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fatal attraction 07-03-2009 12:53 AM

Am I a over protective mom?
 
My 13 year old son has friends spend the night almost every night since it's summer, usually 4 or 5 friends every night. I'd rather have a house full of kids then not know what my son is up to. BUT tonight, he called me and asked me if "Jessie" could spend the night. I asked who that was, and it was a GIRL!!!! I told him no, and he was furious! Am I just being over protective? I don't think so....... He said they where just friends, but I still don't think that's ok at this age? Am I wrong?

PSSuperstars 07-03-2009 12:58 AM

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Originally Posted by fatal attraction (Post 16026125)
My 13 year old son has friends spend the night almost every night since it's summer, usually 4 or 5 friends every night. I'd rather have a house full of kids then not know what my son is up to. BUT tonight, he called me and asked me if "Jessie" could spend the night. I asked who that was, and it was a GIRL!!!! I told him no, and he was furious! Am I just being over protective? I don't think so....... He said they where just friends, but I still don't think that's ok at this age? Am I wrong?

Unless Jessie is obviously dykish...

I think you made a good choice :)

niche25 07-03-2009 12:58 AM

Good luck. Would be a no from me but everyone's different. Family advice on GFY is fun. LOL

k0nr4d 07-03-2009 01:03 AM

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Originally Posted by fatal attraction (Post 16026125)
My 13 year old son has friends spend the night almost every night since it's summer, usually 4 or 5 friends every night. I'd rather have a house full of kids then not know what my son is up to. BUT tonight, he called me and asked me if "Jessie" could spend the night. I asked who that was, and it was a GIRL!!!! I told him no, and he was furious! Am I just being over protective? I don't think so....... He said they where just friends, but I still don't think that's ok at this age? Am I wrong?

That's very hyprocritical of you. You work in the adult industry but forbid your son to have sex? Fuck that noise. You should buy the boys a big pack of condoms and tell them to enjoy their gangbang.

SleazyDream 07-03-2009 01:03 AM

make sure you make them breakfast and slip an afterpill into her corn flakes

onlymovies 07-03-2009 01:13 AM

Would be a no from me at that age.

Though I remember the first time my parents allowed a girl to stay the night. The girl slept in my room, while i was on the sofa (at the other end of the house ofcourse) and my parents were right smack dab in the middle.

I remember using the bathroom at some late hour and came out to find my mom standing there....scared the shit out of me. "Just making sure you hang a right" she said to me...(left goes my room, right goes to the sofa)

Then i remember waking up some hours later, half asleep, no idea what time it was and hearing my moms voice faintly say "Just making sure you're hanging a left"

...hahahahaha...i was pissed... but it did put a smile on my face. God bless her...

k0nr4d 07-03-2009 01:50 AM

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Originally Posted by onlymovies (Post 16026150)
Would be a no from me at that age.

Though I remember the first time my parents allowed a girl to stay the night. The girl slept in my room, while i was on the sofa (at the other end of the house ofcourse) and my parents were right smack dab in the middle.

I remember using the bathroom at some late hour and came out to find my mom standing there....scared the shit out of me. "Just making sure you hang a right" she said to me...(left goes my room, right goes to the sofa)

Then i remember waking up some hours later, half asleep, no idea what time it was and hearing my moms voice faintly say "Just making sure you're hanging a left"

...hahahahaha...i was pissed... but it did put a smile on my face. God bless her...

My parents were totally opposite...I brought home 2 girls once, and in the morning my mom and dad had smiles on their faces ear to ear

fatal attraction 07-03-2009 02:00 AM

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Originally Posted by PSSuperstars (Post 16026131)
Unless Jessie is obviously dykish...

I think you made a good choice :)

When I called his dad to tell him about it, he started laughing and said, Jessie was his girlfriend not long ago! LOL I try to respect my son, but he's still my baby! lol He's only 13! I asked what the girl's mom thought, and he said she didn't care.....another problem! :( I finally got all kids asleep......so I'm off to sleep too! I just wanted to see what others thought of this too!

