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  • SmutGiant
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    • Oct 2003
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    #1

    what should I do about my lying girlfriend?

    Well, I've been dating this girl for a little while, and things for the most part are going pretty good. Anyways, we really didn't get a chance to see each other during the holiday's as we were both extremely busy, but I still found enough time to drop off a christmas present for her. She thanked me and said she had one for me too, but she left it at work and gave me this huge story about how she hid it in some corner so no one would find it etc. and kept on "forgetting" it.

    just to let you know I DON'T CARE IF SHE GOT ME A GIFT OR NOT!! I just found out from my good friend that happens to be dating my girlfriend's best friend that there really was no gift. That's what pisses me off so much, it's not the fact that she got me a gift or not, I can understand that money's a little tight for her and stuff. It's that she had to create some elaborate lie, which as she was telling me the whole "hiding it" story I thought was all cute and heart warming and stuff.

    I'm sorry about the whole rant, this is the first time I've spilled my heart out on GFY and I just feel like I have no where else to turn at this moment.

    Am I making too big a deal out of this situation? To me a lie is a lie, and if she can lie about something this small who knows what else she may hide from me in the future or even now.
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    aliasx
    • Apr 2001
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    #2
    I'd say buy her some more gifts.
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    • stevecore
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      • May 2003
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      #3
      tell her what your good friend told you. put her on the spot and when she fumbles for an answer just tell her you don't appreciate her lying since a good portion of your relationship should or is built on trust.

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      • Herb Kornfield
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        • Sep 2002
        • 4996

        #4
        People will do crazy shit to screw themselves more often than not.

        Personally, I'd tell her that there is no reason to lie. If she cant afford a present that is store bought, then that is fine, there are many other things people can give as presents.

        Make you dinner at her place.
        Hot crazy sex ( always a hit)
        a nice romantic day together just walking around seeing sites that are local

        Many times just hanging out and not spending mad loot are some of the best times I have had with my wife. We dont spend a ton on each other, its being together that is the most important thing.

        Being truthful to each other is far more important than providing each other trinkets.

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        • SmutGiant
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          • Oct 2003
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          #5
          Originally posted by stevecore
          tell her what your good friend told you. put her on the spot and when she fumbles for an answer just tell her you don't appreciate her lying since a good portion of your relationship should or is built on trust.
          Well, I really don't want to bring anyone else into this. I was thinking about visiting her at work later during her coffee break just to have a little chat and just out of the blue say, "hey while i'm here I might as well pick up that gift you forgot", lol.

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          • stevecore
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            • May 2003
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            #6
            Originally posted by SmutGiant


            Well, I really don't want to bring anyone else into this. I was thinking about visiting her at work later during her coffee break just to have a little chat and just out of the blue say, "hey while i'm here I might as well pick up that gift you forgot", lol.
            no need to name names... but the dropping by her work may work. if she gives you an excuse you should just come out and say that you know there's no gift and that it's cool... just don't pretend there is.

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            • a1ka1ine
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              • Apr 2002
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              #7
              Originally posted by SmutGiant


              Well, I really don't want to bring anyone else into this. I was thinking about visiting her at work later during her coffee break just to have a little chat and just out of the blue say, "hey while i'm here I might as well pick up that gift you forgot", lol.
              do it! and report back here with results :-)

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              • SmutGiant
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                • Oct 2003
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                #8
                Originally posted by Herb Kornfield
                People will do crazy shit to screw themselves more often than not.

                Personally, I'd tell her that there is no reason to lie. If she cant afford a present that is store bought, then that is fine, there are many other things people can give as presents.

                Make you dinner at her place.
                Hot crazy sex ( always a hit)
                a nice romantic day together just walking around seeing sites that are local

                Many times just hanging out and not spending mad loot are some of the best times I have had with my wife. We dont spend a ton on each other, its being together that is the most important thing.

                Being truthful to each other is far more important than providing each other trinkets.
                EXACTLY my point! Although I may have money, I'm not a very materialistic person at all!! I'm not keeping tabs over who spends what on what, I just wish she doesn't feel like she has to lie to me about these things, or anything for that matter.

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                • TDF
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                  • Mar 2002
                  • 27296

                  #9
                  fuck her..and her friends too
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                  • jennym
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                    • May 2003
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                    #10
                    Originally posted by SmutGiant


                    Well, I really don't want to bring anyone else into this. I was thinking about visiting her at work later during her coffee break just to have a little chat and just out of the blue say, "hey while i'm here I might as well pick up that gift you forgot", lol.
                    Do not do this. It will totally humiliate her. If money is really tight for her, then maybe she was hoping she would be able to afford a gift, but she hasn't been able to. Just wait for a private moment, and tell her that if there is no gift, then she shouldn't feel bad, you understand.

