Any advice on a video chat room setup?
 

I have a video chat room on my site and just use Red5 as my flash server and the chat room is kicking random members for no reason and its starting to even kick the moderators for no reason.
I cant fix it and the software company cant either, and members are getting more and more pissed. My server is humming along fine and I have plenty of bandwidth so its not that.

I want to get a chat room software and flash server that is solid and doesnt kick members.
Any recommendations?

Probably late, but check my sig anyway. we are working with video chat software and red5 for few years and have turnkey, well tested on live servers software solution WebVideo

http://www.online-webcam.net/

also we support support h264 HD video which become available with latest red5. Already tested it on the live server and it works pretty well and stable.

What script are you using? Are you sure there are no script limitations or hosting limitations as to the number of simultaneous connections going on in chat?