Would you tell her? - ladies - some help please - need a woman's insight.
 

it's my wife's birthday tomorrow(actually today,hehe - look at the time). She asked for a leather jacket, amoung other things, so i bought her one. She was expecting something about $300 - I got one for $1600.

I don't think I should tell her how much I paid, as she'll feel obigated to get me a gift worth as much for my b-day and she can't afford it unless she uses the credit card and that's no good cause i'm the one who pays off the credit cards.

thoughts? I think i should let her think it's a $300 jacket........although when she TREATS it like a $300 jacket and not a $1600 jacket I'll cringe.....

Dont tell her anything,either way you win :)





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There's no reason you should tell her otherwise. It's a gift. She doesn't need to know how expensive or not a gift is. Let her apreciate it for what it is: a gift that you obviously took the time to select just for her. :)

Women are usually expert shoppers. You don't think she'll be able to tell?

maybe - she never goes into the high end section for furs and leathers at the bay though...............

dont tell her shit... she's a chick, she'll FIND OUT how much it really cost the next time she goes shopping, trust me.... then you look like a hero cuz u didnt tell her how much it cost...

and make sure b4 your birthday you tell her you have everything you want....

and NEXT year, do what I did, I took my wench out on a VACATION as her present and blew 6k in 5 days... this way, you get something out of it too, yet it looks like a bday present =)

What do you mean she can't afford it? This is your wife right? Don't you at least somewhat share finances with your own wife? hehe

i pay for the food , the house, her car, all bills including any charges she puts on the CC, and holidays. she works full time as a teacher and buys gas for her car and some cloths (some go on the cc) the rest she saves. she's an incredible saver. I spend every penny I get.

you are a VERY smart man

my bitch will never know fully what im worth.

and dipshit he did say that he is the one tha tpays off her credit cards, so put 2 and 2 together.

Put the recepit somewere not to obvious..

or tear of the "price tag" and leave it somewere.."your dresser drawer" ect ect..

Oh dude you're so screwed!

DH

make sure she doesnt save and run

Do NOT leave the price tag lying around. that's sooo tacky, and then she feels lke she's seen something she shouldn't.

If you tell her "aw, it wasn't that much, don't worry about it. YOU"RE WORTH IT." then she'll secretly find out on her own. Yes, she will. Most women can tell the worth just by touch and smell of the fabric/leather/fur. She'll smile and say 'thank you, that's really too much for me' as she's trying it on. Then you will smile, because you will know she knows.

All will be right in the world. Get the jacket. :)

You dont need to tell her the price Sleazy, it´s a present. And as a present she shouldnt ask the price as well. :)
But if she´s a good shopper (as myself) she will be able to tell the price just by looking at it. :Graucho
And even if she is not so experienced on shopping, if she wants to know how much that jacket cost you, she will. It´s just a matter of taking a look around. 99% of my friends do that
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You bought clothes for a woman who didn't pick them out beforehand?

Ah well, maybe you are one of the few lucky guys who actually have better taste in clothes than their woman... :1orglaugh

wtf do credit cards have to do with anything you fucknut?

I guess your sharing a brain with your BITCH and it's her day to have it.

Sleazy said 'my wife can't afford to spend that much blah blah' .. that's what is humorous to me. I've never heard anyone separate their spouses finances to that degree, as if he's upper class and she's middle class. lol :thumbsup

you never tell how much a gift is...

do not tell her - the only way it can come back to you is in an argument.

Just let her be happy and you be happy that she is happy.

i FUCKING LOVE THAT WORD
i havent seen/heard it in so long

thank you kman
thank you very much

Sleazy, you should read some of John Grey's books - women are not digital - they do not take into account the present's value - they just count it as 1. You gave her a present, you treated her nicely - you get a point (just 1 point even if you bought her a Ferrari).

His advice was to spread your "generosity" around - buy her smaller gifts - shouldn't be only for b-days you know. Anyway... some women would disagree of course but you'll need to direct your comments to John Grey and I don't think he has registered at this board ;)

How much or little something costs doesn't matter to me as much as them actually remembering or taking time to get me a gift. Telling someone how much a present costs, makes them feel guilty and shallow. If she feels the need to return a gift just as expensive for your birthday or whatever, who cares. Trying to make your mate happy in a relationship is all that matters. Being competitive with gifts is for divorced parents and their kids :1orglaugh

Don't tell her. Even if she asks simply say it doesn't matter that you just wanted to give her something you knew she wanted because you love her.

and kman is right, she WILL find out and you'll be in for some serious bedroom action :Graucho

its the thought that counts - and that's true for every gift. Telling the price of any gift is just not classy and lessens its worth anyway.

