalsex and stuff? I hope you're not doing childporn".
I was like wtf..
apparently she thought the word porn was for something illegal, she was relieved when I said I do just legal erotic stuff, and told her about pantyhose fetishes etc.. she thinks people who buy porn are nuts and laughed at them. She also thinks what I'm doing is cool because I sell stuff that has a demand. lol. She's been a merchant all her life, so she apparently can appreciate it. haha.

umm.. if anyone gives a shit.

haha u must not be in a real frat

hahah that's almost EXACTLY what my mom told me !! hahaha

i had to explain to her about Fantasyman and his cars,house, office buildings with his name etc for her to understand its a real biz.

your mom is cool :thumbsup

yea, guys being disgusted by porn. WTF ? :1orglaugh

If you in the adult business you should act like an adult and just stand up and be a man about it. You do porn and if they don't like it tell them to go fist themselves/

atleast you don't run beast and tranny sites.

Current school isn't quite so right wing, but I used to go to Boston College. Saw your Waltham location, reminded me of my days in the Boston burbs.

If they ask for it I tell them. If they are too closed mind to accept that, I don't need them as friends, so fuck them :2 cents: