Marriage is for MORONS
 

There's a saying "Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free"?

That saying applies to getting married. When you think about it--the downside fucks up the upside.

Upside

Unlimited (theoretically) sex
someone to support you while you're growing your biz

Downside

Half your shit when things don't work out
Kids turned against you by a vindicted beeeyotch


I don't know but living together INDEFINITELY is looking quite good.


Your thoughts?

Marriage only sucks for morons.

I love being married, having children and all the other things that go with it.

Today you may be able to get free milk, tomorrow the scows might think you are a moron.

I feel sorry for you. Maybe one day you will grow up and realize that marriage is a wonderful thing shared by two people in love.

:thumbsup It's just like every other thing thats worthwhile, you've got to work at it

I'm with you, papichulo!:thumbsup

Morons don't get married, they just get laid!

That's true until they wake up one day and both or one of them fell out of it!

exactly. I don't mean to be pessimistic but I'd rather be realistic

exactly. I don't mean to be pessimistic but I'd rather be realistic

i concur wholeheartedly.

I just never understood the use of it.

And believe me people have tried to explain it to me so it's probably just me :)

Supposedly, its some sort of SOCIAL compact to FORMALIZE love. :ugone2far

I love being married. Just make sure you marry the right girl and that she us the one for you for the rest of your life. If you find a girl like i have that will support you and even help you with anything and you will be more successful. Trust me.

Why even get married if you love somebody? Who dictates that you have to marry them? Is your 'love' any more valuable since you married instead of lived together?


Just some questions.

Get a prenuptial agreement, and there goes half the downside.

Nah, being married is no different ...

I've been married twice... first was a waste and totally for the wrong reasons....

second time, its been 9 years, and people still roll there eyes at us cause were always so "cute" we've worked together in the industry for 7 of the 9 years of that time, we also can't stand to be apart. I recently went to phili for a to do some work for a client (24-7 live, hey john you need to drink more juice) and couldn't stand not having her around me I barely slept. We are together all the time and I preffer it that way. Marriage for morons? um no I think your just a little bitter from a bad situation.

My life is so better being married, I have a true partner and don't have to worry about anything other than business. You just have to find somebody that is serious about marriage. You will find a lot of people that will get married because they think it's the next step in a relationship. They will fail. You have to get married because you truly love the person and want to spend the rest of your life with her. So my love grows everyday for my wife because we both have that mindset that we were meant for each other and I couldn't be happier. But this is something you have to answer for yourself man and remember don't be pressured into it do it for yourself.

that's why I'm not married:)

Marriage is a good thing

:thumbsup

I think a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons... they think it's the next step, they want to have children, they want to fit in, they feel comfortable "settling" for what they have instead of looking for the person that they truly love. It's those people that have marriage problems. And I'll bet you any money marriage isn't the only relationship problem these people have... maybe they don't get along with family members, have problems getting along with dates, etc.

It seems that people who know how to communicate well and are understanding always have better overall relationships, including marriage.

married and LOVING it.

i would not give anything to have to go back to dating, worrying about getting fucking aids or some other shit from some ho'

if you won't ever try,you won't ever know. I think marriage is good thing. I am not married, but I want to one day...with the right person. It's all about love, trusting, to be honest...and I think that it's the most beautiful thing:thumbsup

Marriage is totally the way to go, IF, (and thats a big IF) you find the right person, and its for the right reasons. I see my parents who have been happily married for 28 years...still more in love then the first day together.

Marriage is a wonderful journey if you know how to travel! :thumbsup

This is true, you get to the point where the person you are married to is your best friend. Yes, there will be times you have arguments, but the bond that you share with that person is so special and wonderful! :thumbsup

True, all about the RIGHT person. But what about answering my questions earlier?

Yeah, what she said!:2 cents:

Marriage ia what you make it.
The harder you work at it the better it becomes.

Your odds are about 1 out of 2 that it will work and conversely 1 out of 2 that it won't.

Its a lot like looking at a glass of water and thinking is it half full or half empty.

I recommend marriage only when you are really ready to settle down and share the rest of your life with one partner and want to build a family. Otherwise stay single.

I've been married twice. One lasted a short time, one pretty long but in the end they both fell apart. I doubt I'll ever get married again, it feels way better at my age now being free and independent again.

A lot of the elements of marriage are out of date with the way people live in today's world.

Seems you've seen both sides of that world!

Does a couple's LOVE become more precious or more valuable that they've become MARRIED?

Is LOVE without marriage just as valuable as LOVE with marriage?

Usually people stop thinking this way once they turn 20 or so, or after they get divorced. Either way I disagree. Marraige is more than about sex. Also, lots of couples nowdays swing ( therefore my site http://baycouples.com ) - so variety in sex is not a problem.

Good point. I've been together with my man for 10 years now, and living together almost the full time. No, we're not officially married, but tax laws say we are. Why give up my last name and have to get all new ID? Why go to a church when neither of us are religious? Why spend 1500$ on a ring when we would both rather spend the money on fixing up the house or on a trip? Does it mean we love each other any less? I say no.

Why buy the cow if the cow is gonna give it to you daily, pay you, do your dishes, laundry, floors, wax your cars, and give you baby cows?

Ten years and no regrets or complaints.

Thank you! That's my point.

It seems that the marriage 'ritual' really tests a person's value -- do you do things because of what YOU want or because of SOCIAL validation.

Good thing that we live in a modern enough age that people can QUESTION social assumptions.