How nice of you, Turboface got me a full length chinchilla fur coat and I don't want to know how much that was! LOL

I think she will be sooo happy when you give it to her!


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just like Loryn said yesterday..STFU and smile, that's really a winner and class.

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what I was thiking too :winkwink:

i think i have a solution for ya man...
hint something about a price somehow so she asks how much it was. but refuse to tell her. then maybe she will look around online or in stores to find the jacket and price.
once she finds it u still have to refuse to tell her the price...

then she knows, but she doesnt know. so she will take great care of it 'just in case':thumbsup

some people are just plain happy you got them a gift, whether it was $300 or $1200. some feel more appreciated if they know you spent more, and with those people, i at least drop a hint. she's your wife - which one is she?

btw, some people wouldn't like that you spent that much. they'd feel that now they have to take better care of the jacket, and will feel like they've been saddled with the responsibility of something where all they wanted was to look cute and be warm. if she might feel this way, you might let her find out what it cost later on her own or not find out at all.

it's all about the person she is.

She will find out how much it cost. If it is something she has been looking at she already knows how much it cost.

I bought things before and women asked where I got it then they said the exact price. Then told me where I could of got it cheaper.

If I buy anything from a kitchen table to a TV I am asking a women where I can find the best deal. They just know.

all women aren't the same. i don't run around pricing gifts. if it isn't somewhere i regularly shop so that i see it coincidentally, i'll never know.

She should know the difference between the two - if not, it is impolite to tell the price of any present.

Theres an ol' saying, "its the thought that counts". any present from you should be treated as though you spend $1600. Love and respect shouldnt be measure by the money spent.

I hope you spent the money not because it has a bigger price tag (*buying a name) - hopefully you got it because it had better quality to it.

Don't think that the tags in the coat won't register in her mind. And depending on what kind of woman she is, the kind that will burn her heels off getting to the store or the kind that might look if she happens to be in that area of the stores... she'll have some sort of clue on the cost.

But it IS tacky to mention the price in any way. It isn't supposed to be a contest. Most men would lose it if it were. :glugglug

Don't tell her. Its a present, it would be a cheese move to mention how much it cost. She will know what its worth by the type of leather or the tag. If she doesn't know.... one of her girlfriends will tell her. Let her find out on her own and you will get some great lovin in return.

Honestly I doubt if it's something she really wants she's going to treat it like anything less than the precious gift from her loving husband that it is. Just tell her that you hope she will cherish it as much as you do her. The rest will follow as woman's instinct to protect the things she cherishes :) No worries Sleazy, it will be all good.

dont tell her...that would be tacky

no way you should tell her.

Why would you tell her what it cost? The first thing I do when I buy someone a gift is to find the price tag and tear it off.

if she dont notice, and i think she will, defently tell her. i know i wouldnt stand for somethin like that to be mistreated

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brand0n, you say you "wouldnt stand for somethin like that to be mistreated"?

isn't a jacket supposed to be a utilitarian item? and isn't a gift something you GIVE to another person, meaning that you no longer own it so therefore have no rights over?

once someone gave me a leather trench coat. it was pretty cool. then one day about a year later, i threw my coat on the couch and this person said "hey, what are you doing with your coat?!?!?! the dog could jump on it!"

i gave it right back to him and refused to take it back. i had a lousy day, i was exhausted, and when i threw the jacket on the couch, it wasn't about him. i didn't throw it in the fucking gutter.

when does a gift stop being this thing you have to take care of in order to keep from hurting someone's feelings and start being something of mine i can do what i want with without guilt? something with NO strings attached is what i consider a gift. if you give something to someone and that gift is about your ego, it seems more like blackmail to me than a gift.

Hahahaha love this one :D

Don't tell her anything, it's a gift. Do you ask for the price of your gift when you received it? No.. Well not supposed to! Don't tell anything and she will be happy :thumbsup :2 cents:

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