Should I tell my girl what I do
 

Been doing this for a few yrs and lost some good girls because of what I do. I just met this "kick ass" girl and I'm debating. I do "web marketing"... but if I bring her to certain things, she'll know. What's do you think?

tell her then if she starts freaking out say "I AM JUST KIDDING"

"just met" Give it some time.

tell her...

i don't see the big deal of being involved in porn... if she ends up hating you because of it, she's not worthy of being a friend or g/f...

tell her right now before things go any further.. ask her if she'd like to do it with you.. if not.. then she's not the girl for you now is she?

Well does she watch porn at all? Is she kinky in bed? If so she probably wont care.

lie. unless you take part (wink wink), then you have to tell

hey,
I only have one thing to say.
If she leaves you because of what you do in life then its because she's not the one for you. I know your gonna say she's to hot to let go, but look if you stop doing what you like to do, your gona loose anyways. So keep on doing what you like and if she's out then theirs a lot of fish in the sea.

Shouda told her when you met her. Now you're all fucked up on giving a shit about what she thinks of you. Big mistake. Tell her as a matter of fact - and if she boltz - then she wasn't right for you.

PS - Don't do this again.

depends on how long you've known her. If you've just been dating a couple of weeks, I'd wait. If you're starting to get more serious, then I'd think about spilling it.

tell her, if she has a problem with it unless you are going to change jobs soon then it will never last, she will find out at some point and then you have started caring for eachother and all that mess so get it out in the open now

if she buys that she's stupid, last time a guy did that to me, I laught right in his face.

better to be honest from the start, if she doesnt like her kick her to the curb.

fuckin stu[id

What are you talking about? I don't understand.


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think about this..

you already like this girl.. suppose you don't tell her and you both end up liking each other a lot. Suppose you like each other so much you start to make plans.. then you tell her and she is totally against it.. she already likes you so much she decides to stick with you even though she hates what you do.. you get married....

Now you're stuck with a wife where the newness has worn off and all you have left is someone you live with who hates what you do and hates you for doing it..

take it from someone who's been around the block a few times.. think ahead

Lying = bad.

honesty is the best policy

if she doesnt accept it, it wasnt meant to be

You can always play it off like it's a hobby that you have. The words you use to describe it, however, can make a huge difference. Try to avoid using certain words like PORN. Say ADULT. Hell, say websites for grown-ups if you want. That's pretty plain as day. I build sites that appeal to prurient interests. The point is, you're not some kind of freak. She needs to know that. This is a legal and constitutionally protected business just like any other. You're not selling drugs. You're not sharing needles. It's good clean fun, and you make good money doing it. If you're only licensing your content, that's also a great selling point cuz girls sometimes are intrigued that you could run a site and never have any interaction with live girls in the first place. The jealousy gene may kick in if you're more involved in your production, so take that part slow and easy.

That's all got. The sooner you start mentioning little things about this, the better. You don't want to build this up as a giant secret because those usually suck.

abbie

i told mine. shes down.

tell her :2 cents:
bullshitting will only fuck you up down the track

I tell everyone I meet. 99% of them dont care; most actual think its pretty cool. And like everyone else said, if they really judge you from something like that -- they weren't someone that was worth staying with in the first place. :2 cents:

yep, tell her. you will need someone that can be strong enough to support you in what you do. better to find out now if she's that someone

Yeah me too :( I do alot of other things to0 but i usually tell them within a week of knowing them. At the end of the Day I'm proud of what I do and it's usually more fun and profitable then their crappy job. Any girl that is worth your time won't care and may even think it's cool Turn that pink into Green :thumbsup

I hope your boyfriend doesnt brake up with you over this. :1orglaugh

if you think she is worth keeping better to find out now if she can accept it, then to find out later she cant and be hurt.

i agree with dr phil! JUST KIDDING works everytime myfriend!

Tell her now, you're setting yourself up for a much bigger fall if you get a lot closer to her and THEN have to tell her...

just tell her your an under cover FBI agent and you have to run porn sites as part of your cover...

If you are really looking into something serious with her, you have to tell her . If you just wanna fuck her, then leave it like it is

this was hilarious coming from a guy with the nickname Dr Phil. :1orglaugh :1orglaugh :thumbsup

LOL!!! It's been a while since I laugh this hard!!

BTW: I'm having the same problem as you... Í've told my girl that I do webdesign, which seems pretty nerd and boring, so I'm REALLY thinking of telling her the true...

Got nothing to add here

:1orglaugh Yeah, good idea :thumbsup Make a fake mainstream site and tell her that's how you make the money :glugglug :glugglug

I agree with telling her from the beginning but since you've already passed that up you should tell her now if you want more than a fuck buddy. If you are wanting a serious relationship with this girl and you don't tell her and she finds out later from you or whoever and she doesn't like it, it could really hurt. Never know, she could be like me and hear "make lots of money" and say "ok, how can I help?" hehe

:1orglaugh
seriously though just tell her youre involved in internet marketing and you work for amazon.com or some shit

She's over now... I told her this morning. Everything is cool :thumbsup

go it on slow. ask her if she has a prob with such a thing...

Thats cool you told her. Gald everything worked out :thumbsup

And don't you feel better now? :thumbsup

If u r planing something serious with her u should offcourse tell that to her,couse later it will be difficult to her to understand,from the begining it is easier for bouth:thumbsup

If you feel that you want to be with this girl, you should tell her that for sure and you'll see her reaction, just be honest.
And if she is gonna leave you because of your job, she doesn't deserve you.:winkwink:

Do you have a actual website that you create content for or do you push programs. If you push programs you are more of a internet marketer than a pornographer in reality so your not lying.

wtg! :thumbsup

Yea, I've got several, successful softcore sites and I shoot my own content. Believe it or not, I don't even get involved with the girls "anymore", lol. Give up doing that around 2yrs ago. I see it just as biz, that's all.

I'm on cloud 9 or whatever cloud, lol

Most answers or comments are way off...

I have ran into the same problem.. I live in a city that is very open about sex.. so saying that you work in adult / porn is not a big deal.. Shit.. most ppl know me cuz i shoot naked chicks.. cuz my friends are so dumb that they want to "show off" telling most ppl that they know a guy who shoots girls naked..

Well what I have noticed is that, shooting girls naked or even shooting porn is not a big deal.. most girls see it as just a job.. the problem comes ( totally understandable ) when you actually do take part and are talent...

Good luck with that!

believe it or not, that WILL work :glugglug

Mine's okay,
she says whatever makes u money!

She don't like it but she hasto live witih it!

I'd tell her up front if you feel this is a woman you'd like to be with for a while. If she can't accept what you do at the begining oif a relationship, she'll really take it had after you've been together for a while.

Be honest with her and things will hopefully work out! :thumbsup

tell her, if she start complaining tell her to fuck off