For All The Body Shamers ... and Victims
 

1. Empathize.

"Instead of spending your time trolling around on the internet with the hopes of ruining someone's day, change your negative messages into positive views and use your energy to help yourself. Take a moment to empathize, self-reflect, and make yourself and the world a better place.

2. You look like an insecure asshole.

"When you speak badly about another person's body, it doesn't make that person look bad. It makes YOU look like an insecure asshole."

3. Look deeper.

"My size might be the first thing you notice, but it does NOT give you insight into who I am."

4. Don't make assumptions.

"Just because I'm overweight doesn't mean I don't work out. Though I've been exercising hardcore to lose weight for several months, I still have people come up to me in the gym to give me 'advice' and teachers in exercise classes that I frequent assume I'm a first timer because of how I look. Not only does it often disrupt my workout, it totally shatters my confidence by reminding me that no matter how much progress I've made, people will still only see me as fat. Sure, I'm nowhere close to my goal body, but don't make assumptions about my lifestyle based only on what you see at that point."

5. I can be proud of myself.

"Just because I am happy with my body does not mean I am telling you that your body, which is different from mine, is bad in any way. I can be proud of myself and encourage everyone to be proud of themselves as well."

6. If I want to change my body, I will do it for me.

"You just shame me due to insecurities you might not even know that you have. I'm fine with my body the way it is, and I definitely won't change it for someone that doesn't even know the person inside this body. If I want to change my body, I will do it for me, not for anyone like you."

7. I've worked so hard.

"It’s not about you, I’ve worked so hard to get the muscles I have and I actually don’t care that you think is intimidating OR that you’d never want to look like that. I love my body. Telling me 'I want to be toned, not bulky like you' won’t make you like your body more."

8. Move on.

"Simply, Why? Why does someone else’s body trigger you so much you have to comment? How does their individual life and choices affect you at all?! Move on, do you, and let them do them."

9. One tiny comment might not hurt you...

"Please remember that one tiny comment that might not hurt you could be absolutely devastating to someone else."

10. My stretch marks are mine.

"That after years of repeat pregnancy loss, my stretch marks are mine to own. Each one of them represents the privilege I was given to finally bring a son into this world, and he left his mark of love on me to remind me what a gift it was."

11. What do you get out of it?

"Just why?! Why does someone’s body OFFEND others so much?! What do you get from putting down someone’s looks?!"

12. It doesn't matter.

"Whether I am happy or not with my body, I don't need to hear what you think about me. It doesn't matter if you think I am too fat or if you think I am too skinny. At the end of the day, the only opinion that should matter to me about MY body is MY opinion."

13. It is not my responsibility.

"I am my own person and I do not exist for your consumption. It is not my responsibility to make sure I adhere to YOUR standards of beauty."

14. Literally no one asked.

"Literally no one asked you for your opinion on their body. Picture this: you've struggled with an eating disorder for years. You've hated your body, cried over it, done everything in your power to change it. Your friends and family are worried sick about you. You are slowly beginning to raise your self confidence, beginning to get healthy and feel better about yourself. And some fucking idiot comes along and body-shames you. Can you imagine how that would feel? How that could set someone back to where they were years ago? You could undo years of recovery with one statement, that you could just as easily have kept to yourself. It's time to grow up, keep your opinions to yourself, and have some respect for the way other people have worked to love their body."

15. You'll always be an asshole.

“I can always lose weight, but you’ll always be an asshole.”

16. Cellulite has nothing to do with weight.

"Cellulite has nothing to do with weight/percent body fat. I’m in the gym six days a week, I have gotten down to 16% body fat and STILL have visible cellulite. It’s literally the makeup of your skin and isn’t indicative of your fitness level AT ALL."

17. I weigh more than your opinion.

"At least I weigh more than your opinion."

18. Being fat is not the worst quality.

"I don’t owe anyone an explanation for the way my body looks. Being fat is not the worst quality a human can have. Is being fat really as bad as being a racist, sexist, liar, abuser, thief, fraud? Good people and bad people come in all shapes and sizes. The shape of a person’s body is not an indication of their character. And if you don’t like my body, look away."