Jon Oso 07-03-2009 02:08 AM

Even as an adult if I brought home a girl I would be sleeping on the floor or the couch, even if we were married.

My parents are NOT cool with that kinda shit at all. I could very rarely have guy friends stay over.

Even so though there's no way I would let my kid have a friend of the opposite sex spend the night - it's just going to create a huge problem where you have these massive preteen orgies going on in your house because none of the other parents let them have coed slumber parties and you're the "cool mom"


Though if you do, the cornflakes idea would come in handy.

Pornopat 07-03-2009 02:08 AM

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Originally Posted by fatal attraction (Post 16026220)
When I called his dad to tell him about it, he started laughing and said, Jessie was his girlfriend not long ago! LOL I try to respect my son, but he's still my baby! lol He's only 13! I asked what the girl's mom thought, and he said she didn't care.....another problem! :( I finally got all kids asleep......so I'm off to sleep too! I just wanted to see what others thought of this too!

You may want to verify that with her. Parents are usualyy even more protective when it comes to girls. Especially dads do not like the idea of their young daughter sleeping woth a guy.
So get on the phone and call the girls daddy and the situation might be solved without you getting the blaim. Lets call it tactics.
:)

mikesinner 07-03-2009 02:09 AM

At 13 he is old enough to have female friends and even date but only with supervision. I think not allowing him to have her sleepover is mean unless you're not going to be there. He's only a year or two away from normal dating age.

interdan 07-03-2009 02:24 AM

I would say no.. after all we were all 13 once and no what its like. Some of us still think we are :1orglaugh

Zuzana Designs 07-03-2009 04:52 AM

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Originally Posted by k0nr4d (Post 16026201)
My parents were totally opposite...I brought home 2 girls once, and in the morning my mom and dad had smiles on their faces ear to ear

You're a pimp. Did you bang them? :winkwink:

bizarrejan 07-03-2009 05:08 AM

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Originally Posted by fatal attraction (Post 16026220)
When I called his dad to tell him about it, he started laughing and said, Jessie was his girlfriend not long ago! LOL I try to respect my son, but he's still my baby! lol He's only 13! I asked what the girl's mom thought, and he said she didn't care.....another problem! :( I finally got all kids asleep......so I'm off to sleep too! I just wanted to see what others thought of this too!


Sleep well, you made the right choice in my opinion :thumbsup

rip raster 07-03-2009 05:25 AM

Well I know what I was like at 13 and based on that I can assure you that you made the right decision for sure. I just found out last week that my 13 year old sister has a boyfriend and I am still kinda in shock. I know that 13 is about the time when they start getting interested in the opposite sex and all but I still see her as a little 4 year old kid, I guess it just hard to believe that she is growing up so fast, and the fact that I am getting older just as fast :helpme

Don't sweat it though your son may be mad at you now for a time but in the long run he will thank you for it, especially when he is 23 and doesn't have a 10 year old kid :winkwink:

BlackCrayon 07-03-2009 05:27 AM

kids are such sluts these days.

frankie_gunn 07-03-2009 05:32 AM

Let him fuck. (or he'll remember you)

:)

tranza 07-03-2009 05:37 AM

I would do the same :)

MaDalton 07-03-2009 05:58 AM

if you don't allow it at home they do it in the woods

candyflip 07-03-2009 06:17 AM

I went camping with my girlfriend and her family when I was 13. She was a little perv too, and we spent most sneaking off to fool around every chance we could get. By the end of the week, we'd both lost our virginity. You might have made a good call. :winkwink:

Johny Traffic 07-03-2009 06:28 AM

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Originally Posted by fatal attraction (Post 16026125)
My 13 year old son has friends spend the night almost every night since it's summer, usually 4 or 5 friends every night. I'd rather have a house full of kids then not know what my son is up to. BUT tonight, he called me and asked me if "Jessie" could spend the night. I asked who that was, and it was a GIRL!!!! I told him no, and he was furious! Am I just being over protective? I don't think so....... He said they where just friends, but I still don't think that's ok at this age? Am I wrong?

