fuck, tried to kiss a girl and i got turned down
 

boy did i fuck up. right now im on the second day of a 7 day cruise with family. my dad invited the daughter of one of his friends on the cruise because he wanted to try to set us up. right from the start we started getting along, since i got in around noon, we wouk together, she would look at me a lot, touch me, etc. then after dinner last night she wanted to have a cigarette, so we went out on the deck.

she was smoking, we were kind of huddled behind a locker to protect from the wind, her face was like a foot away from mind, and all of the sudden, i dont know why, but i just moved my head closer to try to kiss her, and she turned her head so i just got her cheek.

after that it was all different, we walked back to where everyone else was and the vibe was weird. they were at a show, then she said she didnt feel like watching it and wanted to go get coffee, and suggested that if i wanted to continue to see the show i should stay. so i asked, so you want me to stay, and she kind of nodded and got up to leave

now im stuck for the next 6 days and im afraid its going to be weird. it was going great before and now i think im fucked. man, i wish i would have taken more time.

so at this point is it a lost cause? should i apoligize or dont say anything? anything i can salvage here?

The only thing you can do now is the thing you should have done in the first place. Pay her no attention what so ever. Just have a good time, talk to other women and relax.

Get naked and hop in her bed tonight.

great fucking advice, if nothing else, that post made me feel better

What if it was your breath? lol Jk Girls are goofy who knows.

You have to literally hop. She will totally be turned on by your wang flopping around. Hell, pretend you are a bunny, it IS easter after all.

Not sure what to tell you! Its a hard one!!!
If you had a good vibes at first place maybe she did too!
Maybe you just push it too fast with this kissing stuff!
My advice is to relax, cause you already made a first step!
Be patient and see what she will do next!

forget about her and have fun.

If its meant to be she will be back :)

She was smoking.. Maybe she had a mouth full of smoke?

Nobody does this but me.. I ask the girl "Wtf?" when they do things that make me go "Wtf?"

Especially if i'm forced to spend time with her in a confined space..

Girls are also really bad with mis-leading guys..

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You read wrong. It's no big deal.

Own up to your mistake (to yourself) and forget about it. The more you act as if you are embarrassed that she rejected you, the more weird things will get.

And what was up with you asking her if she wanted you to stay? At that moment you should have got up, played it off and had a nice cup of coffee. That would have cleared the air or at least given you more of an idea about her intentions. Maybe she wanted to find out where the rest of the family was so that you and her could definitely have some uninterrupted time together.

Have fun. You're on a cruise!

Besides, she is one girl out of how many? If you can't handle it, move on kid...Move on. You aren't trying to win a wife here.

And please don't get all serious on her trying to talk about it either. You'll definitely scare her away then.

That's horrible...

there is only one thing you can do. jump.

don't think, just do it.

I feel bad for you guys that have small dicks when it comes to situations like this, you had a massive dick this thread would have never been started, you will be stuffing it in her tight snatch. You should just get a sex operation man, at least then you won't have to worry about it, you'll just have a pussy and go on the hunt for guys like yourself to fuck in the ass.

What he said!

Congrats to the winners

tell her you fap over her at night..

He's right, there are plenty of fish in the sea :thumbsup

Sounds like she wasn't attracted to you quite yet while you were feeling attracted to her. No big deal just bad calibration.

Never ever make excuses or apologies for your desires as a man. Ignore her, but don't be rude about it. Just act like you lost interest. Act like nothing happened at all and start chatting up some other women. Once she sees other girls having fun hanging out with you, she will get more interested.

from now on you need to forget about her and pretend she is someone's grandma that happens to be in the same group as you... in other words do your own thing and don't even let her cross your mind, at least she didn't lead you on like some girls do for attention when they are not really interested, so she was cool in that she was clear about it...... forget about her


pic not really related, but good for the topic anyway :1orglaugh

http://i41.tinypic.com/11v36o6.jpg

To give you a straight answer I will need to know what you look like and what she looks like... ;)

:):upsidedow:(

your advice started out good, but the last sentence is dumb and just puts stupid thoughts in his head..... you need to forget about her and it is likely she will never be interested, but that doesn't even matter because you don't ever want her anyways anymore after she has rejected you, unless you want to be a pussy and keep hoping she "changes her mind" :1orglaugh

Go pickup someone else on the cruise.
WG

Do you feel like a reject?