19. I do not exist to give you sexual thoughts.

"I do not exist to give you sexual thoughts, so if I don't, okeydoke. That doesn't give you the right to belittle me, call me names, or make weird faces at me."

20. I know I don't have a butt.

"Yes I know I don’t have a butt. I’ve been told it more times than I can count. And I’m totally okay with not having one!"
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21. At least keep your comments to yourself.

"Even if we are fat or skinny by choice, as opposed to something we can't help, then it's still none of your business! It doesn't have to be caused by an uncontrollable disease or condition for us to be human beings who deserve love and acceptance. If you can't give us the basic decency of that, then at least keep your comments to yourself, because we know that the last of your concerns is our actual health and well-being."

22. There are illnesses and diseases.

"Being overweight doesn’t always reflect laziness. There are illnesses and diseases that can affect a person’s body weight, and some of those diseases are incurable. Also, some people don’t like to discuss their personal medical history, so even their friends and family may not be aware of their struggles. Just remember that not everything is as simple as it may seem."

23. You don't know my story.

"You don't know my story. I may not be thin or even a 'normal' weight, but I've lost 150 pounds without your help. I don't need your (usually totally wrong) unsolicited advice now."

24. It is okay for you to not love my body.

"It is okay for me to love my body. It is okay for you to not love my body. It is not okay for you to comment on my body without me asking you to."

25. Being skinny is not the same as being healthy.

"Stop disguising your fatphobia with concern for other people's health! Being skinny doesn't not equal being healthy. I have been super skinny all my life, and for a big portion of it I had terrible eating habits, so much it ended up with me having really high cholesterol levels and going on a prescribed diet. No one ever questioned what I ate or not. You just wanna degrade people and pretend you are being nice. It's a horrible thing to do. People have different metabolisms and body types. Again for the people in the back: BEING SKINNY IS NOT THE SAME AS BEING HEALTHY!"

26. Just be kind.

"How would you feel if someone took your biggest insecurity and made a point to make you feel even worse about it? Do you have crooked teeth? More hair than someone? Well, let’s see how you feel when someone attacks it, especially online. Just be kind. We all live in this world together and it only works if there is kindness."

27. No one owes anyone.

"No one owes anyone health. It is not a moral imperative to be healthy. No one has to behave as a good fat person, or a thin body that is temporarily broken."

28. You don't live here.

"My body might not be a temple but it is a house. My house. You do not live here. I do. Leave my house alone."

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Fuck off, its fucking unhealthy period, a little shame is a good thing and a lot is just bullying.

"I can always lose weight but you'll still be an asshole"


Shame is good? You calling me fat is not a revelation; I know I was fat. Your comment wouldn't motivate me to lose weight. An opinion by a stranger has no bearing on me.

You are very insecure if you feel the need to point out that someone is fat. Does it give you a boner to make fun of people? Do you feel more manly?

No, it isn't healthy but you're not a doctor. Do you walk up to smokers and call them names? It's not healthy and pollutes the air we breathe.

Our world consists of people with various and numerous differences. The world isn't going to change to please you. Fat offends you?? Don't look.

I'd bet you think all fat people eat too much and illness or other factors is an excuse. Until you've walked a mile in their shoes, don't comment.

** from the mouth of a woman who lost one hundred-plus pounds and is now chubby but still considers herself fat **

So... You're shaming shamers. Shame on you! :disgust

I feel so ashamed :)

Aimed at crookedteers shaming the Donald

swallow it dork, you are a do-gooding hypocrate like most losers, it's not cause your fat, it's because you only care to please your self and wallow in your own disappointment because others don't place you as more important, go get some fucking help

lol keep sucking that chump cock while defending your master. You must have brain damage

Years ago (YEARS ago) there was a BBW who posted here and ripped to her to shreds. I was a complete jerk about it. I forget her name; Her husband ran her site. Some people called me out here on GFY but I stuck to my guns. Eventually I got to know both of them, and we all became friends. Never met in person but we chatted in ICQ.

