What Would You Do?
 

Ok once again I need a little advice and IMO GFY is the best place for that so here we go....


I have been going out with this guy for about 7 months, well the last two weeks I haven't seen him and have only talked to him on the phone like every other day and that was fine. So I text him on Saturday as I made a huge dish of lasagna the text read "I would like you 2 try something I have." Well his son picks his phone up and reads it. That I don't get do your kids read your text messages? Well then I talk to him on Sunday and he tells me this has to stop that he can't believe I texted him that and his son read it. I ask why is your son reading your text messages and he said cuz it was sitting on the sofa. I then ask him if I should delete his number and he said "Yea I think you should."


I hang up and delete the number from my phone, I'm kinda pissed off about the whole thing cuz is that something that would make you wanta break up with someone? I don't know whats going on but I'm a little pissed.


Would you let your kid read your texts? I think it's kinda fucked up myself.

As always... I would simply do a poo...

Sounds like he was already trying to leave you..

You should have said, "Well I was going to let you put it in my ass because I think we've reached that point in our relationship. But now I'll let someone else do it."

* click *

Yep it sounds like he already made his mind up to finish the relationship before the text was sent, that?s why he was not been in contact for two weeks. It seems as though the text message gave him an excuse to finish it. Maybe the son simply picked up the phone and read the SMS without the father knowing, I guess it depends on how old the son is.

He had a death in the family last Monday so all week he was dealing with that, the week before he took his son to the lake one last time before school started( phones don't work worth a shit there) Sunday 9/11 was his sons B-Day he's now 17 what a great age. The son doesn't like me cuz his mom died (sometime last November) and he wants his dad to be miserable.

Next year you can date his son when he turns 18.

Yeah yeah, I'm not helping anything here.

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Your text sounded totally innocuous, and he didn't tell you not to text. Hmmm...

Sorry TA, but if I had to guess, I would say that it sounds like Junior told Mommy (or the other GF), and Daddy is just trying to cover his ass by breaking things off, since he got caught.

EDIT: Didn't see your other post. Make him come crawling back, or move on in that case.

ADG

Those are all excuses. Might be true but excuses none-the-less. Dude just isn't into you. Freaking out about something that's completely innocent and sticking to your freak-out is within the first 3 chapters of "How To Not Seem Like The Bad-Guy" by men everywhere.

I've done that before. Girl I'm dating will do something totally stupid and I'll go on the moral offensive about how that's so wrong and terrible and I can't be any part of it. You feel like the jackass and he doesn't have to talk to you anymore.

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Don't make excuses for him. It's clear he wants the relationship to be over. I bet he's fucking someone else. You just don't stop seeing someone for two weeks. He could have found time for you. It's not like he lives hundreds of miles away?

communication helps. if not, he's good to go. :2 cents:

you got dumped. just cruise for some meth head on craigslist and move on.

It seems he's having some troubles and if your relationship is worth it, try to help him out. Either that or he was anyway planning to end the relationship. :2 cents:

I don't feel like I'm making excuses as there was a death and for some reason when anything happens the whole family turns to him for help.

I don't get why he's letting his son run his life as the man surly didn't mind fucking me for hours on end.

thanks for the insight into the female brain however. nice to know a man can still fuck off for a few weeks then pop in for a blowjob and lasagna one night.

The son is a spoiled lazy brat so that's not going to happen, but it was a good suggestion.


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He's not letting his son run his life. That was just his excuse to break up with you.

For real his son is running shit, his mom passed last November so he's into that whole but my mom is dead phase and I'm sure that sucks. He thinks I was tiring to take his dad a way and we all know that's not true but when you're 17 things come out like that.



He was married for 20 years before she passed.

Sounds like a lot of baggage anyways, why would you want to put up with it especially after this? If he wasn't trying to dump you which it really sounds like he was then the only other answer is that he's a sensitive prick and lets his almost grown up son rule his life.

Move on, would be my advice :2 cents:

Any excuse is good ...

So basicly 3-4 months after his mom died (they were married or what?) he got in date with you, i can somehow understand kind dont like all that right now, he dont want his dad to be miserable, he just need his full attention now, maybe...

It was the 2 in the text that did it.

Forget about kids reading texts, why was he so sensitive over what you said in the text? Were you trying to give off sexual innuendo or did you just mistakenly put "something I have" vs "something I cooked"?

They were married for 20 years and she fought for 4 years only to die of cancer.

The text said ....

I would like u 2 try something i have.

sounds like a bullshit excuse to get rid of you. people like that are cowards.

That's not the reason i would brake up...
not seein you for 2 weeks is what would worry me...
and that reason is just lame..he could came up with something better...

So be honest, were you trying to be a little flirty with sexual innuendo or was it totally just referring to the lasagna?

That's even worse.

TurbooAngel getting a TurboMan response. Move on :)

No, my kids don't read my text messages.

how could anyone could read your own text messages is beyond me. That son would get a slap if he read my messages. But it would not happen as that is absolutely impolite. I could not do that to anyone (read his/her texts)

100% not being flirty, have have sent worse but his son just started picking up his phone and looking about a month ago that's why I don't text that much. The last text I sent said "I need to c u at the shop asap." He read that and got all upset why I couldn't tell you.

oh girl, I'd move on. You don't need to waste your time with a guy who doesn't want any more of your lasagna! lol

I'm sure there are plenty of hungry men out there waiting for a taste. hehe :1orglaugh

his loss!

His number is gone so there's not going to be a prob with me calling or texting him that's for sure.

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Ok to be serious - you are 'rebound girl'. Or 'rebound girl 2'. Guy now feels guilty as it's too soon, and is using any excuse he can grab hold off to break up.

???

So what advice is it you're after then? Holy shit, no wonder the guy wanted a get-out, you've fried my brain in the space of 1 thread...

Here is the correct answer. Guy is on the rebound.

1. delete number
2. become prostitute
3. ???
4. profit

Well there's your problem. Seriously, I hope things work out for you, with this guy or the next. Probably the next guy, as it doesn't sound like this guy is actually fully available.

Didn't mean to fry you brain. I asked him if he wanted me to delete his number and he said yes so I hung up on him and deleted his number.

There is only one thing that comes to mind, He is just not that into you.
I mean you could have said hey what's up how was your day and he probably would have freaked. He doesn't sound very stable, who says this shit after 7 months.

Also text's are misunderstood sometimes in these situations. He should have called you.



Don't hate

He is the only one who sounds like he would give a real man's perspective

So his parents were married for 20 years, only a few months after his mom died his dad was knocking on your door. It seems pretty clear to me why the kid doesn't like you.

just move on...

the second you act like you need to depend on someone else, or that you are not good enough to "get laid with someone else", then you are fucked...

move on, there are millions of single people out there.

Married for 20 years? The guy has to be 40+ or at least close. It's funny how grown-ass adults can still act like children sometimes.

Fuck 'em. (not literally)

Indeed. I mean, this cunt was married 20 years, saw his wife battle cancer for 4 years, lose, die, and a massive 10 months later he is behaving totally irrationally. Makes the mind boggle doesn't it.

He was looking for a way to break up with you. Don't call, don't text him. On to the next.

" "I would like you 2 try something I have." " This was the entire statement???

WTF is wrong with that.

Sounds to me like him and his son watch to much porn.

Forget him and move on.