i am 25 and have never had a girlfriend.
 

i am 25 and have never had a girlfriend. i have had sex though. should i tell girls i have never had a girlfriend? i want to have one, but girls intimidate me. i dont know what to do with them or what to say to them, or where to take them. sometimes i think i dont deserve a girlfriend because im not good enough. what should i do?

oh lord. Buy a revolver and see what it tastes like.

gay

i have a wife and i thought i was pimp till i die

its dope but in some ways it sucks

You must be gay then.

i am being serious. this is not a joke

you come to GFY for personal advice? Hey buddy this is the wrong place for it. Only the most unsensitive and ignorant people hang out here. Quit while you can, they will eat you alive :helpme

no i am not gay. i am straight.

girl do what to you? Are you in the porn biz ?

i am not ashamed to admit the truth. i am trying to administer my own therapy on myself to get over this hurdle. sharing this with people is helping me a little. i have to get a girlfriend.

Step 1. Move out from Mommy and Daddy
Step 2. Get GF

yes, i have been in this biz for 3 years. i just started making good money about 2 months ago. before then i was making a little over minumum wage

Sigh, I wonder if this is for real or just another character.

OK, I feel bad for anyone who is 25 and never had a girlfriend so let's assume you're for real.

1) Girls are people, too. Seriously. What are you intimidated by? The worst they can do is say no and maybe giggle at you. Fuck 'em.
2) Take them somewhere you are comfortable. A place you eat often or a club you are familiar with. Try to be polite. Don't let your urge to make a good impression get out of hand; keep the loud laughter and sexual innuendos to a bare minimum. Hold doors for her, smile a lot and don't stare. Ask questions about her and what she likes. If she likes or dislikes something that really disagrees with your own preferences, <B>don't</B> make a big deal out of it. Don't tell her she's crazy, don't act like her opnions are stupid, don't laugh at what she says unless it starts wiith "How many ____ does it take to screw in a lightbulb".
3) Not worthy? Have you met some of the girls walking around out there? Seriously, you need to drop that line of thought. If there's one thing women respond to above all else it's confidence. Unless you have the perfect puppy-dog-who-needs-love demeanor, women will respond negatively to a lack of confidence. Keepy our head up and your shoulders back and behave like you're in charge. <B>Don't</B> act like a tough guy, just act like you've been there and done that and you're on top of it.

SpaceAce

dont feel bad i use to be shy too, but of course this was only til i was about 17 or 18...

do you do ANY work outside your home or is the porn biz your fulltime job?

i work part time at a pizza place so im kinda forced to be social whether i like it or not, but it makes me better money to be more outgoing, so i kinda get more of a reward out of it then some other people do.. (i get paid for being nice)

if your problem is social anxiety or somethin, try a job like mine til you get the hang out of just talkin to new people out of nowhere, itll boost your confidence and maybe get you laid a lot more often

it's not rocket science... hell, i got a new one tonite! :) couldn't be happier.

I think it's the lack of confidence. Hit the gym, eat right, get a trendy haircut and the shit will fall into place.

:thumbsup Good luck.

... there is a serial killer sleeping in you !!!

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4) Get a gun.. girls think guns are sexy
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Well, it would help your case ALOT if you were 25 and a virgin. No, I'm not kidding. If you tell a girl you have never had a girlfriend but you HAVE had sex, then she will think you're a "player" and aren't serious. Why did you have sex if you weren't dating the girl? It's really none of MY business, and you don't have to answer that, but I want you to think about it yourself. Seriously. But don't lie about it. What's done is done and honesty is very important.

And don't worry about being shy. I am a woman who happens to think shy guys are very sexy. I know there are other girls out there like me. Find one. :)

Be very open, very honest, and most importantly, don't just talk about yourself. Ask her questions about HER. Act like SHE is the center of the world. Be a perfect gentleman, treat her like gold and LISTEN to her. Be a friend, but don't be TOO nice or she might walk all over you later. If you're nice enough, the truly nice girls will probably ask YOU out. They'll respond to you if they think you're really interested but too shy to do anything about it.

Good luck!

In my experiences, girls I met preffered to be treated like shit.

NEVER depend on someone else to make you happy. People go their whole lives looking for that special someone who will finally make them happy. Noone can make you happy but you. You don't NEED anyone.

take the girls to the movies you never have to talk in a movie..

Yup yup, ask a girl how she wants to be treated and she will say nice, but treat her nice and she'll be a bitch to you and move on quick. Be a dick to her and treat her like shit and you're golden.

I have had alot of guys treat me like shit in the past and I'm not with a single one of them now. Why? Hmm...

If she really wanted to be treated like dirt, she'd STILL be hanging around you. Oh, you say YOU dumped HER? Mmm Hmm. Sure. Okay, well even if you did, if she REALLY wanted to be treated that way she'd still be hanging around your doorstep trying to win you back.

Do YOU want o be treated like shit? I doubt it. NO ONE DOES.

Don't go filling tis guy's head with nonsense or you'll have him married and divorced more times than Liz Taylor by the time he's 40.

Treat a girl well and IF she's the right one for you, she'll treat you well right back. Just because you treat a girl nicely does NOT mean she'll walk all over you.