Eventually I came to understand that was a complete dick about her weight.

And here I am now overweight myself.

time for a classic
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is facebook down?

Robbie & Claudia Marie?

Keep providing proof you're an asshole. You act like you know me. I'm no more important than anyone else but apparently you think you are. It's okay, dear, your insecurities and lack of intelligence are showing us exactly who you are.

See, attacking someone you don't know, anonymously, is telling. My post was a tongue-in-cheek paste but you weren't getting attention on this forum so you chose to try to hurt me. Words from an anonymous asshole have no effect on my life. You thought you'd feel like a big person by attacking a small fish in a huge ocean. I'm still swimming along while watching you drown.

If you're attempting to make me cry, don't hold your breath.

And while you ponder a response, try to learn how to spell, use punctuation, use grammar, how to capitalize the first word in a sentence and, in general, not be a pus-filled pimple on the backside of humanity.

Thanks for the comedy, by the way. Watching another storm coming in with eight or more inches of snow is depressing. Now I'm smiling, laughing and will go to sleep happy and thinking of my week ahead, with no thoughts of you or your sad attempt at feeling great because you were a keyboard warrior.

Nighty-night, snookumz.

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a lot of mental gymnastics by OP trying to justify sloth and weakness...isnt it amazing how my grandfather never came across "illnesses and diseases" in the WW2 concentration camp he was in?...no "genetics"...everybody was skinny to the bone...

I think fat people should just accept who they are...lazy...its OK to be lazy...it is your right to die an early death from clogged arteries...do not expect others to pretend that water is not wet tho...if you get offended it is because you are trying to escape reality...

reality <--- a place you can not escape :2 cents:

Being an asshole doesn't shorten your life. Being fat does.

Being an ass actually expands your lifespan ...

There is nothing wrong with shame ...

that is a myth... the actuality is that nobody remembers or misses an asshole, everyone misses people who are nice or good to others. The main difference is that one ends up dying much more alone.

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Skinny because they were starved for months on end. I’ve spoken with holocaust survivors and I never asked about fat people but did hear of those who starved to death. But in the 40’s we didn't have such a weight problem. No fast food, no frozen meals to speak of, no government programs that gave free, unhealthy food to those in need.

Many, many years ago my parents had a friend who got free cheese and food. Cheese, fatty pork, fatty meat, butter, etc. They didn’t give fruit or veggies, just crap. He was at least 300 lbs and his women were huge. Welfare gave food but it was unhealthy and cheap. I remember it because he babysat our house for a week and invited women in for dinner, despite being told no guests. He ate an entire freezer rack of kosher steak plus everything not nailed down. He said steak wasn’t something he ate often so he cooked them. Left both broilers a greasy mess, too. Eventually he left an envelope with $100 in our mailbox with an apology.... probably because he was going to court on attempted murder charges and wanted to make things right.

Not all fat people are lazy; it’s a myth. I worked 100+ hours a week for years and was fat. I’d walk miles when I wanted. Many fat people aren’t active due to pain from their weight. I agree, however, many are lazy and just sit on the couch and eat Not all, though.

As for trying to escape reality... I admit I was fat most of my life. Now, I’m not. I’m trying to lose a little more if I can. I’ve always said I was fat, even to my readers and web visitors. I could come here and say I’m skinny but why? If you don’t like me because I’m fat, it’s your loss. Many, many fat folks are here and you’re fans. You have no clue about their reality. You kibitz with them, applaud their posts, yet in reality they disgust you.

I’m not offended when people pick on fat people, or rather I take it from whence it comes. That’s an old saying but I live by it ;)

Now I’ll go enjoy my sugar free popsicle:)

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Not funny. Even if you believe her condition is completely her fault, she's obviously in alot of pain, and her family has to be running out of patience. It's easy to blame her and others who enable her to over eat, but she's suffering, and suffering isn't funny.

