how to treat a woman by a lesbian
 

Mention lesbians to any bloke and he'll be fantasising about girl-on-girl action before you know it. But when it comes to sexually satisfying a woman, lesbians and straight men have a lot in common. In Part Two of our Sex Tips guide, a gay woman tells men how to become the perfect lover. By Mary Jane
By:MaryJane


DOs AND DON'TS

WHEN talking about a woman's body, or any insecurities she may have about it, you must be extremely careful about the words you use.

When she asks you if she looks fat she wants an honest, yet flattering answer. Don't ever say: "I like you just the way you are."

Regardless of how your partner actually looks, your "compliment" will be interpreted that you're lowering your standards to accommodate her imperfect body.

There are other faux-pas responses, but the worst has to be: "Well, honey, there's just more of you to love."

If it seems like a no-win situation, you can turn it around by saying: "You are beautiful" and then proceed to gently touch all the areas she is self-conscious about. The more compliments you give her, the more attractive, confident and sexually desirable she will feel and therefore be.

Women feel the same pressure about breast size that men feel about hard dick size. While many men might love a busty woman, most naturally well-endowed females are self-conscious about the size of their breasts.

They may have been teased when they were young. For this reason, it isn't a good idea to say: "Wow, you are stacked. I never realised your tits were so big."

Women with small breasts probably got teased too. But many men prefer small, perky breasts to large ones. But don't call them "small", just call them "beautiful".

Do share the responsibility for birth control with your partner. This may mean buying the condoms and sharing any costs. Or it could mean going with her to the gynaecologist if she wants you to.

Don't complain about using a condom and never pressure her to go on the pill. Take a genuine interest and discuss the subject with her. And if your lover does fall pregnant unexpectedly, don't run away. Take on some of those lesbian communication skills and discuss it with her.

It's up to each individual to decide whether to engage in sex while drunk or high, but at least be honest with yourself about the possible effects. Let's just say that drug and alcohol use isn't going to make you a Casanova.
SEX TIPS FOR MEN FROM A GAY WOMAN PART2


THE LOWDOWN ON GOING DOWN

JUST as you men love a woman who enjoys going down on you, women love men who enjoy doing down on them. But when it comes to cunnilingus, most women admit that most men suck.

Some men simply don't enjoy it. Remember - many great things in life are acquired tastes.

When you go down on a woman it's about a whole lot more than an orgasm. You must give a woman the attention she needs and deserves.

Many people say oral sex is more intimate than intercourse. This type of attention is important for women because most don't reach orgasm through intercourse as easily as men.

Since a woman's centre of pleasure is her clitoris, oral sex is a surefire way for her to reach orgasm.

But for a great cunnilingus session, you've got to be prepared to go the distance. Don't think you're going to be down there for a few minutes and she'll explode in a mind-blowing orgasm. Don't stop until she wants you to.

ORGASMS

MEN have endless questions when it comes to women's orgasms. And so do women.

Many women think something is wrong if they aren't having orgasms through penetration and want to learn how to have twatl orgasms.

But the twat doesn't have enough nerve endings for orgasms to occur without some clitoral action. So, guys, stop trying so hard to get your partner to come solely through intercourse. When they don't, you're going to think you're doing something wrong. Or that your partner must be frigid. The clitoral glans is analogous to the penile glans. Can you imagine having sex and never having your hard dick touched except by accident? It's up to you to make sure your partner's clitoris sees some action. Work with each other to ensure both your needs are met.