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                    • doober
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                      • Jul 2003
                      • 6984

                      #11
                      well i skip thru the bullshit and ask the important questions...does she
                      a) deepthroat?
                      b) swallow?

                      only after these 2 questions have been answered can we have any logical response to your dilema

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                      • Shok
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                        • Apr 2001
                        • 5611

                        #12
                        stab her in the face with a fork and scream merry christmas


                        I bet next year will be better, trust me

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                        • OneHungLo
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                          • May 2001
                          • 40906

                          #13
                          Sounds like you're dealing with a compulsive liar.

                          If she's carrying on for a month about some stupid gift who knows what else she's lying about

                          She's probably banging half the town behind your back.

                          Dump her.
                          Last edited by OneHungLo; 01-13-2004, 09:04 AM.

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                          • SmutGiant
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                            #14
                            Originally posted by jennym


                            Do not do this. It will totally humiliate her. If money is really tight for her, then maybe she was hoping she would be able to afford a gift, but she hasn't been able to. Just wait for a private moment, and tell her that if there is no gift, then she shouldn't feel bad, you understand.
                            Good to hear from a female on this topic

                            I'm just trying to think of a way that I can break it to her that i know and I don't care! I just don't want her to lie! Any suggestions

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                            • SmutGiant
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                              #15
                              Originally posted by OneHungLo


                              If she's carrying on for a month about some stupid gift who knows what else she's lying about
                              That's what has me worried

                              The last thing I need to deal with is a compulsive liar. I have golden credibility in my community, and definetly do not want to spoil my repuation.

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                              • JSA Matt
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                                • Aug 2003
                                • 5464

                                #16
                                Originally posted by Shok
                                stab her in the face with a fork and scream merry christmas


                                I bet next year will be better, trust me
                                you have problems... you're supposed to use a spoon.

                                just tell her that anal is the only gift you want

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                                • SmutGiant
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                                  • Oct 2003
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                                  #17
                                  Originally posted by Shok
                                  stab her in the face with a fork and scream merry christmas


                                  I bet next year will be better, trust me

                                  LMAO

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                                  • jimthefiend
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                                    • Oct 2003
                                    • 18889

                                    #18
                                    dry fuck her in the ass really hard, bust a nut on her face, then dump her.

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                                    • rooster
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                                      • Jan 2003
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                                      #19
                                      run away fast. I knew a girl like this. Find out she was cheating on me and I had 100% proof and confronted her with it, and she still tried to lie about it.

                                      One lie is too many.
                                      Ever notice that pretty much everything added to the Constitution after the original was a mistake.

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                                      • jennym
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                                        • May 2003
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                                        #20
                                        If she is worth-a-crap, she will be feeling terrible about lying to you, and not getting you a gift. She probably lied in the first place because she felt bad about not being able to get you anything. At least this means she is not a totally selfish person. So, sit her down, in private, and tell her that you believe there is not really a gift. You do not have to tell her someone told you. Tell her that it doesn't matter. Tell her you did not get her a gift expecting one in return. She will most likely tell you the truth at that point. If not, then you will have to go with the flow.

                                        Good luck.

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                                        • SmutGiant
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                                          #21
                                          Originally posted by jennym
                                          If she is worth-a-crap, she will be feeling terrible about lying to you, and not getting you a gift. She probably lied in the first place because she felt bad about not being able to get you anything. At least this means she is not a totally selfish person. So, sit her down, in private, and tell her that you believe there is not really a gift. You do not have to tell her someone told you. Tell her that it doesn't matter. Tell her you did not get her a gift expecting one in return. She will most likely tell you the truth at that point. If not, then you will have to go with the flow.

                                          Good luck.
                                          Jenny, would you say a Starbucks type coffee shop is a private enough setting? She works retail in a shopping mall, so i was thinking of taking her to a coffee shop to talk.

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                                          • Ironhorse
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                                            #22
                                            Maybe I've said this before but seems like a spanking is in order..
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                                            • jennym
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                                              #23
                                              OK, first of all, let me say that I am one of those really trusting, really honest people. I would have never been able to lie in the first place, but, if I had, and felt "caught"...I would cry. So, my advice is...do not do it during work hours, and do not do it in a public place. Of course, you are the only one who really knows this girl. Is she the really sensitive type?

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                                              • Mpegmaster
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                                                #24
                                                Ditch the BITCH!