I totally treat my men like KINGS and I DAMNED well expect them to treat me like a queen. Fair is fair and relationships work BOTH ways. :winkwink:

about the "talking thing" --women love to talk. about themselves or their interests usually. steer the conversation in that direction and you won't have to worry too much about participation. just nod your head or mumble something when it seems like she waiting for a response from you. this will also help take some of the pressure off of you about saying something stupid ...

if she catches you not paying attention and asks "are you listening to me ?!" just say "I'm sorry. I was just noticing at how beautiful your eyes are ...". remember that phrase --you can get a lot of mileage out of it later in life. don't talk about your work on the first date or so. "wanna be on one of my web sites?" probably wouldn't be a good ice breaker either ... :winkwink:

Post a picture of yourself so we can laugh at you.

piss poor bitch !

ohh man how many girl did you get to fall for that?
when i meet a guy i want him to tell me just a much about himself as i tell him about me. i want him to make me laugh an if you have forgotten... Girls like chemistry, and you will not be able to say that "there was chemistry between us tonight" if he just sit there nodding his head. Sorry that doesn't work.
and personally the eye thing doesn't work on the first date... to many people uses that one. unless he is really good at using his charm while he says it then it is gonna fall to the ground.

regards Pernille/vapser

:1orglaugh :1orglaugh :1orglaugh

Maybe your just butt-ugly? Post a pic so we can decide :)

Yes true! 100% my phylosohie...
A girl is just a human with a hole and two tits.. i can rely more on good male friends than on a girl friend and fucking (sex) isn´t that good.
In the end it ´s all about getting married and making some children. :321GFY

25 years and no girl friend??????? That doesn't sound too normal to me..

i had a gf in grade 8. nothing but fuck buddies since then. i don't usually hit on girls so maybe thats the problem. when they come to you its much easier to keep things all sex.

how i miss school and frat parties :glugglug

i am 25 and have never had a girlfriend. i have had sex though. should i tell girls i have never had a girlfriend? i want to have one, but girls intimidate me. i dont know what to do with them or what to say to them, or where to take them. sometimes i think i dont deserve a girlfriend because im not good enough. what should i do?

:(

SHOOT YOURSELF MAN!!!!:thumbsup

HORRIBLE HORRIBLE ADVICE!

Lesson #1: Do NOT take advice ABOUT women FROM women!

Tootie, you probably had great intentions but you're setting him up to be played. You're probably an expert at getting men, but as a woman you probably don't have a clue what it takes to pickup women. Hell, what do I know about picking up men? Exactly

Now, onto the other lesson material:

#2) Approach, approach, approach

The best way to get over your intimidation of women is to talk to as many of them as possible. If you're very intimidated, go into stores and talk to girls working there, it's easier and safer for you. Once you've done that a while, talk to girls you meet on the street. Just throw in random comments that are relevant to the situation, and take it from there.

The key is to talk to as MANY girls as possible, this will get you more comfortable with them very quickly.

#3) Work on yourself. Work out, dress nicer, get a haircut, whatever. Be the best you can be, basically

#4) The main goal for you is to rediscover your nature. Yeah I know, sounds queer, but what I mean is:

YOU'RE A MAN!

So act like one. Are men worried about approaching women? Are they intimidated by 160 pound girlies? Hell no.

Real men step up and take what they want. Go up to the girl, chat her up, ask for her number, meet her later, go for the kiss, etc... The key is to constantly approach and advance from there on, and you'll have a girlfriend soon enough. Don't be afraid to show women you want them and they turn you on, often they find that sexy too and believe me, they love the attention.

And about attention: Use it to your advantage. Girls crave attention and compliments, so give it to her and then withdraw it again. She will want more and do things to try and get it from you. DON'T cave too fast.

Basically, don't feed her ego too much, just enough to make her come back for more.

Some things you should NOT do:

Be the nice guy (they finish LAST)
Avoid being cocky with her or busting her balls a little bit (not too much!)
Give her too much attention (for instance, when you get a number, wait 3 days to call her - don't talk to her for hours on the phone, etc.)
Do NOT always be available

Etc

Women want MEN, not nice guys, not pussies, not wimps, not sissies, but MEN. Don't forget that and you'll get girls soon enough :)

I had to comment on some other things tootie:

Shy guys attract two types of girls: Shy girls that are okay with shy guys because they're shy themselves. While finding these are okay for now, they won't help you get over your shyness much. Also, if you're both shy the chances of you getting together are extremely slim.

The other type of girl is the one who likes to be in control. The semi-manly BITCH that like their men obedient and pussy-whipped. You WILL attract these women with a shy attitude so get over your shyness instead and go for the women you really want (the feminine women - who almost all men are attracted to. What do feminine women want? The answer is simple: Masculine men!)

About being open: Don't be. Not too much, not in the beginning. Girls don't want to hear about your problems or bullshit. They want you to ask the right questions that allow them to run their mouths. So, ask her questions about HER: Good advice there tootie! :)

If you shower someone with attention, they will think and believe they deserve that, and the one giving it to them must be unworthy because she is getting so much praise (i.e. she's better than you!). Believe me, do NOT act like she is the center of the world. In fact, make her believe she is only one in 3 BILLION women, which is exactly the truth. If anyone deserves attention, it's YOU YOURSELF! By showing her YOU are a great guy, she will realize that you're the catch, not her. This is what women respond to.


Again, DON'T! Don't be afraid to bust a girls balls a bit. Don't be afraid to be cocky with her. She gets this drooling nice guy shit from so many girls already, she'll be happy to have found a man who isn't intimidated by her. NEVER put girls on their so called pedestals.

This is how the guy has been doing it for 25 years and it didn't work. DON'T wait for the girls to take initiative. Why? Because you'll end up with WHOEVER chooses YOU, while you should be the one to make that call. You decide who you approach and date.

Studies have shown that male animals without testosterone act passive towards females of their species. What happens? They DON'T find female and they DON'T get laid.

DO NOT be passive. You're a man so act like one :)

RESPECT THE COCK!


P.S. - You are gay :1orglaugh

mwahaha true dat! :thumbsup