need advice from all in relationships esp girls
 

okay here it goes... im about to pour my heart out... in know i should on a porn board..so here it goes ... im gonna give you the total history, you tell me what to do...


im 18 years old..no money no way... prob the hottest girl i have ever dated... i love her...still do... i have never met any one that has looked at me with the same innocent pure loving eyes that she did... GOD I STILL LOVE HER...

so three years later.....she has a bf..who she likes... but its not goingwell... we hung out today...made out but not really made out...god i found her so sexy and so hot... im not sure if she found me that same way....

i thought she was just going to find me a little attractive and get jealous but im the one getting jelous...

she told me she is nervous around me. found me attractive and wanted more to do wit me but it was half hearted!

like i said she has a bf.. a big loser but whaterver...should i back off and see whats up or should i try and put a heavy press on her... like i said i have already let her down once@
man i really miss her like crazy... i want to provide for her and give her anything she would ever need@



please give me suggestions... man. i need to get back to work but i can cuz i keep thinking about here

Forget about her and find a girl who doesn't have a bf. You'll only regret it afterwards.If she wanted you she wouldn't have made any excuses .

just continue to be her friend and let her make the decision to dump this other guy or not, she's probably confused on what she wants to do and you can only control yourself, not her and only 'time' will make things clear to her....

:2 cents:

Shes gonna play u and her bf will prob kick yer ass. You don't want chix with baggage like that. I know yer young and u let yer dick tell u what to do but trust me on this.

dude, she HAS a bf. if you pressure her and anything happens between you, you can be sure she'll be going back to him later since their relationship has not run its course. girls complain about their boyfriends - and sometimes they still complain about them 20 years later. complaining doesn't mean she wants to leave him.

you say you want to provide for her. do you even have the money to fully support yourself AND another person realistically?

YOU say her bf's a big loser, but maybe to HER he's not a big loser. you sound like a stalker. you've been after this girl for 3 years in a world full of pretty, sexy, wonderful women you keep after her obsessively. no wonder you make her nervous - that's a little scary even if she knows you.

back off, be her friend if you actually like her. but the little you've said about her - sounds like you don't really know her as a person but are just letting her represent your ideal female.

heres a rule that can NEVER go wrong.


tell her how you feel.


theres nothing wrong about presenting yourself and your feelings to her 100% raw, and uncut. if she is worth it, if she is understanding, and most importantly, if she is attracted to you - she will be yours. otherwise, she won't be yours... but that is life, and all you have to know is that you presented yourself to her the best way a person can and theres nothin else you could have done.

never let her know your real feelings

never trust a bitch with a bf, if u get her, as u probably can do, she'll screw u as she screwed her bf, and it seems that you're looking for something else than a fuckfriend

let her go, bro

there are thousands of girls out there, and as being gay is becoming a fashion shit, more girls for straight ppl



:2 cents:

Kill the boyfriend, kidnap her in the trunk of your car and keep her in captivity until she is your slave. Kill her too if she doesn't come around.

first off your 18 ya still got tons to experience go have fun don't worry about one girl if it was really ment to be you 2 will hook up when it's the time to settle down.

What he said.. or maybe the galleryseek tip if you're too scared. :Graucho

Actually... next time.. instead of going to first base... skip right to the third base.. at least you won't wait another 3 years to know if she'd rather let you go down on her or slap you :glugglug

Do yourself a favor and download kazaa and do a search for Tom Leykis, download a few of his large shows and listen!

If he's on the radio near you, listen!