I just had raw kale and fried fish for lunch semi blended and diluted with water so that I can chug it down...I blend it because its hard to chew fish every day and not want to puke and even with the blender I feel like puking but I squeeze some lemon juice in my mouth when I chug the horrid green concoction down and this kills the need to puke...for dinner I plan on eating raw cabbage and grilled fish also semi blended...when I burp it smells like fish and I want to puke...I get tiny amounts of oily seepage coming out of my ass, it is unprocessed fish oil because my diet is so fucking clean...it smells like fish and shit...

my cheat meal/snack is a small bag of peanuts...unsalted...I suffer as well...fuck that land whale, its not like she woke up fat one day...it took years of sloth to get to that asteroid shape...fucking hilarious that she can not climb on a bed :1orglaugh:1orglaugh:1orglaugh:1orglaugh

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I shame my own body daily, it helps me stay in shape.

I just watched it. She was on My 600-lb Life a while ago. She’s frustrated she can’t move, can’t be out of pain, and takes it out on everyone around her.

She eats massive quantities of food and her guy enables her by getting her fast food. She eats due to unhappiness.

I feel for her child who listens to mommy yell and berate daddy.

They eat more in one meal than I eat in a week. They can do 10,000 calories a meal. I do under 800 calories a day.

So fucking depressing damn

She's so hateful. Her voice is something horror movies are made from no joke

DVTimes / Bhala Sada / Mirror1 ?

I'm lucky I think. I eat burgers, steaks, fried food etc, and a coke or spirte once in a while.
I never seem to get fat (I'm 1.9 Meters / 81 Kilograms / 6'3" and 180lbs). But then again I also eat lots of veggies and fruit and eat smaller portions than most.

Some people though just can't lose weight no matter what.

Then again, I watched "My 600 lb life" a few times and what kills me is that these super-fat people are surrounded by other very fat people who just keep feeding them the worst possible foot. There was one guy eating fried chicken off of his chest while on the way to see a doctor. Incredible.

Fat bastard.

I am also naturally lean but I feel much better when I eat super clean...try eating super clean for a month and you will never go back to normal food...your body will adapt and "ask" for clean food by itself...

No fat pig bitches please.

Thank you.

Mandy ?....................

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just Trolling ?................. :winkwink:

"Shaming keeps you in shape". That's good.

Obese people die younger, the more obese the younger the stats show they are likely to die. They have a history of health problems.

Excess weight may increase the risk for many health problems, including

type 2 diabetes
high blood pressure
heart disease and strokes
certain types of cancer
sleep apnea
osteoarthritis
fatty liver disease
kidney disease
pregnancy problems, such as high blood sugar during pregnancy, high blood pressure, and increased risk for cesarean delivery (C-section)


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They all have enablers. Their partners give them food or else. Caretakers only as no sex, affection or nice conversation. They eat fast food continually in massive quantities. Twelve McNuggets, two Big Macs, three large fries, huge shake or sodas, fried pies and more. ONE meal! One guy ate two extra-cheese/sausage pizzas for a meal. That's enough saturated fat for two weeks in one meal.

I'd not want their toilet paper bills ;)

It's sad to see them lying in bed, unable to move, yet eating everything there is. Unable to work, disability or welfare I.e. our tax dollars pay for the food. It just isn't right to fund their gluttony when people are homeless and hungry and willing to work. They can lie in bed and play online; employ them doing computer research, typing stuff, etc. Stop giving everything and make people work if they can.

At my heaviest I didn't overeat often. Half a thin-crust pizza and I was done. How they eat one or two deep dish thick crust pizzas is astonishing.

One time only I went to an all-you-can-eat Chinese food buffet for lunch and pigged out. ¢5.95 for quality stuff like spare ribs, lobster, beef, etc I ate so much I was full all day and night and couldn't sleep. I swore never again and I never did. I'd eat there but limited myself.

I knew our country had a weight problem but didn't realize how many were so heavy.

I cried last week when watching the show after the young guy died. 800 lbs down to 400 lbs and trying so hard but his heart gave up. His fiancée was heavy, too, so hope she learned from it.