Are the days of a sexual monogomous relationship over?
 

After a very open and candid conversation a friend of mine last nite. I have come to the conclusion that the ideals and "rules" of relationships are evolving. More openly sexual relationships with other people. 3'somes 4'somes... bisexuality.

I am a very open non-judgmental person when it comes to people's sexual behaviour as long as you are honest with your partner(s).

So what is the deal? Do you guys think the days of banging the same wiener or muffin are done?

I would love to see other people's opinions!

Whitney :Graucho

My wife and I have a very loving and caring relationship, but we also enjoy a little distraction now and then. Variety adds spice to any relationship. Hell, she made me sleep with her best friend on our first date, who am I to complain? :winkwink:

no I think those days are not done

I am very happy with my lady I dont need to go rompin in the bushes with others



Tanker

I definitely know a few people who have open relationships these days but both partners are always aware of it. I personally don't mind it so long as both people are aware of it, cheating is one thing I absolutely hate to see and the lying can't possibly be good in the long run. Personally, I like just diverting all my attention to a single person when involved in a relationship. That's just me.

WG

No, they aren't. :(

me and my girl are completely monogomous... back in my hayday, my eye may have wondered but not anymore. once you find the one, that's it. it's a good feeling... anyone who needs something more should not be in a serious relationship to begin with.

I couldn't agree more... I've partaken in my share of 3somes and orgies... but I still can't see myself sharing someone i really care about... for two reasons. one , I would never really know if she does other people when Im away on trips or when she goes out alone... and secondly, I would hate for her to think the same of me... thus damaging the trust factor.

I know this one time I shared a woman with my best friend... months later he started dating her... and it killed him to know that I had also slept with her... he couldn't get it out of his head because he saw it with his own eyes... that scares me and I think would prevent me from engaging in such an act with her and someone else... unless of course it was wel planned and we discussed it for a long time and both agreed it was a one time thing or that it wouldn't happen without the other one present

I dont think thats fair. I think people can beone hundred percent happy with their partner on a deeper emotional and intimate level. I dont think having an openly "untraditional" sex life makes you any less suitable for a serious relationship.

I also do not believe those days are over..
All though I do tend to stray here and there I am very happy with my lady.

im not into those reindeer games.


one girl is all a man needs.

playing games with your emotions comes at a premium

Long gone. Everytime i talk to a guy who tells me how great it is that he's in a relationship where they love and trust each other, i think back a couple nights to seeing his girlfriend suck some other guys cock at a party. :)

Its usually only one person in a relationship who "thinks" they both only need each other.

Im open to new things and agree to what you are saying however. I think it's always beeen like that people have just kept it on the DL.

I think some girls are really not lesbians but do it cause guys like it and for the attention.

So what is the deal? Do you guys think the days of banging the same wiener or muffin are done? What's your reply Whitney?

Does anyone not get jelous anymore? Not that I do.

Maybe once I got futher into the relationship I would be more comfortable but at the start I would be humping like bunnies.

:thumbsup

And if you find a girl who feels same way, your all set. Good luck.

If they are over I am doomed!! I don't share so well at all!! Nope not me...I will give you half of my sammich, but I will be damned if I give you my man!! LOL

untraditional sex life will only lead to problems & the spread of sexual diseases, let's not even get into what this type of lifestyle would do to one's children if they had any. so the next generation of teen upstarts will be even more careless and bigger whores than they are today... yay! looking forward to it.

I dont think all sexual acts = an emotional attatchement to that person or that act.

I think if a couple can seperate their "emotions" from sexual exploration it would be an amazing experience for them. And could possibly make them grow closer to each other.

I wouldn't say that the days of monogomous relationships are completely over, some people still believe in it. I like men and women and if I can find a man (when I'm ready) who would enjoy sharing me with another woman I'd be fine.

Like I have time for threesomes... sheesh! :helpme

I would certainly hope not, I am in a one on one relationship right now and that is how I prefer it. I can understand having variety and other peoples views but it just wouldn't work for me.

And thanks Sherie for always giving me half your sammich LOL

I don't know if the days of monogomous relationships are over.


but, people today are definately more open and sexual than they were 20 or 30 years ago.

It amazes me how as soon as a person is sexually open they are a "whore" ..... anyways. Of course the spread of disease would be a risk but you dont think you would be suseptable to disease being monogonmous? Hypothetically your girlfriend bangs some other guy and you wake up pissing out fire? Please thats like saying if your Gay you will automatically be HIV possitive.

I am speaking about responsible adult relationships.

Well we have been swinging for 5 yrs and out of all the couples we know that were married around the same time. Ours is the only marriage that isnt on the rocks and they dont swing. We have friends been married and swinging for 16 yrs, that's a pretty serious length of time.

LOL! Took the words right out of mouth! :1orglaugh

I don't think there's more sharing going on - I have friends who are in their 70's who talk about "key parties" back when they were in their 20's and 30's - it's just become more out in the open. You can ask someone if they swing now w/o getting a slap in the face even if they don't want to play. :winkwink:

Monogomous relationships are usually perishable. They often expire as the relationship ages. True monogamy probably only exists for old people, deeply religious people, and fugly people that can't get it anywhere else. Even those that preach monogamy would probably stray if they thought they could get away with it. :2 cents:

I agree with Whitney. Sex doesn't always have to involve emotions...it can also be a great experience for the evolution of a couple and how they learn and grow. I've been there it's a wonderful experience.:2 cents:

i'm into monogomy, i like to look at other women, and i know she likes to look at other men, but i dunno, the sex keeps better, for me there is no seperating sex and emotion.

that... and i would just worry that my wife would fuck somebody with a bigger dick than mine.

man. that would suck.