Apologize, say you thought SHE wanted you to kiss her and you were just being nice. Tell her you dont find her attractive. Thats your best bet. Trust me.

naw, i feel like i had a great thing going and could have had a great time with her the whole time just hanging out, and the kiss attempt was a stupid move, way too early and made things uncomfortable and weird, just have to deal with us and maybe salvage omething out of it, not a big deal in the scheme of things, but right now, and last night i was hitting myself for rushing it

the cruise is filled with old people, kids, and married couples, i just got out of dinner early to check this thread, i wasnt going to post it, but glad i did

some great responses, dnull, nubiles, at least i feel a little better, well see what happens, but not keeping hopes up

show us your photo

get a picture of her cunt

That's good advice...IF he was the type of guy that wouldn't have gotten himself in this situation in the first place.

From what the OP has said so far, he would mess up that sort of "play" - especially if she is keen enough to call him on his newfound sense of "bravado".

LOL. What? Apologize for misreading signals and trying to start a relationship? No way. Just move on... it's nothing to feel bad or sorry about, it happened, big deal. In two weeks you will have forgotten it even happened.

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I don't really know you Sly but you always seemed decent, especially when pushing Phatservers, a great fucking host. :)

actually, if there was going to be something there, you weren't way too early, in fact it looks like you saved yourself some time and heartache by going for it and finding out she wasn't into it right off the bat..... women generally know if they are going to sleep with a guy very soon after they meet them, the longer you go generally if there was a chance the chances go down the longer you wait, so you did the right thing, she wasn't into it, she did the right thing in letting you know right away, you both were cool, move on and forget about her, you want a new girl that is receptive to you from the start, it is never cool to think you need to convince a girl to like you..... and don't get into the worrying about being friends thing, nothing wrong with being civil, but there are lots of friends out there so with one like this where you wanted more from the start you'd just be fooling yourself with the "friends" thing and hoping for more... don't get into that game. like I said, treat her like she is someone's grandma, where you would be civil and nice to her but not looking to hang out or anything :2 cents:

I may be wrong, but what I believe CB advised involved injecting a bit of humor into the situation.

'Apologizing' and playing it off as if she was trying to kiss him would have led her to believe that there were no hurt feelings or self-consciousness issues. AND would have shown her that the OP was confident enough to take rejection. Which, by the very existence of this thread, isn't true.

Next time try asking her if she wouldn't mind trying some anal... works every time!

Are you seriously paying for slow cruise ship internet to post this lame shit on gfy? I liked it better when I thought it was a joke.

Oh, it's def gna be weird. LOL!

You should have whipped it out and say can you handle this before you attempt a kiss

But there is self-conscious issues! If there wasn't, this thread would not exist. I'm sure someone can pull off "I'm sorry, it's two days later after the fact and I finally figured out how to respond to the situation but I thought you wanted me to kiss you"... but I really don't think it is this thread starter.

I'm no Casanova by any means but here's what I'd say happened and what you should do. However much it may have seemed like things are going well, it can be hard to separate friendliness and flirtatiousness, and you were on night 1 of a 7 day cruise - I think you went for it too early is all - early enough to the point where you probably didn't have enough to go off of to determine if she was interested or not, and she may have not had enough interaction with you to BE interested. Not every chick will get cockhungry for a guy on night 1 of knowing them.

That said, all you can do is say "oh well" and move on. From the point of "and suggested that if i wanted to continue to see the show i should stay" you should have assumed that she was telling you to back off at least for the night and not have outright asked what you did...given there's plenty of time left you MAY have had a chance but when you force her to come outright with the rejection (her nod answer to your question), you can't pull a Costanza and pretend the next day like everything's fine and nothing happened, and no one takes cruises for drama so it's not like you can expect to talk things out with her and have a chance.

And to quote a good movie line from Training Day, "the shit's chess, it ain't checkers"...looking for love at least. A one-time hop in the sack might be checkers to some guys. I think you may have had a chance with her with more time spent but went in for the early attack and lost your queen - game over.

I half agree with you. IF he had not forced her to confirm the rejection, even with self-conscious issues he could try that, but I don't think even well-confident guys could pull it off after forcing her to confirm the rejection...he buried himself with that.