Need some advice - serious people only.
 

Alright. I know GFY isn't the best place to ask this sort of thing... but I know there is good inside of you, I can feel it! (Luke Skywalker)

Anyways. I have a friend I have known for like 6 years. We grew up together. She was always a trouble kid and I was always there to bail her out of situations.

I've sat by idley as I judged every one of her boyfriends and judged correctly on every one of them. I know her better than her parents do.. or for anyone for that matter.

She just broke up with a guy she was with for a year in October. She's over him... but shes now looking around the market for a new guy.

Now the real kicker comes into play here.

I love this kid. :Oh crap
She's everything I want in the world and I have known it for years. But I have never told her how I felt because I didn't want to ruin our friendship. I don't think she has EVER clued in... and I have no idea how she feels about me.

What I do know is if I do tell her how I feel I know we could still remain friends. So I am not worried about that. I am worried about the rejection - I want to spill my heart to her... but will she just go "oh..." and say "sorry kid, we're just friends."

How can I go about this the right way... and tell her how I really feel?

Send her to me

Have you ever left the door slightly open as a tester? I mean ever mentioned in passing the possiblity that you two could get together?

Also, will you be with her tonight? Drunk and or happy with a girl that is a friend on new year's eve may allow you two some conversation time.

I guess, I would start by taking a small risk, and suggesting it to see if there is a response to it. If there seems to be, try to ease into talking about it more.

I think you would be able to tell if you poked around a the subject a little. I think most people will push along an idea if it is one that they have secretly hoped for. Good Luck with her!

"Suck me beautiful..."


ok ok ok...I had to, but sersiously?




be honest and direct, and try to do that during the right time,

...check with and go with your gut feeling...timing and being congruent with what you say and your true feelings is a big factor in pulling off successful communication...


and best of luck to you...if it was meant to work out it will...if not, you choose to be open and honest with your friend...


as for fear of rejection...that's always a possibility, but it's a good thing to learn and break through...I'm of the belief that in order to get what you want in life you have to be willing to be rejected or fail many times along the way...it's just a step towards getting what you want ;)


:)

DUDE YOU ARE A PUSSY!!!
Fuck her in the ass and if she likes it ask her to marry you!!!

LOLOL
Kidding man
Sounds like you may need to let her know man!!!
Nothing wrong with that!!!

it's called oneitus. it's cured by banging 10 other chicks. see http://fastseduction.com for more details. if you still want her after banging 10 other chicks i guarantee you will have no problems having this girl in anyway you want her sexual or long term or otherwise.

and yes i'm being serious, friendly, and helpful.

Brad ,
Telling her will not Screw up your friend ship, if you guys are true friends.
I know tons of people were friends before they got hooked up.
So what would you do?
1. Not telling her how you feel. Wonder what if, the rest of your life?
2. Telling her and finding out her feelings?
Good luck Bro

New Year's Eve is PERFECT! Go to a celebration with her (or watch it with her on TV.) A few seconds before midnight tell her you can't make it through another year without telling her how much you've loved her for so long. And kiss her RIGHT at the stroke of midnight! I'm getting chills just thinking of the romance!

In all seriousness, it is tough to get a woman to see you as a lover once she has seen you as a friend.

Tough, but not impossible. If you don't try, you will regret it. So do your best, make your move, and let the cards fall as they will.

Yes, I am dear Fucking Abby :)

i also might add that in your current AFC status (average frustrated chump), you have NO chance in hell with her. so bite the bullet and spend the next few weeks hitting on every single other chick you meet. trust me. i was the biggest fucking AFC that ever lived.

If she is that good of a freind you need to ask yourself what will happen if the relationship (if she agrees to one) if you and her don't work out as a couple.

Also you need to sit her down and tell her how you really feel and listen to how she feels.

The key is not only telling her how you feel but listening to her also.

Samples?

Nice :thumbsup

you had me at Hello :winkwink:

Sounds like you are the only one that believes that there is something to ruin. You obviously you know her better then she knows you.
Believe me if she thinks of you as you do her you guys can be a great couple.
If she doesnt, then lose the friendship becuase she is just using you to bail her out when she needs it.
BTW, she will never change, so dont even attempt to go out with her to fix her. She stomp your heart before she even realizes what has happened.
:2 cents:

she probably thinks your GAY for knowing so much about her other men :winkwink:

True dat!

Don't be a wimpy guy. Make her pick up on you, or make her attracted to you - www.doubleyourdating.com

Hehe

WTF? Another one?

Hope my advice helps ya bro.... :glugglug

Hey Ice... you'll be happy to know I just called her, going to get together with her tonite at a small new years party. :)

Going to take her aside... and pull tooties line on her, mixed with whatever my heart spits out at the time.
Thank you all for the advice. I don't think I have ever been this confident. :thumbsup

I'm a little shaky from being nervous - but I will be happy to get it off my chest at least. And of course I want the optimal answer... but at least I will have said my peace. Because I honestly didn't know how long I could keep bottled up for.

:glugglug

That's kinda good if you leave out the "I've secretly stalkered you forever" bit. Tell her that she's just a friend, before she does to you. Get her on the prowl for you, instead of you to her. Cook her dinner, warm up the jacuzzi & rub her feet... and tell her it's getting late and get outta the hot tub if you get turned on. But, whatever you do, don't hit on her. Drive her crazy and make her beg you to fuck her. And ICQ me in the morning & tell me how it goes.

Good luck!

Wouldn't work on her...

Women love confident men. Or you can just fake it till you make it. Either way - it always works.

Stick it in her ass , she will fall in love with you

Women don't work the same way as you Juicy, dearest.

Good luck tonight man! Let us know how it goes!

your in the friend zone... no chance.. next....

Good luck, Brad!

POV, I think it would be SO romantic to find out a guy had been feeling that way about me for years. I'd be very flattered and I'd probably melt. :) Hopefully she'll feel the same way about it that I do.

Hey, you are the one who asked for advice. This is some of my best work here. Go ahead, fuck up a good thing by "Confessing" to her - that only makes you a liar & a wimp begging for her approval. Fuck that, you are a man, a catch for her after all these other "Loosers" (your words) so do it man!!! With balls flyin!!! Don't tell her how much you want her, tell her how much she wants you. And act like you are going to kiss her neck at midnight... and just smell her... and back away & shake her hand. This should make her lunge at you. Women don't decide if they will fuck you upon meeting you, but will decide "NOT" to sleep with you imediately if you say or do something stupid.

POV: I do respect your opinion... but it's just not how I do things. If she doesn't take me for who I am then it was not meant to be.

I can't do things like you're suggesting - too bold. :)

Dude, not for nothing but, if you've been friends for that long, and you dont know if she likes you as more than just a friend, she probably doesn't.

By all means go for it anyways you really have nothing to lose but when a chick likes you, you often times can just "tell".

I never asked you to change who you are - I sugested that you are a hunka hunka burning love baby, let her throw herself at you, by paving the way with a little set-up foreplay. Women love foreplay. Be patient and if it is right, she will fall in love with you, don't scare her away.

I hate to be the one to tell you..... BUTTT!!!

Forget about her; you fucked up! Never become a chicks friend if you want to fuck her. She totaly views you as mush right now, ya know, the sensitive guy she can talk to. Unless she somehow falls in love with you you will never hit it.
She wouldn't fuck you now unless she thinks it will last forever.

You got one shot at it though. She needs to see you in a situation where you "don't give a fuck" and she's on your side.
For example (some asshole picks a fight with you and he's totally out of line and she knows it. Go ahead and deck the motherfucker and beat his ass good. Then grab her by the hand and haul ass outta there and when you get to the car grab her and plant your tounge down her throat.)

I know that sounds far fetched to some people but that's the only way to change your image dude.

You may be able to get away with just flairing up at some asshole and making threats to bash his face. If she grabs you and pulls you away from the fight fake like she has to hold you back so she has to wrap her arms around you and then let her pull you away and go straight to a hug. Then say something like
"Yeah, baby you're right. I don't need a fight , I need you. Let's get outta here so I can show you how I feel about you".

Be strong motherfucker. Be the "Alpha Male" and herd that pussy!

Ehhh... shit. That almost made too much sense.

Tough spot to be in. One wrong word / move and friendship has "changed".... If she's interested in you too, just wait for it.

Dude, if you've only known her for 6 years yet you've "grown up with her", I would have to guess that you are both quite young.

Women are very unpredictable when they are young, you're not going to find one answer that is guaranteed to work. Your best bet is to be straightforward, no games or tricks.

If she has no clue that you like her, that is obviously the problem! If you don't go for the close, you will never make the sale. Be the alpha male, remember, you're doing her the favor.

Sorry . Can't be much help without photos of her..

Nude if ya gotem..


Other than that, keep the frinedship and find another G/F

you'll never know til you try. spill it. things will go as they should