those of you in relationships...
 

imagine your girl starts workin at a new place and naturally, throughout the first week she mentions how nice or mean different co-workers are... and she mentions one guy, "mike" happens to be really nice... and outta no where for the hella it you ask "is he cute?" (just to be stupid, expecting her to say No, like she always has).. and all the sudden she pauses.. gets flustered a bit, and says "will you get mad if i'm honest?" .. so you say "no" (like you have to).. and she says, "well yes"

well, that happened to me yesterday... we've been together for nearly 2 years and never really had to deal with this situation.. the idea that you aren't the only she has a second nature attraction to...

so now its kinda fucked up for me, knowing she has to work with this guy who she finds nice and "cute" nearly every day. which has probably been a scenario for her (just like everyone else) who interacts with society, but now its just different because i KNOW.

but we talked about it for awhile n' she just has a "problem" (but i guess you could say its a good problem ;) ) where she will never lie... n' assured me theres nothing to worry about.

would this make you guys uncomfortable? i think its probably a natural male instinct to feel this way, which makes it hard to consciously come to terms with the fact that this happens.

A little uncomfortable, sure. I'd say that's natural. But if you dork out and get too jealous and shit, don't be surprised if she blows you off for hottieboy Mike. Fine line you're walkin' there -- if you don't care enough, she'll think you're not as 'into her' as you used to be. If you get too concerned about it, you're a jealous prick.

I'd say just be confident in your relationship and trust her. After 2 years, sounds like the relationship is worth it. I mean, just 'cuz she's around this cute guy doesn't mean she (or he) is going to do anything about it... have some confidence that she's been with you this long for a reason and show some faith in her.

... but if she comes home sloppy drunk with her hair tassled about and reaking of sex after a night out "drinking with folks from work", disregard everything I said... :Graucho
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I could'nt agree more! :thumbsup

DH

You have a trust and an insecurity issue dude! Nothing drives a woman away faster than an untrusting and INSECURE man! Let Black Poppa Smurf educate you!

how many guys she had before you ?

Hi there! By the way I am new. My first post! But I agree..don't go the jealouse route cause you may send her running to old Mikey boy's bed! In future, if you don't want to know, don't ask.

greeks kill on daily basis for such things :glugglug

Be secure and trust her, you'll have no problem.
My boyfriend and I are really honest about all of that, he has no problem telling me how cute girls are around, in bars or at a party. I think it's normal to be attracted to poeple, I rather have a guy who can tell me honestly. I often tell him: "wow, that waitress is very good looking" and he'll look over and tell me what he thinks! That doesn't mean he'll go over and start flirting.

Anyways, what i'm trying to say, is that in the end YOU have the girl! She comes home every night and if you don't start thinking too much you'll keep her around for a while. :thumbsup

Women don't like jealous guys. Give her a bit of her own medicine.

if you are able to joke about it with her....it'll show her that you remember, but doesnt bug you.


Every now and then throw in a line like "Maybe your office-boyfriend "mike" we'll like that" in a joking tone off course

did you tell him about us? :)

What you should do is drive her to work one day (or meet her for lunch at her job). Meet Mike. Give him a firm handshake and look him in the eye. Make your presence known without being a jealous nut about it.

Then you should take your schlong out and piss all over your girl. Swell out your chest if you need to. That will show him! :1orglaugh

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anyways bro, my word of advice is..... while in your relationship havent you ever though a different girl is cute or attractive? its natural for that man, its not like just because you are with someone every other attractive person out there just looses their looks. I dont see much to worry about bro, you should be ok, dont let her know it bothers you, it really shouldnt bother you. When she starts to recieve phone calls from him is when you bury his ass in the backyard or feed him to the gators. :)


good luck man, dont let this bother you man, you honestly put it on yourself... you did ask her... she didnt just jump up and tell you.


-Jeff

LOL she'll never lie. That means a month after they fuck you'll be hearing about it.

HAHA..too funny..:1orglaugh

C'mon now! shhhhhhhhsush! You know my man reads the board!I thought we talked about this! :winkwink:

Sounds like she's already fucking him.

Dude, I can tell you that even if you're in a relationship your boyfriend/girlfriend will always see or work with people that are cute. I'd rather have the girl telling me yes, there is a cute guy at work at least she is being honest!

