My wife left..
 

My wife (or should I say ex) just came and picked up all her stuff, should I be happy about it or sad... the truth I couldn't stand her anymore but I feel I'm loosing my best friend...

Wow bro, that sucks.

:warning

Was it her call or yours?

Kinda both.. it was kinda ugly two nights ago.. I kinda threw her out of here and she kinda left..

Congrats...The best thing that happened was when the bitch left me.:BangBang: I actually had a smile on my face for the first time in 5 years...Good riddance I say.

Whatever the reason, these things always suck. But maybe it works out good for you

It's been five years for me also...

Man fuck that bitch! Look on the bright side, now you get to go back to the single scene which can be fun...

Sure it hurts in the begining...But you go out with your buds and hit the clubs or whatever and meet new ones...She will be nothing but a distant memory..trust me :thumbsup

must be so hard but the only thing u can do is try and look on the bright side even if it seems impossible to do.

Call up a hooker.

Get two blow jobs

and post here tomorrow

:rasta

Soon you will discover how much your life was changed during
your relation without having noticed it......take my word for it...
a new world of opportunities will open up.....guaranteed you will
feel good about it

Good Luck :thumbsup

Well I hope those new opportunities are positve ones..

Sorry to hear that dude!!
that's so suck!!
goodluck dude!!

You even admitted it yourself...you couldn't stand her anymore. That should prove being apart right now is the best choice for both of you.

I think I agree with u...

you should be happy until you find out how much of your money shes gonna get

Man, that's rough. Wish you good luck :(

I think you should just ask yourself.. are you happier now? if so it was for the best. Doesn't mean you guys can't still be friends.

:winkwink:

She says she doesn't want anything...

There are usually two ways that it goes - if you are extremely happy the minute she leaves, you'll be miserable a few months down the line. If you are miserable when she leaves, you generally come to the realization that it was the best decision within a few months and good things start to happen again. This, always taking into consideration that you don't get back together.

If you decide on divorce - you'll be 10 steps ahead when you realize that to master the game, you must not allow her to bring you into an emotional confrontation - that's what divorcing couples want/need - (the separation has left them dry of confrontation with you) So, if she calls and starts screaming & yelling - tell her you are not interested in arguing, stick to the point of the call and do not allow her to get you in a screaming match. Once you master that - you'll feel so much better and you may actually begin to like eachother again.

Don't blame her for anything - take responsibility for your actions don't through blame on her and since it's over, there is no need to bring any of that up again. You'll get your things settled in court when the time comes.

Ok that's my 'Dear Trixxxia' of the day.......Ciao :-)

If she says that - please be smart and don't argue with her - be sweet but firm - don't throw things in her face about the past and it will all settle smoothly. If you piss her off or throw things in her face, she'll just want revenge and make you miserable.

I truly hope we can remain friends.. we understood each other perfectly the only things were her jelousy was out of control and her bad temper was killing me...

Keep smiling babe.. Things do get better as the years pass.. At least it did for me. I can at least be civial to mine now.

lol

:winkwink:

you may be one of the lucky ones... i hope thats true, i only know one person who had a good divorce... my old boss married young and only stayed married for a few years before the divorce, he had no kids and probably not a lot of money so shit was extremely simple... anyway i wouldnt hold your breath, she might say that now but once her friends and family get in her ear you might have some problems... hopefully not though... good luck

That's good, out with the old, in with the new :)

Don't fight her on that one, take the deal and run. Be polite, say nice things, but the less you say the better. get it behind you ASAP, before she changes her mind on wanting stuff!

You will get over this. and in the end be happier. why be withsomeone that doesn't want to be with you anyway.

Ditto the hooker. Get drunk if you need to - don't call her in that state. Get drunk everynight for a month if you have too.

I was married to an attorney, you can appreciate my point of view!! Sued for more money that there is.

Better get that in writing coz you one of her friends will for sure
talk her into getting in touch with a lawyer.....and that lawyer
will use whatever it takes to change you're ex her mind.....
if she really doesn't want anything from you then she also
wouldn't mind putting this on paper......

Yes we don't have any kids either...

Are you married? Or ever? ppl we marry are our best friends and lovers. Once one is gone - you every hear when an old married couple are together and one dies - the other shortly goes there after.

yeah and OLD couple... people who were married back before the divorce rate was 60%... ive known a lot of married people and i cant think of a single couple that was truely happy... the rare few were marginally content which is great, the rest were just stickin it out for the kids / fear of getting assfucked in divorce court and living in fear.

Thank you all for for the advice..

Don't look back, start over :)

It's just some kind of mixed emotions. She's always by your side
and you're used to it. A little sad coz you're used to her presence
but some day, things will work out just fine.

best of luck to ya :) we're here to listen to ya complain if you need to.

Got any naked pics of her you can post?

Jhon, I really don't think you should have come to the board with this.

:2 cents:

Question is, do you love her still? Does she love you back?

Just realized that she posts here too. SKULL - when you're together 24 hours in a day, it's not easy to 'stand' eachother. Time away from eachother usually helps - don't say things you'll regret. You mentioned you felt like you lost your best friend - take time to rekindle that friendship again. :2 cents:

I've been separated from my wife of 14 years for the last 1.5 years, tomorrow we're going on our first date and having a long talk about things, sometimes a bit of time away is good to reflect on things..for me it was feeling like losing a twin

Working together is damn tough when you have to deal with family issues/bills/kids/meetings/schools and all the other stuff that gets thrown into the pot. Time away from eachother can usually soften things up while still together (each gets their 'own' time) but when it starts infecting the relationship to the point where you can't digest eachother, you need a break to find yourself and put things back into perspective.

I can't imagine being without my husband - it would be removing the spine from one's body - can't really function properly without it. He's my moral support, my biggest fan, my biggest compliment - wouldn't trade him in if my life depended on it.

We need some pix:glugglug

stand your ground and dont let her come back

Congrats, your back on the market now I guess!:thumbsup

u suck because u married her, u obviously knew her long enough to know she is to big of a bitch to marry and spend more than 1 hour with let alone be wiht forever. u should b desperate because u will spend the next year thinking of wat went wrong and how you could have made up for a "missunderstanding" between the 2 of u.

I FEEL YOUR PAIN.

I don't know you... but I've been there, and I know the mixed emotions - they aren't over.

I was married for 16 years. It took three after the divorce to find someone, I lived with her for 4 years, and she passed away.

That was about 4 years ago.

All I can say is it just takes time, and a few friends.

:thumbsup
Best response of all.

Many separations don't end in divorce, but instead, in a better understanding of what you'd be giving up and how good you had it. You get time to see what an unbending jerk you were being and she gets time to see what a pissy bitch she was being.

Hopefully this is how it'll be for you guys; you'll come back together a little more humble and far more willing to be a team rather than two individuals living in the same house fighting for control.

Best of luck to you both.

that's why i dont want to marry.

Things that happen, be strong and go ahead

Ditto :thumbsup

We r not officialy terminated.. I guess, but I don't see things progressing... it wasn't healthy to be together at least not for now.. but we'll see time will tell...

Pat I thought about it before posting... I know u know this by experince, but I couldn't resist, I wanted some kinda of advice :)