No, that would be classed as good parenting, what would be classed as bad parenting would be asking advice on how best to bring up your children, on a forum that has some of the biggest retards, weirdo's, freaks and out and out nut jobs that have ever managed to be collected all in one place. Of which 99% have a mental age of your 13 year old :2 cents:

Libertine 07-03-2009 06:36 AM

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Originally Posted by fatal attraction (Post 16026125)
My 13 year old son has friends spend the night almost every night since it's summer, usually 4 or 5 friends every night. I'd rather have a house full of kids then not know what my son is up to. BUT tonight, he called me and asked me if "Jessie" could spend the night. I asked who that was, and it was a GIRL!!!! I told him no, and he was furious! Am I just being over protective? I don't think so....... He said they where just friends, but I still don't think that's ok at this age? Am I wrong?

It seems a bit... pointless. You could just have let her spend the night, and have them sleep in separate rooms.

At that age, if they're gonna have sex with each other, they'll do it regardless of an opportunity like this one. Being around to make sure things don't get out of hand is always a good thing. And meeting your son's girlfriend and having a chat with her helps, too.

More important, though, is having "the uncomfortable talk" - the one in which you don't just explain to your son the dangers of unsafe sex, but also the reasons why it's important to take things slowly and wait until he's a bit older.

nation-x 07-03-2009 06:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Libertine (Post 16026639)
It seems a bit... pointless. You could just have let her spend the night, and have them sleep in separate rooms.

At that age, if they're gonna have sex with each other, they'll do it regardless of an opportunity like this one. Being around to make sure things don't get out of hand is always a good thing. And meeting your son's girlfriend and having a chat with her helps, too.

More important, though, is having "the uncomfortable talk" - the one in which you don't just explain to your son the dangers of unsafe sex, but also the reasons why it's important to take things slowly and wait until he's a bit older.

Do you have kids?

oceania 07-03-2009 07:50 AM

its hard i get that same question from my daughter - my answer is no.do you say stuff like My house my rules - gawd i hate feeling old

seeandsee 07-03-2009 07:57 AM

maybe you should let him

bluemoney 07-03-2009 08:22 AM

I think you made the right choice. When he's much older he will look back and understand why you made that call. He will also have a new found respect for you.

Just a humble opinion from a father of two sons 21 & 23

Libertine 07-03-2009 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by nation-x (Post 16026650)
Do you have kids?

Nope.

And the reason for that is that when I was a teen, my mother made sure I was fully aware that sex was something I needed to approach in a responsible manner.

Tom_PM 07-03-2009 08:35 AM

If you give them permission, they'll never learn stealthiness and sneaking out skills.

:helpme:winkwink:

pornguy 07-03-2009 08:40 AM

When I was 13 I went to spend the night at a friends house. It was a guy and there was going to be a few of us.. My dad said he would dive me over. ON the way, he told me that he would rather have me spend the night with girls, than boys..

Now that I am a father, I think that I agree with him.

I would rather have my son touching a girl than a boy so... I guess the big thing is education. Teach him and you wont have any problems.

CaptainHowdy 07-03-2009 08:55 AM

Where is the silent paternal "NO"??

BlackCrayon 07-03-2009 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by pornguy (Post 16027017)
When I was 13 I went to spend the night at a friends house. It was a guy and there was going to be a few of us.. My dad said he would dive me over. ON the way, he told me that he would rather have me spend the night with girls, than boys..

Now that I am a father, I think that I agree with him.

I would rather have my son touching a girl than a boy so... I guess the big thing is education. Teach him and you wont have any problems.

sounds like your dad was worried you were gay or something? weird. parents encouraging kids to have sex at 13 is pretty fucked.