You can't take it personally that she thinks this guy is cute, it's natural to notice if somebody is cute or ugly! Right? Are you saying that you've never thought another chick you worked with was cute? I know I have, but I didn't cheat on my girlfriend!

jDoG

LOL better hope not, cause if she is -- i will find you and you will die.

yes, its really nothing. but still... it is an annoyance.

they way i see it, you've got two choices.

choice one, assuming she's really a quality girl by your standards, and someone worth keeping around, be cool about it. if she really is quality & trustworthy, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. yeah, it may be disturbing, but don't get your panties in a bunch.

if she's not quality, then who the fuck cares (unfortunately it seems a lot harder these days to find a quality ho)?

of course, there's choice 2.

kill the other competing male.

Never put all your eggs in one basket. Im not saying to cheat on her, but keep many female friends as well. Keep the door open so when the shit hits the fan you can quickly move on to the next.

Do not act your natural instinct to feel jealously, theres a good chance shes also giving you a "shit test" to see how you react to this. In one way she wants you to feel competition so she can feel she of some value but on the other hand if you freak out, you fail the test. Remember, every girl is replaceable.

relationships are fragile... handle with care.

Too bad women don't come with a clear instruction book: it would make our life simpler.

I started going out with this great woman on New Year's eve, and everything was great till I left the 17th on Holiday ( that was bookes in september, and I went to visit my very old parents.

She started seeming distant, then said it is like if she didn't know me, then we will have to start over. I am back, but she left the same day on business for 2 weeks... She could have come back for one evening here, but she sais she was to tired and wanted to go from Atlanta to Toronto direct, that she wanted to see me but not that much ( nice cold shower).

Then she complained I should have asked her to join me in Florida for the first weekend ( type Friday-Saturday night) then she leaves. I sure would of, but I cant't stop thinking that most women would have taken that as " you treat me like a whore"...

Any women have opinions???

Meanwhile, I had it. So tomorrow night, it is Edith for the weekend ( and yes, I am using Edith as a whore).

Best is not to fall in love. :2 cents:

Can't agree more

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haha, theres no way i'd be able to "quickly move on to the next"... we're real close... i'd be in a fucked up state of mind for months, the thought of another girl would just be fucked up.

and if she was trying to give me some kind of "test" then i don't even wanna be with someone like that. that is typical girl'ish ass bullshit. and i like to think shes a bit more deep than that.

I was in a similar situation and I was stupid cause I didn't see that she was interested in "Mike" more and more every day. She did tell me about this guy but I didn't take it seriously. She left me. Bitch.
I will never do the same mistake again. If my next girlfriend comes telling me about some guy there is only one thing to do. Be straight. Just tell her not to fuck with you. At the very first sign that something is going on just forget her.

Comon!!!! Can't you see? It's not a test it's just HONESTY!

Give it up and appreciate it. Too much drama man.. for nothing. Don't be so insecure, she chose you and if you are not a fool she will stick by YOU!

my :2 cents:

Simple: she was not worth it. Or you had more issues than Mike!

Just treat her good and trust her. You will know if something real is up.

Convert to Islam and make her wear a burka.

I have had that happen before. Same scenario. I wouldn't fret over it. If your girl starts to really dig the guy theres not a lot you can do.

The real question is what, if anything does 'Mike' think of her?

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Doesn't sound like its anything more than her being honest. Unless she's tired of you then there isn't anything to be antsy about, you've been together for two years, you think she is going to throw that away for a guy she met a week ago?

Live with it!
I am also sure she looked at hundredx of other guys before that! Do you think because she is with you she won't take a look at other guys? No way.

I have heard these same comments from my wife about guys she works with at her place. That they are cute, etc...dont bother me none since I know that I am secure with me.

It all comes down to are you providing her with what she wants to be happy. Is your relationship a solid and stable, are you making her happy overall. If its all good then, no worries man.

Its just human nature to be attracted to others. If it wasnt natural to be attracted, there would be no adult market out there and the human race would die out.

Trust is one of the most important things you can have in a relationship with a person.

Besides, Mike could be gay or attached for all we know man.

it is normal to be jealous it is what you do with that jealousy that counts. Being slightly jealous can be endearing being crazy jealous makes people run away.