My Father-in-law called my 3 year old a NIGGER!
 

As you might or might not know, I'm a brotha married to a white lady. We have 6 kids together. Well, last night, my kids were at my father-in-law visiting and somehow or another, that old bastard came off and called my 3 year old daughter a ******! How the fuck do you explain to a 3 year old what a ****** is??? What the fuck do I do to him? I know that my kids are going to face all kinds of prejudices but for a 3 year old to have to face it so soon in life is just wrong! WHAT DO I DO????????????

and to have to face it from her grandfather is such a shame. Make sure you think before you act...you don't want to be a poor example to your daughter - she will have to live with namecalling her whole life. If it was my child, they would never see that man again. Period. That's so fucked up.
Make sure your daughter knows how beautiful she is and how much you love her and keep her away from assholes like that guy. Good Luck!

that is just plain WRONG!

Archie Bunker wouldn't even sink that low

you kick some fucking ass man..
that is total bullshit.. I am sure there is something you could at least charge him with..

But your best bet, is take your wife, and your kids, and move so far away that that fucking peice of shit bigot never see's his daughter or his grandkids ever again and dies sad and alone..

people like that should just be taken out and shot.. The day I am looking forward to the most is when the last man/woman of that hateful ignorant generation dies, and the world can actually start moving on..

pop a cap in that old man's ass..

In all seriousness. That is fucked up and I would have bitch slapped that old bastard if I was in your situation. That is just plain wrong. Did you talk to your wife about it, hopefully she is not ok with it as that is pretty serious. I would your kid over there were they can be subjected to such ignorance.

watch Monster's Ball.. That guy had the right idea man..
NEVER forget this day, and when he gets to be 75 and senile, put him in an All Black old folks home, let him be surrounded by what his bigot ass hates the most..

Either that or send me his address and I will go and remove his racist fucking tongue myself

dude im white and IM OFFENDED

be more than happy to come kick his rascist ass for you

well personally I would ask for his side of the story ... or were you present when he said it? has he shown prejudice towards you in the past? Does he treat the children badly?
lots of questions here

perhaps its a silly misunderstanding ..... I mean I can't see you letting the children go around him if you knew he was a vocal bigot

good luck whatever you decide

Good luck, man

12 month grandchild ban minimum.

I wouldn't say lifetime ban.. because, well.. its Texas & he was probably raised that way. I'm sure he bites his tongue all day long. It's a programmed way of thinking.

I'm sure many parents get upset with their kids and call them something they don't really mean to call them.

He was just probably raised in a very prejudice family.

Just explain to him that the reason that his pappy and grandpappy felt that way was because of the penis envy that started with the original slave masters.

Pat him on the back and tell him not to worrry, that it's O.K. to not have the biggest dick in the world. (and then say under your breath) "Not that I would know anything about that".


Unfortunately, with 6 kids, you may or may not be able to ween yourself from the freedom that grandparents can bring :)

dude.. you're a black guy.. just kick his ass

This situation should definitely be resolved on Jerry Springer or Jenny Jones.

Nah this is more of a Montel moment.

did ur parents have any children that lived?

give him a fucking big slap and tell him to stay the hell away from ya' kids man, that is just so fucked up.

throw a new years party in their house, and bring all the homies

Nevermind getting violent, that solves nothing. I would confront him and point-blank ask him what happened and what his deal is. If I didn't like the answer, I would tell him in no uncertain terms that he will never see his grandkids again in this lifetime should he ever open his racist hole like that. Then walk away.


If you do allow further visits, make sure you are there at all times. Leaving your kids with this kind of moron is not a wise idea anymore.

Well, if it was my kid, I would have busted his nose, then made sure he never saw any of my kids again. But I am a vindictive evil bastard. If you are going to insult my family you had better be speaking the truth ie. call my mother a drunk. If not, then you had best be prepared to die. At three she isn't old enough to be getting called that.

crack him in the head with the butt end of a pistol.

if my daugher married a black guy, id just disown her and never see her and then this type of problem woudlnt come up.


It sounds as this guy has actually been tollernt of this relationship, but saying that to the kid was a big slip up and not right. Not the kids fault.

Yeah, what he said :thumbsup

hate and ignorance suck........ :(

Folks like that are always tryin to keep the black man down!

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Just tell them "Fool, you best recognize a brotha and show some respect!"

Man, it's just sad to see people still focus on the color of someone's skin rather than what's inside the person.

I wasn't there. I get woken up by my 3 year old asking me what a ****** is?? I ask her where she got that from and she says Paw Paw called her that. I asked her why he called her that. She said she was playing in the house and he told her to stop that you little ******. Then, she asks me again what a ****** is? I told her that I would explain it later. At 3, SHE WON'T FORGET HER QUESTION! So, later on today, she'll ask me again and I need to have an answer for her. I can't go with the traditional "It's someone stupid and ignorant." b/c then her little feelings will be hurt and she'll start thinking she's stupid and ignorant. As most of you know that have been around on this board very much, I have a short temper. I feel like drop kicking him or something like that but the dude is in his 60s and I would probably end up killing him if I did that. Any suggestions on what I should tell her to explain what a ****** is?