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                                                • SmutGiant
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                                                  #25
                                                  Originally posted by jennym
                                                  OK, first of all, let me say that I am one of those really trusting, really honest people. I would have never been able to lie in the first place, but, if I had, and felt "caught"...I would cry. So, my advice is...do not do it during work hours, and do not do it in a public place. Of course, you are the only one who really knows this girl. Is she the really sensitive type?
                                                  I don't think she's the very sensitive type. I honestly believe I'm more of a softy than she is, lol. I know most people wouldn't even make a big deal out of this, but this is literally hurting me for some reason.

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                                                  • jennym
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                                                    #26
                                                    ok, if you don't think she is the sensitive type, then the coffee shop is probably ok. Just tell her that it is really bugging you, not because you don't have a gift, but because you feel deceived. Then, pretty much everything else I said before. You don't think there is a gift, it's no big deal, just tell her to please be honest because, for some reason it is bothering you.

                                                    BTW, are you sure your information is 100% correct?

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                                                    • Rich
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                                                      • Jan 2003
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                                                      #27
                                                      Originally posted by Herb Kornfield
                                                      a nice romantic day together just walking around seeing sites that are local
                                                      You're not from Canada, are you? That's more of a summer time gift up here.

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                                                      • galleryseek
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                                                        • Mar 2002
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                                                        #28
                                                        i don't even have to read what you said... "lying girlfriend". solution = break up.

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                                                        • TheLegacy
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                                                          • Apr 2003
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                                                          #29
                                                          My humble opinion - no games, no bullshit be a man in the relationship - walk up to her tell her what your feeling and tell her what the boundaries are in the future.

                                                          Your not on Jerry Springer and if this relationship is going to work then she has to have respect for you and be a friend first. You can fuck anyone (*so can she) so its not about sex - its about finding someone that you can be truthful and open to as she should be with you.

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                                                          all builds up trust

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                                                          • SmutGiant
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                                                            #30
                                                            Originally posted by jennym
                                                            ok, if you don't think she is the sensitive type, then the coffee shop is probably ok. Just tell her that it is really bugging you, not because you don't have a gift, but because you feel deceived. Then, pretty much everything else I said before. You don't think there is a gift, it's no big deal, just tell her to please be honest because, for some reason it is bothering you.

                                                            BTW, are you sure your information is 100% correct?
                                                            I greatly appreciate your advice and time! I am absolutely sure my information is 100% correct. I've been best friends with this guy my whole life, and him and his girlfriend tell each other EVERYTHING!!

                                                            Actually, I kinda asked him to bring it up if the opportunity should arise. She was talking about my girlfriend and my friend was just like "oh yeah so what did *g/f name* get him". lol... Thanks again!

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                                                            • C-Bass
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                                                              #31
                                                              Shoot her
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                                                              • jennym
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                                                                #32
                                                                No problem, Good luck!

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                                                                • alias
                                                                  aliasx
                                                                  • Apr 2001
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                                                                  #33
                                                                  Originally posted by TheLegacy
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                                                                  • El Mega
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                                                                    #34
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                                                                    • SmutGiant
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                                                                      #35
                                                                      Originally posted by Rich


                                                                      You're not from Canada, are you? That's more of a summer time gift up here.
                                                                      lol, so true. We decided to take a walk down to Starbucks last week and ended up calling a cab half way there, lol

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                                                                      • GonePhishing
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                                                                        #36
                                                                        Lying is not cool, but some lies like cheating are much worse than the one she is telling. I think that perhaps she meant to get you a gift so told you there was already one. Then I think perhaps she got way to busy/lazy to get a around to it but means to actually go and do it. Which would be why she keeps telling you she forgot it. It could be something like she doesn't have enough money to actually get it as yet perhaps.

                                                                        So, I would not be happy that she lied. I think she probably does mean to get you a gift and it kinda got out of hand. She also probably told you she got you one because she would feel too ashamed to tell you she has not.
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                                                                        • SmutGiant
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                                                                          #37
                                                                          Originally posted by GonePhishing
                                                                          Lying is not cool, but some lies like cheating are much worse than the one she is telling. I think that perhaps she meant to get you a gift so told you there was already one. Then I think perhaps she got way to busy/lazy to get a around to it but means to actually go and do it. Which would be why she keeps telling you she forgot it. It could be something like she doesn't have enough money to actually get it as yet perhaps.

                                                                          So, I would not be happy that she lied. I think she probably does mean to get you a gift and it kinda got out of hand. She also probably told you she got you one because she would feel too ashamed to tell you she has not.
                                                                          That's what I want to clear up. That she should NOT feel ashamed about herself around me, and definetly not lie to cover things up. I don't give a rats ass about some gift

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                                                                          • tony299
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                                                                            #38
                                                                            If she lies about the little things ,she will lie about the big things . Get her out of your life now and save yourself a long road of pain.