Also, you are fucking 18! Date lots and lots of chicks, don't try to find just one yet.

your young. never forget that you can always live on love and life will always work out the way you want. dont listen to adults. they don't know shit about the pain your going through and have no idea how wonderful and perfect this girl is.

quit your job, follow her everywhere she goes until she sees how much you really care. send her candid videos of herself that you will make by filming her family through the windows of thier home. the more intimate the videos the better... i.e. showering, using the toilet, changing clothes etc.

send small care packages to make sure they understand your sarifice and pain.. small viles of blood bled from your own wrists (include pics) and slices of ear are great attention getters. Van Gogh was also a romantic.

send her stolen items from around town that they will instantly recognize from seeing the police report on the local news. the more outrageous, the better. let her know you care.

if she is complaining to you about work or school... i.e. a teacher is always mean to her or her boss does not like her... it's her way of saying "if you really love me, you will attack this person and put them in the hospital for me". don't miss this important signal.

if she has a wireless phone, you can try to find the FM frequency and record her calls by being in the vacinity of the house with a cassette recorder... call her sometimes and play them back just so she knows she has a secret admirer. if she has a dog, hit it with your car and "just happen to be there" to save it by taking it to the vet. if all else fails, you may want to set their house on fire in the middle of the night and be there to heroically save the family (you might also "not save" any relatives who seem to be getting between you and your woman).

she is yours. you own her. dont forget it. she can't be with anyone else... she is just confused about this fact. don't let her be with anyone else. her interest in other people is just her way of expressing interest in you. what she really wants is for you to show interest back by brutally attacking and maiming those people much like the courtship ritual of East African Wild Dogs. its very romantic.

dont give up on your dream of being with this girl. your life will always be nothing without her and no one understands how you feel even though they say they do.

good luck
:thumbsup

The best relationships begin as friendships... if you're serious about her than don't rush things. And if she wants to be with you, she should end her current relationship first.

thanks for the great advice... im thinking ill prob kidnapp her this weekend... just kidding

im 22...now..and yes i can provide for her... never stalked her but she was the one that got away...

as for the approach... i think im gonna back off, and let things run their course and see how things happen....i guess it wouldnt be fair for me to just barge in and try to shake up whatever she has going on now...

thanks for the advice again...

what the fuck!?

Dude... i am tellin you gotta show interest and make the other guy look bad. another way to do that is to watch her house, then when this guy comes over, you should cut off one of her dogs legs, slip in the house and put it inside this guys jacket. then call her up and be like "hey man, i just want to make sure you are ok because i have been hearing things about that guy you like"... then say something like "you know what you ought to do? ... check inside his jacket. if he is as sneaky as people say, then he is probably hiding animal parts in there or something"

What she said :2 cents:

right on , and stop expecting from her

She has a boyfriend, you're only 18, back off and let her figure out what she wants. Don't push. :2 cents:

awww.... you are so sweet... but it's not the end of the world man... you are worth way more than what you have been beating yourself up over. somebody has, does, and will love you. YOU WILL BE SOMEONE`S "EVERYTHING".. YOU JUST DONT KNOW WHEN & WHO :) :) :)

jesus christ...fresh outta high school relationship controversy...i miss it

exactly what I was going to say. Best advice I can give when it comes to women is to be friends first - that way it eases the pressure off of a relationship.

Its not cool to be doing anything with a girl until she is single. If it happens again show her respect in saying, "until you are single again i dont think its good for us to do anything"

she will be amazed and also you will have learned an important lesson. .. when shes with you.. she wont go out with other guys behind your back... instead you will hear upfront if shes not happy with the relationship. dont start a bad cycle.

god gave man a brain and a penis, but only enough blood to use one at a time

She's playing you. Trust me, I'm a girl. ;) Been there, done that, have the t-shirts. The best thing you can do is be indifferent. That absolutely drives girls crazy. It's a real power trips to chicks when they have LOTS of guys panting over them...it's all an ego game. Chicks just have to have guys who are "unobtainable".

She sounds like she has some growing up to do, also. She has a boyfriend, but is playing around with you. Hmmm....what type of girlfriend material is she anyway? Is she what you would want in a girlfriend?

Anyway, be cool...be indifferent but don't completely go away. If you play the indifferent role, she'll be chasing after you....just so she can conquer you. Then you'll be holding the trump card and you can decide where this relationship goes. :)

this board rock! thanks again... you guys def gave me a good prepective...and im sure time heals.....

and i guess what will happen will happen...


-N

Now there's some sound advice. If you lay it all on the line and she still turns you down or decides to jerk you around somehow then she isn't worth your time. At the very least you'll know her true colors.