You have 6 kids so your respectivly older than 21 and have a bit more brain.. and are a bit mature,, here is what I would do
But than of course you could also do what every other looney toon just told you.

First talk to your daughter, she is 3 so she propably doesn't understand half of it. Explain her that in the 1950's when pop pop was growing up it was common to call people of brown skin niger - nigra - negro - ****** - etc.. That he still loves her and that he was propably mad about something. That some african american's will call each other ****** as a act of brother hood, but when a white person calls an african american that word its bad. Tell her that you will ask Grandpa why he said that

And leave it at that - Within 2 short hours your kid will forget it ever happend.

Than call your father in law - calmly -
Tell him - Dad, we need to talk in person - Don't do it over the phone.

When you get together with him, ask him why he said it, tell him you had to sit down and explain her the history of the word ****** and that you and his daughter are hurt by the fact he would call his grand daughter a ******.

Let him explain it. Always keep in mind that you have 6 kids, you have one grandpa. He might not be perfect, he might grew up in a different time and it might slipped out by accident. It's not an excuse, but going on the board and screaming about it is no answer.

We are not living your life, you only can. You have to deal with him every day, so you need to be mature enough to talk to him calmly.

Thats what I would do, however I am quite a bit older and I also have 6 kids, so my patience is a lot bigger than other peoples and a lot more forgiving when it comes to certain things

:2 cents:

damn..racism is everywhere it is really sad to see people carry that much hatred around with them anywhere.

Advice? couldnt really say never been in those shoes..not really...well...my girls parents would die if they found out she was dating a white guy...but that doesn't really bother me.

I think ya, a private calm conversation with him. And yeah i think you'd need to keep an eye on him around your kids for sure.

Never know what he would be telling them out of ear shot.

Hmmmmmm on a light note.. teach her to call him granpa honky cracker

still fucked up.. would have kicked his ass for sure:1orglaugh

He called his grandson a ******?

Thats gotta be one of the most fucked up things I have heard.

thats fucking stupid even as a joke

just as i thought

MeatHead

dead from the neck up

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fucked up situation but you really should have been prepared for something like this from her family

lol, what did you expect...that's some cold shit, but welcome to the real world

good advice :thumbsup
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What if your daughter married a white dude to please you,but on the side take black dick in all holes and you just happened to promote one of the sites that she was on.

What you do, take the revshare or PPS?:glugglug

You're in a bad spot.
If you tell her it's nothing bad, then she might start calling everyone a ******. The kids she plays with etc. Then again she might just forget the whole thing.
If you tell her it *is* something bad, then her feelings will be hurt and you can bet the next time she's hurt and angry at someone she'll stomp that little foot and scream out that they're a ******.

Maybe you could try telling her he said "knicker" which is something lacy and pretty, and tell her he must've been saying it wrong because of his accent.

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:thumbsup that's to fucking funny hahaaahaha :1orglaugh
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fuck that old prejudice basterd. You should cut your ties with him and make him regret saying that, and have his ass apologise

I' d tell that old fuck that when his time comes he's going straight to the old folks home, don't pass 'go', don't collect $200. Some of my family was like that growing up. For that sack of shit to say that to a 3 yr old gets me steamed. Tell that fucker to check for a dick and balls because he's obviously a pussy.

Avoid the rush, tell her the truth.

Ask him and your mother in law and your wife and all family members ta sit down and confront him with it.

Let him know how you feel and see how the rest of the family responds. Try not to cause a schism between bloo kin but you now must take the high ground and discipline the grandfather in FRONT of your kids with family present to show that th family unit as a whole, no matter how young or old must be hed accountab for their actions. This will show the kids that rank in the collective group is established by good deeds and respect and responsibility.

That way the kids will realize that parents and grandparents make boo boos too and say bad words. Once that's done have a " Boo Boo Bad Word Party " with a cake and grandpa can only have a piece if he takes responsibility and asks forgiveness. Then when that is done have the 3 year old cut the cake and give grandpa his piece.

(Make sure it's a butter knife or you may have to sew alot of people up )

Yes this sounds like a Jerry Springer comes to the rescue story.

But seriously that's fucked up. At the very least he should get a sit down chat and you and your lady should take steps to remove this negative influence or at the least restrict his access to our kids.

What does your wife say about all of this?

funny shit :1orglaugh

bust a cap already.

6 kids :eek7 that's way too much.

You need to OJ his old ass.:321GFY

Good question. To me this is serious shit, I have no tolerance whatsoever for this sort of ignorance. I would consider going out and finding a nice homeless man and paying him to stand in as my daughter's "new gampa".

Kick the old racist gampa to the curb.

0wn3d like a sl4v3

tell your father in law Serge said he is a MORON