                                                                            My wife was the first girl I had ever been with who has never lied to me, even shit where she thought I was going to lose my mind(which I didnt lose my mind because I knew if I did lose my mind, she would think twice then)
                                                                            I had dated girls I liked who lied about little shit and I know (I really listen when people talk not just wait for my turn to speak lol, which makes catching liars ez) when they lied. I would let it go because I liked them and eventually I would get fucked and not the good fucking I am talking about lol.

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                                                                            • SmutGiant
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                                                                              #39
                                                                              Originally posted by tony404
                                                                              If she lies about the little things ,she will lie about the big things . Get her out of your life now and save yourself a long road of pain.

                                                                              My wife was the first girl I had ever been with who has never lied to me, even shit where she thought I was going to lose my mind(which I didnt lose my mind because I knew if I did lose my mind, she would think twice then)
                                                                              I had dated girls I liked who lied about little shit and I know (I really listen when people talk not just wait for my turn to speak lol, which makes catching liars ez) when they lied. I would let it go because I liked them and eventually I would get fucked and not the good fucking I am talking about lol.
                                                                              Well, I'm not about to call it quits... I worked to hard to get her, lol.

                                                                              But on the other hand, I don't want to get fucked (the bad way anyways, lol). What I need to decide is whether or not it will be worth continuing to pursue her or move on.

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                                                                              • Mutt
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                                                                                #40
                                                                                Originally posted by SmutGiant


                                                                                Am I making too big a deal out of this situation? To me a lie is a lie, and if she can lie about something this small who knows what else she may hide from me in the future or even now.
                                                                                I think you already know the answer and are looking for some validation. You are absolutely correct, a lie is a lie, your girlfriend is a liar. Now you must kill her.
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                                                                                • chodadog
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                                                                                  #41
                                                                                  I liked your idea about going to see her at work for lunch and bringing it up while you're there. But yeah, no need to get angry about it. Just let her know that it doesn't matter if she got you a present or not, and that she doesn't have to lie about it. No point in getting critical, 'cause it'll just mess things up.

                                                                                  Be nice about it, and you'll cop a shag.
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                                                                                  • SmutGiant
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                                                                                    #42
                                                                                    Well, I just got home from the office. Gonna take a little nap and hopefully get a chance to see her tonight. As per a1ka1ine's request, I may post the results here.

                                                                                    Have a good day!

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                                                                                    • SexxxyChat-T
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                                                                                      #43
                                                                                      Give her 5 across the eyes, and demand a present...

                                                                                      j/k - You need to have a conversation with her. Don't tell GFY about this and how it made you feel, tell her about it.
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                                                                                      • SmutGiant
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                                                                                        #44
                                                                                        Well, anyways... here's a little update:

                                                                                        I went down to her work that day and caught her just at the end of her break. We just had a smoke together and told her I had to talk to her later, and to call me. So she did. I didn't want to do this over the phone, so I just got things rolling by talking about having more open communication and changed the subject.

                                                                                        I made a date with her Friday (tommorow) to talk about all the specifics and to just totally be blunt with everything. Hope she takes it well...

                                                                                        I'll report back tommorow if anyone gives a crap, lol.

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                                                                                        • Mrdredd
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                                                                                          • Aug 2003
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                                                                                          #45
                                                                                          fuck its not a big deal, get her in private, be sweet and just fucking tell her flat out, babe its ok if you didnt get me a present you know? i know what you feel blah blah, i dont need no stickin present im a man... blah blah..... and then rub her cheeks, kiss her and thats that.


                                                                                          damn its not that big of a fucking deal

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                                                                                          • fsfaz
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                                                                                            #46
                                                                                            I'd say that it seems like a harmless lie. You know why she lied (or you think she did) and it sounds like she had good intentions.

                                                                                            I'd let it go.

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                                                                                            • SmutGiant
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                                                                                              #47
                                                                                              Originally posted by fsfaz
                                                                                              I'd say that it seems like a harmless lie. You know why she lied (or you think she did) and it sounds like she had good intentions.

                                                                                              I'd let it go.
                                                                                              Yes, I realize the actual thing lied about is not that big a deal. It's the fact that she may do this to cover up much bigger things in the future that has me on my toes, or if in fact there is anything else even now that's being covered up.

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                                                                                              • baddog
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                                                                                                #48
                                                                                                Serious question, how old are each of you?

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                                                                                                • Timbo
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                                                                                                  #49
                                                                                                  Fire that bitch!

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                                                                                                  • xxxoutsourcing
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                                                                                                    #50
                                                                                                    Here is how i would see it.
                                                                                                    FUCK ME.... NO NO FUCK YOU...
                                                                                                    Fuck em, don't need people like that.

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