I guess I will shut up on this one now!!
Hey what dates are we leaveing for our trip and do I get to stay at your house again before we leave? :thumbsup

I think that once you find your true "other-half" there will be no need for anything else.



Unfortunetly not all people get to expirience 100%fullfilment from a single individual......

i'm sure they're out there, just hard to find.

True enough. However, if you have emotions invested in someone and bring someone else into the mix I have issues with that for myself personally. If I didn't give a fuck about some guy and he was just a plaything then it wouldn't matter. I could not stomach watching someone that I have emotional interest in being consumed by another. Nu uh!

Tera hunny I will always share my sammiches with you..!! =)

I'm not taling about not feeling fullfilled. I'm talking about looking for other experiences that you share with your partner.

Even though I've always been monogamous in my relationships, I disagree with this. I know many couples who view other sexual relationships as part of THEIR relationship and they DO make them stronger.

As the saying goes, different strokes for different folks...literally. :thumbsup

Go to a movie, go skydiving, those are good experiences to share with your partner.

Ever since we met in Vegas, Whitney has had unconventional sex on her mind. :Graucho

I think I'm too much of a jealous person to swing or be in an open relationship. Also, I need to know I'm the only one in his life. Emotionally AND physically.

I don't think monogamy has gone out the window. I think it's been like this forever. The difference now is, people are more open about it.

I won't have sex with another girl as long as I am going out with my current girlfriend. Been going out with her too long and I respect her too much. If we ever fall out I couldn't see myself being faithful to another girl tho.

:Graucho

I am a one woman kida guy. The only trhing is that I can't seem to find one that doesn't drive me absolutly nuts or that doesn't screw me around in one way or another. I think monogamy works in theory.....but I have yet to see it



Rip

Good point. I know alot of solid couples who partake in safe responsible sexualy open relationships. I am aware that this is not for everyone i was just curious as to what ppl's opinions are.

I don't think the days of monoghamy are gone. I have heard that a lot recently but I am happy with my man and don't need to turn else where. Nor would it occur to me that I should.


I do understand why you are disillusioned Whit. I see lots of reasons why everyone should be and I am not judgemental and if it makes you happy by all means.

I do, however, every once in a while meet a couple that restores my faith and makes me realize that the concept of true love is not completely a myth.

My boyfriend made me see that faithful is not an archaic term :)

This is funny, tained by life?

I see many true monogomous relationships out there that have lasted the tides of life, I guess each person experiences life differently. :2 cents:

to quote jerry springer ...

"Multiple partners doesnt multiply the pleasure, only the pain"

- Seth

i am really surprised by the outcome of the responses to this thread..everyday all i see from the people on this board is how they want to fuck this and fuck that and now everyone is playing it off like all they need is one women to keep them happy...
the hypocracy is amazing...

This isn't a question of being faithful or questioning a couples love. I dont see why "monoghamy" = true love. I am not dilusioned babe i just think that there are healthy alternatives to a traditional relationships.

i would never have an open realationship, wtf is with that, u want ur lady to be sucking on another guys' dong then come home to kiss you? that shit is fucking nasty.

unless she were to bring in her girlfriend and i was there watching or participating.

NO DONGS ALLOWED!

I guess you could get as many different answers as there are people to answer Whit ;)

I love what I have and I couldn't imagine that I'd jeopardize it for anything. Actually I know I wouldn't.

I also think that people grow and change as time goes by and what might seem like a good idea right now becomes a tired idea without so much promise, and vice versa.

Most important thing in any relationship is communication. If you can't talk to your significant other about things, openly and candidly, then you have a problem that adding someone else into the mix sexually isn't going to fix, but will probably make worse.

I also know that most guys fantasize about seeing their girl with another chick, or doing another chick with their girl, but couldn't, wouldn't, ain't even going to contemplate their girl being with another guy, with or without them participating. And that's fine, it's just good to remember that sometimes a fantasy is best kept just that. I don't think it would be fair in a relationship for the guy to get to fuck around with another chick but not for his girl to be able to do the same.

I think it's great that people who swing are happy with it, and I respect their lifestyle choice. It's not something I find exciting, thus it's not for me.

But I will give Sherie and Tera half my sammich and some fries@!!!

Hundreds of years ago people screwed around and it's no different today.

Many do - Many don't.

I choose not to - I have a wonderful wife and I have been faithful to her 100's of times.

I do believe in monogamy, but at some point I do agree with you

its hard enough to make a relationship with only 2 ppl work. sure open relationships work for some ppl but i think more often than not it only brings added troubles. there is nothing wrong with fucking around but if i was with a girl i really loved and wanted to be with for a long time, i wouldn't want to be with anyone else and i'd hope she'd feel the same. if she was into girls that might be ok tho.

Awwwe, Kimmy! I would share my sammich fries and soda with you any day!! =)

Glad things are going well for you and your other half :winkwink: