have experience planning a wedding?
 

its fucking expensive!!!! I am thinking of late summer of '05

we are thinking about $60k should cover it considering the following ...

$125/head x 250 ppl = $32k for the hall

$30 x 250 = $7.5k for favors

$3k for DJ

$4k for flowers

$1k for dress

$1k for invitations (just guessing)

$4k for photography (this one is critical to me)

$3k for 5 limos sounds ok?

$500 for church

$5k for honeymoon ?


$61k so far and im sure im missing stuff. This is not counting where we will live after the wedding! Id like to move her into my house here where just my uncle and I live, but im sure she will want a place she can call her own, and show to her friends and shit ...

DAYAM!!!

You definitly should get your own place you two can both call home. A good investment too ;)

Elope.


Burtman

just ask jlo. :thumbsup

thing is, 100yrs from now this house is mine. 2 family house with finished attic and basement, lots of property and in a great neighborhood.

house was bought 45yrs ago for $19k and now worth over $500k with no mtg on there.

if i leave uncle alone, he will sell house and keep money lol

I dunno about you but I wouldn't wait 100 years to maybe have a house that could be mine.

Make an investment in a good area and you will make atleast 25% in a few years. Hell Ive almost doubled mine and I've been here for less then 3 years. You just gotta find the right places..

and besides.. do you really want to live with your uncle for the rest of his life?

$60k for a wedding? Dude, put the crack pipe down and think about this a bit. I know you want to have a nice wedding but you can do it for a lot less money than that.

Just go to Vegas and do one of those quicky marriages.After all it is only a piece of paper.Save your money for getting a house.:2 cents:

Exactly.

damn that's a lot for a wedding!
4k for flowers? that seems a little steep
and whats: $30 x 250 = $7.5k for favors
do u give them all a little party pack??

i think u should spend the money as a deposit for a home, and just live in sin! :P

100yrs is a metafor, meaning whenever uncle passes away or leaves or whatever

in my family we say 100yrs as a way of talking about this stuff without offending the people your talking about lol

You can have a nice wedding for 10k (excluding the honeymoon), if you shop around and do some investigating. There are lots of discount places out there for all of your wedding needs.


What are you serving for dinner and what are your favors? Good lord that is pricey! BTW, the flowers are way too espensive.

Just trying to help you out and save you about 50k.

Take the rest of the money and buy a house or invest!!! 61k for ONE day! YIKES!

Yeah well I think you'd start your marriage on the right foot if your uncle wasn't always involved in your life day to day. Just my opinion. You want to start a family.. have kids.. a dog.. etc? You gotta think about these things man.. a house is a great investment and in this day and age, you will be making a lot of money from it as well as building your family.

That is what i did! cost a lot less!

I am a cheap fucker.

i see what your saying bro, but $10k??

the place with all the halls around here is a town called New Rochelle. There is countless halls! But they ALL avg about the same, which is about $100-$150 per head

yea i can shop the other stuff, but the big nut is gonna be the hall :(

No fucking way a DJ is getting 3k. I might be out of touch, but there just can be no way!

why bother

That $61k will be $100k once your lady gets her hands on things. Trust me, I just finished paying for a wedding!

$4k is nothing for flowers, I spent many times that.

Good luck finding a dress for $1k, unless you are picking it out.

$4k for a good photgrapher? Good luck if you want someone decent and video as well. We spent $20k+ on photographer, and I was still not pleased with the results.

$5k for a honeymoon? You flying coach to an all inclusive resort?

I just eloped, had a nice reception a month later, it all worked out fantastic.. I have been married over 3 years now... Been with her almost 7 years... Fuck all that huge wedding bullshit, it all means jack shit... Its just to please everyone else, the only thing that matters is the love between you and your future wife..

Media

I would recommend a destination wedding, pay for like 10 people to join u. And any other friends can pay their own way. Keep it small. Regardless, wedding is a business where they scam you left and right. We are still fighting over some charges for the hotel, good thing I put most everything on amex.

I think your spending WAY more then you need to.

I was living in Napa, (Napa Valley)

I rented an entire Winery.. famous one, V. Sattui Winery
flowers were 5k, DJ was 1k, Food was First Class
and it was about $25 a person.

We paid 3k for the winery.. and my 2 week trip to
Europe was 7k or so.

I think all in all, we spent 30k and had a formal, classy
wedding.. and I paid cash for it all.

We had about 80 people.

If you need help, lemme know.. my wife knows alot
about this kind of stuff.

Don't listen to Brad, he has no clue.

He threw money away thinking that spending tons of
$$$$ means you will have a nice wedding.

Thats not the case with any wedding, more $$$ doesn't mean
your going to get a good wedding service.

Don't spend fucking 60k on a wedding.

Aint ya forgetting the license, the priest, pastor, or whomever to marry you, the furniture/placesetting rentals, the parking at the church and reception, the wedding cake, catering food costs, waiters, bar cost, bridesmaids dresses, and oh yeah the wedding ring.

Then also do not forget the bridal shower and all the costs envolved for that, the bachelors party if your not so whipped to not have one.

You would prolly be better off just outsourcing and hiring a pro, often you can get many reduced rates through them that will more than cover their costs.

Sounds nice! :thumbsup

Weddings will set you back a couple of years it is so expensive and none of it is tax deductible

I am sure you can do a nice wedding for alot less. But if you want to do it at the finest hotel in Dallas, you have to pay the prices that they charge. If you want to cut corners, sure there are plenty that you can.

Also, do not forget the $5k+ for a wedding planner.

EXACTLY!

Media

i went to one in the bahamas and it was fucking great! And that would cover the honeymoon also which is nice!

but then you lose out on some family that you really want to be there, but they dont wanna fly or whatever :/

:1orglaugh

Don't forget the $20K your 'wedding planner' made on the back end.

What the fuck?? Do people really spend these amounts on weddings?!

:eek7

250 people? Even if i knew that many people there is no way in hell i'd invite that many and $125 per head for food is outrageous. Just get a buffet and call it a day. Weddings are a chick thing anyways, if it was upto me it would be a BYOBB affair :)

furniture/placesetting rentals, catering food costs, waiters, bar cost <--- al included in hall i think

bridesmaids dresses <--- they buy their own

Then also do not forget the bridal shower and all the costs envolved for that, the bachelors party if your not so whipped to not have one. <---- yes we have them, but we dont pay for that! The brides mades pay for hers, best man organizes and collects for mine.


and oh yeah the wedding ring. <---- yea i DID forget this, another few $$$$$$

:1orglaugh

Key words... "if it were up to me".

It's not.

I had 250 fuckwits at my wedding. Haven't seen 90% of them again... and won't.


Ah well.

i think he is famous like one of those celebritys

she has HUGE immediate family, and they all go to each others weddings lol

I guess its kind of annoying to go to all these weddings, and have to invite all these people, but atleast they all give healthy gifts heh

also it brings everyone together a few times a year ... pretty cool.

When one of the brothers had it in bahamas, only 60 people showed up. But we had a fucking BLAST!!!!

No doubt she made plenty on back end.

Wedding is not always about what "you" want, its good preparation for marriage. Compromise and writing checks!

Rich: $500 will do.
Sign the marriage certificate and put 60k down on a new home.

Traditionally its the bride's parents that pay for the wedding :)

My brides did.

:winkwink:

my experience is limited to finding the closest courthouse that did weddings :)

In that case, make sure you find a bride with rich parents. My wifes parents offered to do the wedding, if we wanted to get married out in the country, in a church. I said no thanks and paid for it myself.

250 people x 250 gifts :)

Seems you didn't learn your own lesson...

Its the little things that add up.

You didnt mention a rehersal dinner ;)

Dont forget to tip your vendors!

Oh and the postage on those damn invitations add up too!!

And thank you cards!!

That's what I spent on mine 10 years ago.

The divorce was much more :(

nah her parents havent got the money, they have lots of kids so they were always strapped.

I dont mind doing it all ourself, but its because of that we need to wait so long :/

i agree that $60k is insane for a day, and im looking into cutting some corners, just dont know which ones yet lol, prolly all of them haha

why spend so much money on a wedding if it's going to put you in debt, it is only one damn day plus the divorce rate is at 50% anyway

damn, thats another reason not to get married :winkwink:

I see some things that aren't necessarily healthy for a marriage starting out..

One being.. Starting off a marriage with a $60k debt

Another being planning for such an elaborate wedding and not planning for the marriage..

Also... be careful as you guys get all caught up in the glitz and the glamour of such a wedding.. because the day after, you have to come back to reality and begin the adjustment phase of changing some things in your lives..

Don't mean to sound like a fuddy dud, but many times people plan and plan for the perfect wedding but fail to realize that it seldom leads to a perfect marriage, because through all of the planning, they didn't plan for the marriage...