Atheist Looking for an AA sponsor.(Can only do 11 steps)
 

Get the I can google part. Don't expect you cats posting your home phone #'s either! (insert some proper joke emoji here)
"Pull yourself by the bootstraps" theory is not applicable.

Life's a bitch and then you die kinda shit works better.

Seriously though.

Good luck bro. I'm watching 2 people I love slowly commit suicide by alcohol. They both dont have much time left and dont care.

It sucks. Especially because I've seen quite a few other people in my life that I love already complete that suicide mission...

https://www.aa.org/pages/en_US/online-intergroup

I would not be the right person to put myself forward, however I did have real troubles in the past and came out the other side. I'm coming up on my 5 years clean in September.

But good luck to you man, and you are taking the right step by reaching out for help. I hope you get yourself sorted soon.

AA/NA etc are tools, but they don't hog the whole tool box

'Anonymous' programs don't really help you address the underlying reasons for why you started abusing a substance in the first place. a lack of belief in a higher power is probably not what caused you to first pick up the bottle I'm guessing

if I were you I'd keep giving AA a chance and attend meetings if only for the 'real world accountability' aspect and also hanging out with people who at least understand your struggle

equally importantly though I'd urge you to start seeing an individual therapist to help you sort out what caused all this and how to fix those issues (the stuff you've been masking with addiction)

I recommend betterhelp.com all the time to peeps who deal with all the ish life tosses our way. I still use it myself from time to time when I notice I've slipped back to not remembering the last day I ate. only place I've personally ever found therapy to actually be helpful tbh

it's a large, highly regarded organization of licensed therapists and if you do decide to check it out they have a pretty thorough (but simple, you just tick the appropriate box for each question) questionnaire at the beginning of the process to ensure you're given therapist recommendations that suit you. one of the questions relates to faith/religion for example

they make the process of finding someone to work with really easy, and if it isn't a good fit you can just switch immediately to try someone else, all payments go through their site so no fuss no muss. fit is important in therapy, the most motivated client and most well-meaning therapist will accomplish nothing if the two aren't a good fit together

in my case they hit it out of the park in the first name on the recommendation list I received, really awesome dude who has been such a help to me over quite a few years

options for therapy are skype video chat, email, voice calls, phone calls and rates are sliding scale based on what you can afford to pay

highly rec them to anyone in need of some private support

most importantly they have a huge roster of sex-positive therapists so if you're in adult, you don't have to hide what you do


for real, you gonna let a liquid ruin your life? please. you know you're stronger than that

good luck and please keep trying, whatever avenues you pursue

Thank you..helped.

Thank you for the care and time.:)

Almost 23 years, and I absolutely do not believe in an invisible old dude.

Many start off with the Group as a higher power. Remember there is nothing about all powerful in a higher power, just that it is a power greater than yourself.

When I first got sober, at least in the area of sobriety, the group obviously knew much more, and had much more power over alcohol than I did.

Hit me up any time, contact info below

That totally sucks as you can only be a nagger in their eyes trying to love them and it doesn't work much sorry bro.

In my opinion, there is a way out of every life situation.

Death is a way out of a life situation.

is too cruel.

Getting clean is the easy part. It's life that's a bitch.

I think it is better to seek professional help.