Deej 07-03-2009 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by pornguy (Post 16027017)
When I was 13 I went to spend the night at a friends house. It was a guy and there was going to be a few of us.. My dad said he would dive me over. ON the way, he told me that he would rather have me spend the night with girls, than boys..

Now that I am a father, I think that I agree with him.

I would rather have my son touching a girl than a boy so... I guess the big thing is education. Teach him and you wont have any problems.

What the fuck kind of dudes were you hanging out with?

Or better yet... what kinda slumber parties did your dad have.. jesus christ thats odd for him to say...

StaceyJo 07-03-2009 09:39 AM

I would say NO also, not appropriate at his age to bring a GIRL at my house.

Deesnuts 07-03-2009 09:41 AM

it depends on what kind of kids they are

LadyMischief 07-03-2009 09:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Libertine (Post 16026639)
It seems a bit... pointless. You could just have let her spend the night, and have them sleep in separate rooms.

At that age, if they're gonna have sex with each other, they'll do it regardless of an opportunity like this one. Being around to make sure things don't get out of hand is always a good thing. And meeting your son's girlfriend and having a chat with her helps, too.

More important, though, is having "the uncomfortable talk" - the one in which you don't just explain to your son the dangers of unsafe sex, but also the reasons why it's important to take things slowly and wait until he's a bit older.

Sometimes opening a dialogue is the best way to stop kids from doing the crazy stuff. If you turn it into a taboo, you're right, they'll run out and find ways to do it anyways. Best to discuss things in a mature and open manner, kids learn too much. The stuff I've heard from my children that has been discussed on the elementary schoolyard is enough to scandalize most adults. Better to nip it in the bud with honest conversation than to let it take root and spread like a bad weed.

Libertine 07-03-2009 10:13 AM

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Originally Posted by LadyMischief (Post 16027288)
Sometimes opening a dialogue is the best way to stop kids from doing the crazy stuff. If you turn it into a taboo, you're right, they'll run out and find ways to do it anyways. Best to discuss things in a mature and open manner, kids learn too much. The stuff I've heard from my children that has been discussed on the elementary schoolyard is enough to scandalize most adults. Better to nip it in the bud with honest conversation than to let it take root and spread like a bad weed.

Exactly.

Teens are curious about this sort of thing, and will learn about it one way or another. If you talk with them, at least they'll be able to make an informed decision, and set boundaries.

Something I'll never forget: when I was a teen, there was a girl in my group of friends who was raised by a very religious family. At one point, she got a boyfriend, and they had sex after a while. Since the experience sucked, she came to her friends for advice. Our first question: "did you use a condom?" Her answer: "... ... what?"

MetaMan 07-03-2009 10:17 AM

May as well lie to your kids about the real world so that when they grow up they see that you lied to them, hate you for it and end up doing everything to an extreme to make up for lost time.

then you can sit back and tell yourself "how good of a mother i am" "i would do anything for my kids" "i dont know where they went wrong" as little johnny is out smoking crack getting a girl pregnant at 17 and you have no idea why.

but no dont let a girl stay over it's pure evil.

MetaMan 07-03-2009 10:20 AM

alot of you people are the biggest idiots i have ever come in contact with. you will be the first types to talk about how religious nuts are but then you are the typical closet hover parent.

BlackCrayon 07-03-2009 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by MetaMan (Post 16027403)
alot of you people are the biggest idiots i have ever come in contact with. you will be the first types to talk about how religious nuts are but then you are the typical closet hover parent.

What do reglious nuts have to do with not wanting your kid to have a kid while he is still a kid? You can teach them all the shit in the world but when it comes down to it, if they are that young, they won't use protection because they will be too embarassed to get it/ask for it. Would you give your 13 year old condoms?

Spunky 07-03-2009 10:39 AM

I would have probably done the same


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